UPDATE: Having the SLS app installed on IOS, which I rarely ever use, I have very recently started to receive message notifications on my Iphone, however, still no notifications from SLS website.
It's almost like someone was reading this thread.
:-)
~Allen
K.i.k completely faster and easier way to communicate exchange pics .... videos and plus... free choices...
I prefer kik! Initial conversation on the site is fine, but prefer to move conversation over to kik after a few messages. Especially for those times at work and you can't be the porn site.
Thank you everyone for your insightful and well articulated replies.
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Most serious messages are to meet and go home and play! Its that easy !
20 plus years doing this and never an issue.
We like to use kik to more easily get all four members of two couples to participate. SLS is far from realtime and there's no good easy way to tell which member of a couple is posting in the conversation. In kik each participant in a real time chat shows up with their own icon/photo so it's very easy to see whether the guy is doing all the talking and planning or whether the gal seems equally interested.
Kik has much more privacy than SMS texting, easier to use than Google Voice messaging, and many more features than SLS messaging. Allen provided a great list.
SLS is a great place to start but most serious ongoing messaging moves to kik.
"...pretty much all cell phones have built-in number blocking capabilities."
I don't know what happens when you type your cell number into a search box, but mine pulls up my address, my children, my ex-husband, my first ex-husband, his second wife, her son, their daughter, my cousin's wife, and my mother, and that's just on the first page of contacts, along with the name of every city I've ever lived in, my most recent property tax bill, and that I'm single.
I used to routinely scrub my internet presence, but don't bother anymore because it's just all back up again in less than a month. The problem isn't that you can't block unwanted calls. The problem is that having your cell number pretty much means not much about you is unattainable.
Also, parenthetically, I just got reminded today that the sole advantage SLS used to have over Kik, which was the inability to send unsolicited dick pics, vanished with the end of mail. Now your eyes can get assaulted on the regular by some guy's ugly dick when you make the mistake of opening a message.
We've yet to use KIK. More often than not, if we're going to meet someone we just exchange cell #'s. If we meet and they wind up being a good fit for our parties, we'll get an outside email address and add them to our list.
I get why people like KIK over SLS, but honestly, during pre-covid times, we met most people in person at LS parties. For the times that we do meet people here online, exchanging cell #'s hasn't been a problem. If it ever was, pretty much all cell phones have built-in number blocking capabilities.
"Be suspicious of anyone doing that. It is a HUGE red flag that they are some sort of scammer."
This is how it has gone for practically everyone we have ever met off the site. In the days before Kik it was Yahoo messenger.
It's the norm, Wayne, because the messaging system is the worst I have ever encountered on any platform in the last 20 years.
This site WENT OUT OF ITS WAY to remove the best communication tool we had. We aren't going to learn to like it or use it any more than we absolutely have to just because SLS says we should.
I know you don't make the decisions around here, Wayne, but for what it's worth, for the gazillionth time, the messaging system blows donkey cock.
"Actually, yes there is. Outside contact cannot be given out on initial messages."
How's that enforcement working out for you? Catching all the bad guys and ladies with Operation Cockblock?
I use SLS messaging for initial conversations with local people and ongoing for those far away. Otherwise, it's Kik, which is significantly easier to use (SLS's system doesn't accommodate my phone's autocorrect, plus it reminds me of Yahoo chat from 1998) and gives me notifications in real time. It's a superior solution, particularly given the alternative.
We use kik with some people, and we have a google voice number for this situation as well.
Both are easier to use than the SLS message system.
I have used kik for several years now and it is a great way to communicate as not everyone is sitting at the computer or have the app open on their phone. Yes, I certainly agree that giving out info in the 1st few messages is suspect. But not everyone that uses kik is a scammer. I have at least 4 contacts that I have met here on SLS and we are in contact pretty regularly. Two are single and two are married.
Why would you use an outside contact? The choices of IM, or Video chat is.... well.... meh. But like most of the swinger sites that are out there, it is not the best feature on the site, nor do they spend money to make it better based on the feedback from "PAID" members.
Short story long, as with any form of communication, be careful, be cautious, be aware.
Rather than comparing apps it seems like comparing apples...to oranges.
KIK is free and very simple to use. But not sure how you use it to meet anyone interesting. Though I do on occasion get unsolicited invitations for sexy times with someone named Amber. Or Tiffany. Maybe I should follow up? They sound nice...
<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">"There is no rule stating someone can't send you a phone number, social media address or house address in the first or second message."</span></p>
<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Actually, yes there is. Outside contact cannot be given out on initial messages.</span></p>
<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Kik let's you talk real time without exchanging phone numbers."</span></p>
<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">So does SLS.</span></p>
And the likelihood of SLS reading and monitoring your messages?
The instant messaging sucks here. The old messages was way better than current.
There is no rule stating someone can't send you a phone number, social media address or house address in the first or second message.
Kik let's you talk real time without exchanging phone numbers. Fluid conversation. Just be weary of ppl asking for nude pics.
That site policy is. and always has been/ stupid.
<p><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px">sportnberr2014,</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Be suspicious of anyone doing that. It is a HUGE red flag that they are some sort of scammer. If they immediately are asking you to go somewhere else, it is a violation of site policy. You can report them. </span></p>
We move off here to Kik when we want to have further and easier conversation with a person. Much easier to share other pics not on your profile also.
Thank you for the input Allen. Maybe we will look into it more.
Kik:
Real time instant messaging.
Real time notifications.
Picture send from choice of location.
Group text/chat.
Live and captured Video sharing.
GPS location.
And more.
SLS:
None of the above.
Hope that helps in justifying the use of a 3rd party chat app.
~Allen
So I really do not understand, and maybe some one that uses it more can explain. Why is it that when you start messaging some one on here (SLS) that the moment you ask about a face picture it seems that many times they want to chat on KIK...because they say it's easier?
Why the need to use this other message service if you are already messaging here on line? I don't get the draw. Any insights?
Thank you every one for your time and input. :)
