Friends first before Play

For us, the possibility for scheduling a second play date would depend on the reason the first playtime went bad and how bad it was. Initial encounters can be awkward since each couple is still feeling out the other couple’s likes and dislikes. The bad outcome might be due to things like poor communication or performance anxiety. If the problem seemed fixable, we would consider a second playdate. But we would nicely let them know what our concerns were to hopefully avoid a repeat.

Sorry not happening on second play date and YES we have had this happen.. we are BOTH here for good to great fun sex.. we have dozens of vanilla friends and we have no problem telling people that!

Swinging is diverse. It has its many nuances, participants of different back grounds, fetishes and more. How we go about meeting and playing is based on our own comfortability and desires. Saying that brings me to this question and primarily it is for those who require “friendship” prior to play.

Now a “friendship” can be categorized in many different ways, so just framing this question may lead to a plethora of rationales. Even though that may be, I’m curious to hear the responses.

Scenario:

John and Tammy require that they are friends first before they play. Don and Jill catch their eye, and they hit it off. They hang out together building this bond, this friendship.

However, when it comes time for play, both John and Tammy are dissatisfied with the outcome. Don and Jill, however are ecstatic and can’t wait for another play date.

If you are John and Tammy, what do you do after a bad play date with your friends?