Bi play required (WTF)

Esperanza911, We have had many couples who have approached us to play, and when they find out that Di isn't Bi, usually the man will try and talk her into bi play with his wife, even if it is just a kiss. And when she says no, they leave. Di replied back to one man, that if he sucked my dick then she would lick his wife's pussy. He replied that wasn't going to happen! You mentioned to seek only straight couples , we do, for us it's a much more effective way to get together with people. Straight couples looking for straight couples. It's surprising how many couples with a Bi female check out our profile sending flirts and likes. After many years of couples requiring Bi play, seldom do we even answer them back or even look at the profile. Yes we may miss out meeting a lot of people, but they are missing out on meeting us. Perhaps the men simply don't have the confidence to start things (play).

Esperanza911, We don't think We have a skewed view of sexuality, we like what we like, you have your likes and we have ours. And I stand behind our original post. Bi play is required from many couples to start things. It may only be a little kiss or lick, but it is required. And we do think that many men have talked their wives into engaging women into 'Bi' play because some couples don't know how to get things started.

Oh TV and everyone, stop being so reasonable. She just wants to argue with herself.

Picture this.... Everyone makes their own rules and preferences and labels it as they see fit... And then when you communicate, you speak on these things... Then determine if you are compatible, and go from there.

I don't care if they have the perfect WORDS on their page and description... If you're not that same person in text, talk and action, then who the fuck cares what you wrote on your profile. I mean some nights I want to have sex all night, some nights I want some head and some sleep. Does that mean on the off nights, that I don't like sex??

Hell, maybe they were bi and just didn't like you.. Maybe you made them not bi that night lol. I've met plenty women who will slurp the last drop out of a vagina and won't touch another for 6 months. I wouldn't label them as straight. I wouldn't label them as anything because it isn't my damn business

Our 2 cents: While Diane is open to some FF play, she's more Bi-situational depending on the chemistry with the other lady & if anything happens it's just a side dish to the main course of full swap. We don't automatically reject a couple with a Bi/Bi-curious male as long as it's understood that Tom isn't interested in any MM contact other than a handshake.

Skewed in the way that it doesn't meet with theirs. SLS needs to get with the times and add some new choices in the sexual preference field...

Straight … Bi-Curious … Bi … Esperanza911

Skewed in what way?

We have had play time with couples and singles that were bi and just had good discussion beforehand and everyone had a great time. I haven’t seen a problem at all.

You couldn’t say it any better Mayhem8

It's not just a guy thing. I don't always play with women even if they're there and we like each other. I also don't have a problem with FMF threesomes where the other woman is straight. Few people would think that was weird, but there's this supposition that bi men only want bi play.

Exactly mayhem

The other night we played with a bi couple we know but there was zero same sex contact. No one was in the mood for that the other night I guess.

"...my husband is straight, therefore, we never go for any profiles where the man is bisexual."

We have a number of couples we know, like, and play with that have a Bi male that know I'm straight and are OK with that. Most (if not all) of the Bi males we know can take or leave the Bi play. You are of course welcome to limit yourselves any way you see fit, but by doing so you could be missing out on some really nice people.

Esperanza911I am beginning to understand your problem. Bisexual means you like to have sex with both men and women. That however does not mean both at the same time or both all the time but you like both depending on whatever you feel like. For most people it is a situational or being attracted thing. In one case it just may be a full swap encounter, in another just the girls or boys play, and then you can also have basically an interactive pile. Of course there is always any combination of the above based on personal tastes and preferences of everyone involved (say straight men and bi women or even vice versa although that combination is a bit more rare). Is it that hard to understand not everyone takes such a hard stance on "it has to be this or nothing" as you do? You keep claiming people do not understand their sexuality and I propose the opposite that you do not understand theirs. I also say you are trying to impose your values onto others and the lifestyle just does not work that way. As has been said to find what you want communication up front is key and honestly as limiting as your parameters are it stands to reason you will not have as much luck at finding what you are looking for as someone who is more fluid and flexible.

That's quite the nerd cap. I like it.

Confession: I've seen about 49 minutes of the prequels, because I noped out hard on the first two and didn't bother with the third. Also, I kept a VCR around for years just so I could watch the first trilogy pre-really stupid edits when I wanted to.

Werd.

dons nerd cap

I keep wondering if Lucas made it a condition of the franchise's sale that Disney couldn't release digitally remastered bluray editions of the theatrical cut. Because if they were smart, that would have been the FIRST thing that Big Rat would have done. That's up there into "shut up and take my money" territory. SciFi and nerd types have been SCREAMING for a proper bluray version of the theatrical cut for years, rather than those stupid Lucas fucktard cuts with all the inserted poop jokes and everything-but-the-kitchen-sink effects shots.

Which incidentally is a bit of a joke that the effects crew threw into Revenge of the Sith. Lucas insisted on so much shit on-screen that they inserted a couple of kitchen sinks into the debris field in the space battle that starts the film.

takes off nerd cap and stores next to tin foil cap collection

"pulls out weenie, shoots first"

You have a better reason than Lucas to retcon that one.

Just sayin'.

in my best Han Solo voice

I dunno Kira, I can fantasize quite a bit. ;)

pulls out weenie, shoots first

;) A man who can make me laugh deserves to perv all he wants! (Unfortunately, Sorillo, you’ll have to use your fantasy skills for those times!!) ;)

~Kira

"I explored bi play and realized it’s just not my thing, but I never would have known this had I not explored it.

~Kira"

This post is worthless without pics. drools ;)

" I never would have known this had I not explored it"

That's exactly right, and how else could it be?
Honestly, I could never know about attraction without meeting someone and getting into the warmup phase. Male or female.

@Esperanza: I absolutely agree that communication is key to seek what style of play you’d like (and not like) beforehand, but I do not agree that all bi women always seek FF play in an encounter. We’ve played with couples with bi women that were absolutely ok with me being straight, and we all had a great time. It’s simply understood what type of play was on or off the table (or bed, or counter...). ;)

I also believe that this LS is a great way to explore your sexuality, and many women are doing just that. I explored bi play and realized it’s just not my thing, but I never would have known this had I not explored it.

~Kira

We have run into that. It's perfectly fine to seek playing with just the woman from a couple if everyone is aware and on board with that right up front. It can sometimes happen though that it isn't communicated and you don't find this out until you get together with someone. That's annoying and a waste of time, to say the least.

Yeah couples ae funny, I once talked to the female and she told me that we'll all meet in the lobby, head over to the bar for few drinks and from there the couple will take my wife to room and play while I wait in lobby....wife says GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!

Also the profiles where couples want to meet have their play with just them and your wife, but other male can't touch her because she does not fuck other men. These people are on the wrong site if you ask me....lol

We don't get it, but here in Central Florida it have been hell finding a real STR8 full swap couple. My wife is bi-friendly, that's on the other female if she wants to eat my wife, but we tell them....Don't expect for my wife to return the favor, lucky we got that far letting another female eat her.

Communication and honesty, why is that so hard?

If we meet a couple and there isn't chemistry between two of us, that's one thing but if they know going in that the woman isn't going to play with the other guy, be up front about it. I will consider watching a hot couple play with rabbit under the right situation but bait and switch doesn't work for us.

Funny, this is the same conversation we are having about bi males listing as straight. We don't care what anyone's preference are as long as you are honest about them.

~Scamp

We’ve also encountered couples where the woman just desires me (Kira), and that just doesn’t work for us. My man desires (and deserves) a woman who wants to rip his clothes off, and not to be treated as “second helpings” or a “watered-down afterthought”. While we do enjoy group play where fun is had by all, we are not interested in play where anyone is left out to just watch, or leaves feeling undesired. We only wish that couples with a woman who is really only interested in gg play, would not “bait” couples to only play with the woman. Good communication is key!