Thank you SLS

Everyone's experience is different but we agree with eroticamazon.

Swinger life (for us) is not dying a slow death. It's actually better than ever. There is no club scene within 200 miles of where we are but we somehow still find a way to connect with people and have a good time. Like anything else you have to put in some effort to have any success.

We do block the free members as we feel like if they can't pony up the relatively small sum to be a paid member that they're not serious about the lifestyle or they are hiding their activities from a spouse. We have little interest in being anybody's first lifestyle experience and even less interest in facilitating any cheaters.

We don't block any singles but make it clear that we're not interested in meeting if they aren't certified or they don't have any pics on their profile. Having to politely say "no thanks" to a single is no big deal. If they don't take it well we can always block them.

That is true erotic amazon, I think you are dead on with putting effort forward.

I don't think that swinger life is going down. I think swinger life is just fine :)

There is a ratio though. I am not sure of the accuracy of this ratio, it's more of a tongue in cheek guess.

100 Single males to 10 couples to 1 single females.

We do not actively look for single females, single males or even couples. If someone/some couple catches our fancy, we will put forth effort.

What we have noticed and this is purely anecdotal and applicable to us. When we moved from South Florida we left behind the club scene. We could go to an on-premise club and we would do this 3-6 times a month. We would have no problem finding either another couple, a single male and most of the time, if there was a single female that piqued our interest, her. Now that we are sans club life, it's all about hotel/house parties. What is odd compared to most others is that I, the male, am the very picky one. My wife is not a slut per se and that she will fuck anyone. She has a lot more acceptance of men as partners than I do of women. This does make things a little harder when we are looking for couples.

I bring this up because, well, we have been in the lifestyle since the early-mid 90s. We have seen pretty much all the scenes you could imagine. What we have learned though is that it is really about effort. If you put forth the effort, you tend to get results. If you sit and wait, like the girl waiting for the prom date to call, you will not be as successful. I think once you have been in the lifestyle for a bit, you tend to get complacent and just 'expect things to happen.' You tend to forget that when you started you were out there, putting forth effort. Saying hi to people. Hoping you would not be rejected. We had to realize that when we hit a dry spell that it was not the lifestyle that had changed. It was us. Once we realized our change, we remedied it and voila! It was back to the way it was earlier.

I agree with rabbit and scamp. Once in awhile we too wish to reach the SM or the SF but in our area that's not so easy. But not wishing to expose the dying horse flesh (again and again) I still express my dislike of SLS's 'free member' classification as that is the majority of what is offered around my home area and what we seek. Unfortunately they are the untouchables.

Hello rabbit and scamp. Hope you're doing well. Enjoy the summer.

I can't say if SLS has become more saturated with SMs but if that is the case, it's likely at least partially the result of the demise of CL Personals. Single or cheating guys who posted there likely gravitated to sex sites as an alternative source for hookups.

It is good that SLS allows you to block them, it's also good that couples, like us who are open to singles, can interact. We just wish we could still use email to vet them since the IM system is such a nightmare.

~Scamp

I am so glad there is the option to turn off the single males from seeing you. We used to go to a club nearby that had a right amount of mix both couples and single males. We stopped going because the club becomes one maybe two other couples beside us. And like ten single males.
I now see when I look for new or new this week on SLS we are saturated with single males here too. There is a website for just couples, but that is all out west in the United States.

The point of my rant is: Swinger life seems to be going down, and others seem only to want unicorns not couples anymore. At least in my area, I do not see very many attractive couples wanting to swap anymore. They usually only want a woman to join. But yet the market is saturated with single men it seems?
What am I missing?