Bi-Curious and Straight Couples

I'd mark "bi-curious" but explain in your profile. Especially if you don't just want one-on-one play with a man.

Young isn't into men, but isn't going to run screaming from the room if a penis gets near him. We had an experience recently with a pile of people where Young looked down and saw a man sucking him. He just said something like, "No thanks. I'm not into guys" and the guy moved along. The whole thing was spontaneous and nobody had to ask explicitly to touch, but if a touch was unwanted, we just said so.

So clear wording is important in your profile, but having a little mystery makes conversation interesting. If a couple isn't interested in a bi male maybe just skip that part. I like women sometimes, but the attraction must be there, as with anyone. Asking will rarely get you booted as long as you respect the "No", but that doesn't sound like it's a big problem for you.

I never had an issue with it, but that is because I am bisexual. But, when I have been with mixed sexual orientation couples (husband being heterosexual and wife bisexual or vice versa) it can have different dynamics, but if the husband is heterosexual, it has not been an issue, especially if double penetration happens; since, well, it happens. Overall, I have not had these issues as many couples often state to me to secure accidental touching before we even have sex.

Thanks... xoxo How funny we both woke up saying same thing and talking about how we are going to make it great for her.. at her speed!

Now we are trying to make this happen at our home with some nice dinner, drinks at a sexy near by restaurant /bar and then come back home.. we both are excited about this new one.. as usually we experience seasoned swingers or jealous ones... this will only be the second time in 20 plus years we have a virgin to swinging..! he already told us she wants to travel with us too... as he told her about all 'our" 3 sums while traveling.

Well RonKathy look at it this way. You haven't lost a play mate but possibly gained one. Hope she is a good one for you both.

So just yesterday our long time single SLS friend...remarried his ex wife.. yep surprised us too.. so now she wants a 3 sum with my wife to break her into the lifestyle..

Kat and I talked and she will do "anything" to make her happy! Now we both cant wait for our new female to join the "band" as our friend said!

Ronandkathy and sexynova, It's nice to know that there are other straight couple out there that get it.

Those are all wonderful ways of becoming at least Bi Curious, kinda how I started..You find out there is so many more options in playing as well. Mary Jo

Exactly... things do go bump in the bed and most experienced guys who are into 3sums get it.. but that does NOT mean I want a guy to reach out and try a BJ with male half. and if you are BI say so in your profile.. its 2021! Yes we do check profiles if we meet.

WE have seen things go very badly ... quick...for guys who do this at clubs and events over our 23 plus years swinging !

I learned pretty quickly in my swing life that to give a woman a great MFM experience, it can require some incidental contact by the guys. She liked DP, sucking two cocks at once and one guy in her with the other licking her clit - try any of those without incidental contact! It doesn't mean the guys are bi if they incidentally touch each other in the process of giving her a great experience. And to deny her those experiences because the guys have some phobia seems pretty selfish.

Anyone who has not tried it is missing out a whole bunch. It really symbolizes intimacy.

One is good,two is better

moekathy, we record and post our DVPs online ;) I nut pretty fast from them!

We don't consider crossing swords Bi male contact if it's in the pleasuring of a lady for a DV or if she wants 2 men in her mouth.

The bareback DV is the holy grail of swinging intimacy. It does not make you bi. We have done it about half a dozen times and it never failed to blow our minds. I highly advise having a camera on hand to snap a photo of a video of the dripping creaminess afterwards!

If the other cums during DP and you liked it, your bi....I liked it....Mary Jo

Does DVP count as incidental contact? LOL! BOING!!!

Funlyfriend, I'd say that the only person that he's fooling is himself!

Well?

So, chatting with a guy who claims to be straight. He said he likes watching male bi porn with at least one lady and two men, but feels he could never ever actually try. Is he still straight?

As a straight male, I’ve never had incidental contact on a bed with 2 or more couples end up with a penis anywhere near my mouth. That would not be considered “incidental”. I can’t tell from the way your post is worded as to whether you’ve already had m/m oral play or whether you’re looking for it. Either way, a sexual preference characterization of straight in your profile would be misleading to potential playmates.

When we're playing in the same bed we're not offended by incidental contact. It happens sometimes. We have a king now so it usually doesn't even happen. When we had a queen size it would happen sometimes. We don't automatically reject a couple with a Bi male as long as he can play straight & it's understood before anything starts that Tom isn't interested in any MM contact other than a handshake. Diane satisfied most of her Bi curiosity the first few yrs. we started swinging. She doesn't initiate FF contact. If the other lady does, she may respond depending on chemistry with above the waist stuff.

We are both straight, we put down straight on our profile. Incidental contact with the same sex doesn't bother either one of us. When I'm indulged with the wife of a couple and the husband brushes up against me because he is with my wife, it isn't like he is coming on to me and wants to have sex with me. If it was intentional, like if he grabbed my dick or ass on purpose then It would be a problem. Neither one of us has a issue with Bi people, we have played with such before, we just have an understanding before we all play. That's if we are all in the same bed, and we have a king size! We look for straight couples to play with, we normally won't even click on a profile which says the female or male is Bi because it isn't want we want. Since we started only checking out straight couples we started hooking up more. So no need for Bi play here to get things moving.

Hi. I wonder as a swinger if the idea of being together on the same bed is still attractive and the incidental contact associated. Group sex is a contact sport. How do you guys and gals feel about incidental contact and is this a problem if you are not bi? We have my profile as bi-curios but not sure if I won't just switch back to straight. I am not looking for a mm experience other than I don't mind/enjoy a little oral play with certain men only. I wonder how many guys won't contact me because they think I am just really into men. Food for thought.