How do you prefer to meet?

THANK you! Back when I was a lifestyle newbie, it was my expectation that a first meeting would follow the typical cautionary procedures governing online dating. A neutral public place is selected, and the "etiquette" would automatically exclude any sexual intimacy on the day. It's almost like treating it like a job interview where both parties are on their best behavior, and if all goes well, "see you first thing Monday morning. Thanks so much for coming in!" Hahaha!
But, yeah, it didn't happen that way for me with that first lifestyle couple. Nope. Straight over to their condo. Dork that I was, I actually brought flowers!

We tend to chat some online before meeting in person. We prefer to meet for coffee or a meal with the understanding that we are not playing that day/night. It helps to see if there is enough physical attraction and personality chemistry from both couples. It also eliminates the people that use heavily modified photos or pictures from a decade ago.

House parties are lots of fun. But my most enjoyable and memorable introductions, after exchanging messages online, occurred in the couples' homes. As a matter of fact, my introduction to the heart of the lifestyle, and my very first sexual experience with a happily-married wife was the result of my accepting the invitation of a couple from off this very site. We shared great online chemistry, and one day, they surprised me by suggesting we meet, not at a hotel, or some safely neutral coffee shop or restaurant, but at their condo. We hit it off instantly, and we've been friends for over 15 years now.

House parties!

We meet primarily at our M&G parties or at our favorite swinger’s club. I (Mrs) occasionally go out on solo dates with guys I have met before at one of those preferred venues.

For us it has been this order: hotel take over parties, clubs on a popular theme night, then house parties. The more people attending, the more likely we'll find a nice match. We've been burned too many times meeting couples or singles outside of events as they haven't matched their profiles. But hotels and clubs have been awesome :)

Charging those fees are almost considered pandering prostitution,

It makes a huge difference if you typically meet/play with say, 3-4 couples a year vs 3-4 couples a month. If you go the dinner/drinks route and you're closer to the 4/month, that can get pretty expensive. Many people say, "quality over quantity", but our cut is why not do both, if you can.

Our preference is for a good house or hotel room party. We've had awesome times at both, and as mentioned numerous times, even if meeting a specific couple at either, if it doesn't work out, you have a room or houseful or other people to meet and potentially click with.

A house or hotel room party by us will be between $40-$50/cpl, have some food, and rooms to play in. Most allow SMs, which is our preference. The dinner/drink route can be $100, then half the cost of a hotel room if you're meeting in the middle somewhere.

We don't really have clubs per se in NH. I am seeing hotel take-overs where you have to be a member to attend, read, membership fee on top of the room costs plus admission fee. These can easily run into a $400-$500 weekend. Again, if you're doing 2-3 a year, not a big deal, but 1 a month plus dinner/drink meetings can get substantial.

When doing 2 on 2 meetings, our preference is to have people to our house. We can talk freely, and if things move towards play time, all we need do is go upstairs.

We both like the hotel or house parties, the energy in the room is fun and we both like feeling uncomfortable in weird situations like that and not knowing anyone (typically) at the party can make it more fun for us.

No clubs or house parties here so we rely on meeting at a bar or restaurant for a couple drinks and maybe dinner

From my own experience with couples, normally I meet them for lunch or dinner and get to know both of them. Since many couples here want lasting relationships and not one nightstands, which makes sense.

As a rule if we connect with a person or couple we will try to meet for dinner or at least at a bar for some drinks. There is a nice place close to us and if all agree it is only 10 mins to our place. We also have gone straight to someone's home if we feel comfortable with where they live and also how any chatting has progressed. Really have not had a bad experience that way either.

We've met couples at clubs and hose parties as well as couple to couple meetings at a vanilla bar/restaurant. We've had fairly good success with couple-to-couple meetings. Sometimes we've played on the first date. Other times we went in knowing it was just going to be a social 1st meeting & set up a playdate for another time if everyone was interested.

We like house parties and hotel parties, where we know the hosting couple, but there's lots of new-to-us people to meet.

We like going to clubs when we go to Vegas and have had some incredible naughty experiences doing that.

Couple to couple meets with new people sometimes works out but often doesn't.

Hotel parties, like any other type, can be hit or miss. Increase your odds of success by knowing some of the other couple attending, or at the very least spend some time txting and video chatting before the party.

Hot, that makes a lot of sense. We haven’t been able to experience a hotel party yet, but will be sure to keep an eye open for the opportunity! Thanks!

We like it all. Our preference depends upon our mood.

A hotel party in a suite, with several couples, and lots of singles is a scenario where we are most likely to have the most fun. There will be some chatting, a lot of fucking, and we can stumble back to our own room at the end of the night with an almost guaranteed hot session early in the morning as we talk about all the naughty things we did. .

A good house party is second best, but mostly when we want to socialize and catch up with friends.

Clubs are great when we want the higher energy atmosphere. We both love to dance.

A 2+2 with another couple can be amazing, but has the lowest success rate. There’s more pressure to perform. There’s greater chance of awkward moments, especially if you haven’t played together previously.

Do you prefer clubs, house parties, or direct meetings with other couples, and why?
We prefer house parties because of the (usually) more relaxed atmosphere.