Swinging and ostomy

Being past medical profession and now swinger, I would like to comment. I recently played with a very beautiful hot lady, while my wife has a wonderful time with her hubby. She wore a wide band around her waist covering up the appliance. I had no idea whatsoever what was under that band. We had the most wonderful time in bed. We played for along time and she was so beautiful. Medical science has come so far in forty years that I was a CNA. We will fur sure love to play with the again when they return to Florida. Hope this answers your question, and puts your mind at ease. mnj

Usually I explain what happened and that the pouch is on permanent. I do explain that I wear wraps and or garments that keep it in place but allow for regular sexual fun.

My only thought, since it is unobtrusive, is that somehow you aren't adequately addressing the gross out factor. That's why I was trying to get you to tell me exactly how you approach it.

I do state that. One of my private pics has me wearing one with my briefs on as well.

Right. I looked at your profile and you say you'll explain in messages. But what do you say? Do you say it's unobtrusive or whatever?

When I message it usually starts with me stating I have an ileostomy and that it don't affect anything sexually.

Once I start conversing I usually disclose a few messages in.

Not personally, but I know how unobtrusive they can be because my ex-husband had one. Can I ask a question? How do you usually tell people about them? Like, what words do you use?

I have swinged prior to having one but now it seems once I disclose having it my messages are not replied back to. It does not affect anything sexually. Just an extra step at the most. Anyone else had issues since getting an ostomy?