Excessive drinking

Jawwge - Having clothes fall off in a LS setting isn't a problem, but not so in a vanilla setting ;-)

JAWWGE, that’s funny about being first! ??

I don't need any help for my clothes to fall off. I'll generally be the second one naked, going first got me in trouble once ;)

Mayhem,

It's tequila that makes your clothes fall off. Or so I've been told.......... ;-)

My father is a long time alcoholic. He never goes out for New Years. He says he doesn’t want to drink with amateurs.

MandC - "Yes, we'll have a cocktail or two at the beginning of the evening to calm nerves and relax,..."

That's pretty much what I do when we're out at a party, if for no other reason, just because I'll be the one driving home. If it's an evening party, I'll usually switch to coffee at some point if it's available.

With my tolerance to alcohol, I will usually get to a point where I will get full long before I ever get close to being buzzed, at least with my normal drink. If I wanted to get buzzed, I'd drink gin and tonic, but I don't drink that if we're out and about. It makes my clothes fall off ;-)

We have seen all age groups in excess of drugs or alcohol.. why, some just use this as a way to escape real life, numb what they are doing, and think they are in the cool crowd... we cut it off immediately as time after time it ends bad and someone gets mad.. not our type of play!

And then they usually go out and drive too!

I guess we're just not wired to drink excessive amounts of alcohol in any situation, especially one like a Lifestyle event where we will want to remember our actions for a long time. We just don't understand why you'd intentionally do something that would make you less desirable to others and risk not remembering some potentially great memories.

Yes, we'll have a cocktail or two at the beginning of the evening to calm nerves and relax, but then we're switching to water while playing.

OP: Just curious, but what does "We are here to have the kind of sex you can't find with your partner." mean (3some/4somes, etc)?

Just speculation, but a lot of parties have sort of a flash point, where they go from little to no action to "can't find an open bed" action. I believe at least some amount of that is the liquid courage taking effect.

We don't mind some amount of drinking, but when it gets to be sloppy it's not only not fun, but can be dangerous. It's one thing to get this way once in a great while, but if it happens often, it's even more of a problem. We have had couples we know step back from the LS because one of them couldn't party without excessive drinking involved.

This is yet another reason we like to meet people first before inviting them to one of our parties. We usually do well with being able to pick up on that and where we wind up having problems is when someone vouches for someone, we say OK bring them, and it turns out they are overwhelmed and drink excessively to try to compensate. It's happened at least once and I've had to go back and tell the person that brought them that they are not a good fit for our parties and please don't ask to bring them again.

@Pcb you cannot reduce people drinking alcohol or doing drugs this is usually done by younger people in their twenties thirties and early forties when you get people locking themselves in rooms for hours you can bet there's a problem and it's not sex... The only thing you could do is continuously walk around the rooms or have cameras located in the rooms and someone Manning those cameras. cocaine and sex is used often to enhance. I've even seen it done in swinger clubs.

Again recreational sex should not involve alcohol or drugs and not to mention if a woman is drunk she could easily get taken advantage of and there's people out there unfortunately that would take that advantage. Well known fact even professionals drink and do drugs. Also where there's drinking there seems to be drugs in one way or the other. I have hosted small intimate House Parties we're drinking was not allowed. And we did fine :)

Terribly sorry. The host/hostess should do better to reduce chance that booze or drugs ruin the experience for all. I personally like it when stricter rules about alcohol are enforced. Creates safer and far more fun environment for all!

Recreational sex and drinking don't mix. I have seen people do cocaine. I have also witnessed weed being smoked. I have gone to parties up in the Tampa Florida area where the host actually had to take the doors off of the hinges so people would not lock themselves into his rooms and do drugs..

Sorry you had that NYE experience. All too common, and one of the reasons we often opt to take the NYE work shift (one of us is still in the work force) and/or stay home. Starting the New Year on the wrong side of the sheets in a hospital bed because you (or worse, the drunk driver that hit you) "did stupid" is not a good look.

And, as you point out, alcohol tends to diminish all sorts of cognitive and physical abilities, including sex. Age-related declines are hard enough to deal with, adding alcohol is akin to "adding insult to injury".

We'd agree having too much to drink or the need to get drunk to play isn't a good recipe for fun. A non-drinking party would likely be interesting for a lot of folks.

NYE rant: We went to a large NYE house party. A very drunk woman prior to midnight fell down the stairs and was cut so badly she had to be taken to the hospital. In an effort to live a healthier lifestyle, we have given up drinking. For us, parties seem like an excuse to get drunk or they can't play unless they are drunk. We are here to have the kind of sex you can't find with your partner.
How about a non-drinking party?