“ Willandable, You are right. Having a person to have fun with. Talk about things you can't share with your spouse. No drama, ego, or other issues. It's the way to go. It's like having a best friend. Just great”
I can’t imagine having anything I can’t share with my Wife!
"I am looking for a long term relationship" might scare some guys off. I would leave it at "looking for ongoing fun in and out of the bedroom"
You should also really think about what kind of boundaries you want with this guy. With a busy schedule, are you going to be upset if he goes out to clubs or date other women? If you keep an open mind with single men, you might find some luck if you keep looking. If you look for married men with permission to play solo, just keep in mind he probably can't host where most single men can. Getting out to clubs with the husband, you might have better luck .
Willandable, You are right. Having a person to have fun with. Talk about things you can't share with your spouse. No drama, ego, or other issues.
It's the way to go. It's like having a best friend. Just great.
Cutting no I am Not looking just for a fuck. I’m looking for that person that doesn’t mind I’m married and wants to build a relationship.
You might be getting the poly lifestyle mixed up with the slutwife or open relationship lifestyle. From what you say, your man is OK with you being his slutwife and he approves of you seeing other men while he's on the road. The opposite side of the coin is that you don't mind all the women (or possibly men) he meets on the road. You should have no trouble at all finding willing men to play with. But you'll need to have your man tell any prospective lover that he encourages it so he does not fear openly being your lover. You also need to realize that a male lover may make passionate love with you regularly, but might never fall "in love" with you. My ex slutwife and I had a similar arrangement, but we couldn't wait to tell each other who we both met when I was away on business. It made our lovemaking much hotter !
“ I found my wife a regular poly,been next to impossible to find a woman for me! The women are turned off by the fact I’m married. OkCupid does cover this but thier matching system is terrible”
Yea, same boat for me. My wife has a BF but finding someone for me has been awful! I went to a local bar last Friday and was approached by a very pretty woman, this made me feel fantastic but she’s looking for a real LTR, not a married guy! Ughh
It's what I've been searching for, for a while now.
I found my wife a regular poly,been next to impossible to find a woman for me! The women are turned off by the fact I’m married. OkCupid does cover this but thier matching system is terrible
WE feel your pain, We tried finding a couple for a Poly Steady relationship in NJ or close by states, but we found nothing, These Days we Mostly Focus on Hosting our events and have put that on the burner.. But if anyone out there is interested, please reach out.
Just curious, but are you looking for someone to live with you or just someone regular to play with? If the latter, one problem I could foresee is that while you may want to be exclusive, he may not (in the event that matters).
I know little about the ins and outs of poly relationships, but from what little I do know poly sounds more like finding an additional mate rather than just a regular playmate. Swinging is usually something less exclusive.
In any case, the advice given about being more specific in your profile regarding what you're looking for and checking out/posting Hot Dates sounds reasonable to at least start with.
Well if you find something that really works, please let us all know
We also don’t like the “notch on the bedpost” type of situation. We look for FWBs and the wife has no problem finding them but I haven’t found a lady in our area that will accept it. Most of the single women want a full relationship and the married women seem to want the wife. I’ve started looking on different FB groups to see about this. Most recommend OKCupid.
There is Poly Matchmaker, although I haven't been over there for awhile and don't know what kind of penetration they have in your area...
Now I am going to break one if my own rules about labels...
If you are just looking for someone to fuck while your husband is away, that is not poly. That is swinging.
Poly means "many loves," not "many fucks."
I agree with msmolly that being more explicit in your profile that you are looking for an ongoing male fwb and or poly relationship would help. I can’t believe that there aren’t guys in your area seeking similar. Use hot dates and read some of the threads in this forum possibly reaching out to folks who appear successfully poly about any organization or poly specific site they may know about. Good luck!
Hi. I have what you're looking for and for pretty much the same reason.
I think you just need to tighten up your profile, say you're open to single as well as playing with permission men, if you are (I highly,recommend married men for long term drama free relationships), and maybe think about being more direct.
I’m not sure. Hoping someone could direct me.
Are there any Polly organizations in your area?
I need advice. My husband and I have been in the swing lifestyle for about 9 years, we met in the lifestyle. We decided to play separately about a year ago. I prefer to play with someone steady not jump person to person. I’ve had a hard time finding a male in my area to have this type of relationship with. So we have talked about trying out the poly lifestyle to find a male for just myself. How do I go about approaching a male about this. Any suggestions. But the way my husband is a truck driver and is gone away from home a lot.
