Well that’s good news, just in case someone else comes in and tries to psychoanalyze you for saying what I did, like in the other thread. Just making sure you got my back too bro!
BTW, you’re soooooo serious.......
:-)
~Allen (A.K.A. 888)
FWIW 888 - I'm not opposed to saying that I agree with you that some will lie on here to get sex. I figured that went without saying. I just can't imagine anyone thinking that this isn't the case at times.
@AandJinNNJ
Thanks for responding. You are correct. I just went and tried to create one and it seems to have changed since the last time I created one :)
Looking at what they are doing now, I am fine with what they are doing. They are allowing the creator the choice of who can see it.
Thanks again for pointing this out.
“ People simply should NOT be seeing Hot Dates from non-matches.”
Even though you’re not up to making it known we shared the same view about people lying, don’t worry, I got your back on this.
:-)
~Allen
I do not remember all of the context of the prior "jaded" posts, but was the fact that some people here will lie to get sex really even in question?
Again, showing people all of the opportunities they missed because they missed someone's age range is giving people more motivation to lie about their age. Doing that in profiles is one thing because people can still reach out, but the Hot Dates thing doesn't even offer that opportunity, and to be clear, I'm not saying that it should.
People simply should NOT be seeing Hot Dates from non-matches. In fact, it's probably the reason that people are even discussing this at all and just another reason for them to be dissatisfied with SLS in general.
Yet, if they lie about their age to be included in a search that the poster of the hot date set into their search/advertisement criteria they currently don’t meet, as YOU brought to light, then that is devious and lying.
The reason I asked you, I was called jaded in another thread for saying that as well. You still got my back on that bro?
:-)
~Allen
I don't think that people lying to get more sex was ever in question. Some will, and the Hot Dates set-up as-is gives people more motivation to do so.
I'm also not arguing whether it should (or shouldn't) cost extra money for another profile. Just that I get it that it's not worth it for people that feel like the site is declining to spend more money on it.
“FWIW - Showing people they don't match based on age gives some people more of a reason to lie about their age.“
I found a someone to back me up! Now, bring on the people that said I was wrong about people in the LS being devious and will lie to get what they want!
And...........
“ If it costs money to create a new single profile....”
Woah! Stop the press! Woah, I say! Stop right there! Don’t move!
:-)
If you buy a car wash subscription for your vehicle that give you unlimited washes for that car monthly, are you saying all your vehicles should get unlimited washes?
Why are we all paying for multiple phones to access the network, when we should be getting all the phone access for free because we purchase a monthly service?
We pay for medical coverage through our employer, we should get the family coverage for free?
When we order a meal at a restaurant, we should get all the variant styles of the items offered on the initial order?
So now SLS should include the ability to create multiple profiles for free, with paying members privileges of course, to advertise and be included in the multiple ways people want to play?
Carry on!
:-D
~Allen
FWIW - Showing people they don't match based on age gives some people more of a reason to lie about their age. If it costs money to create a new single profile, I kind of agree with R&S about giving SLS more money when they feel the changes in general have been more negative than positive.
"They just took the fucking lazy way out and read your profile settings"
Thanks for the quote, albeit a laughable one, it just reinforces why I don’t see their posts.
OT: Seems like since only she plays, she should get a single’s profile and stamp it with “hotwife” for singles to see she is part of a couple that plays solo.
~Allen
"They just took the fucking lazy way out and read your profile settings"
We don't believe the above is correct. When you create a hot date you pick the age range and sex you're looking for.
My cut at this was it's stupid to even show you the "non-matches". The system has already determined that you don't match based on the poster's criteria, so why show anything at all to people that don't match? What possible reason could there be to do that?
This is a VERY stupid decision by SLS because it was decided by nerds, not people in the lifestyle.
""Shouldn’t all hotdate posters be able to have everyone see their post and let users see if there is a match?"
No, absolutely not. If I'm posting a hot date and am looking for a very specific kind of person/couple, then I only want that specific kind of person/couple to be able to read/respond to it."
There is a simple solution to this other than the bullshit binary solution that SLS proposed.
When you create the HotDate, then and only then do you set the preferences on who you want to be able to see the HotDate. They just took the fucking lazy way out and read your profile settings. This is one other step in the process to create the HotDate, but it handles all situations.
The way it’s set up is stupid. I pointed it out to the powers that be before but, as usual, they didn’t care.
Like We’reCurious we play separately.
While we are apart I’m a high value target as a bi SF. Yet I can’t reply to couples that post hot dates looking for SFs.
SLS wants me to start another paid profile as a SF to see them—as if I’d give SLS another dime after the way they destroyed this site.
Besides, it’s no skin off my nose, there are plenty of hot couples not blocking couples I can hook up with.
~rabbit~
Wercurious,
My preference would be to have things set up as you suggest. However, I don’t have a problem with the way SLS has decided to structure the hotdates. It’s a judgement call. Clearly, they can’t make every one happy, but I think their solution is reasonable.
"However, wife is looking as a “single female”."
She might be looking for herself, but your profile is a couples profile. Perhaps she should set up her own single female profile for when she plans on playing without you.
"Shouldn’t all hotdate posters be able to have everyone see their post and let users see if there is a match?"
No, absolutely not. If I'm posting a hot date and am looking for a very specific kind of person/couple, then I only want that specific kind of person/couple to be able to read/respond to it.
The hot dates you're seeing must not want couples, so why the hell should you - a couple with a couples profile - have the privilege of knowing where and when these people are looking to hook up?
Again, have your wife create a single female profile. Just make sure that if she sets up any dates using that profile that she is the only one who shows up. The people on the other end are expecting a single female, not a couple. If you're going to be involved in any way, even if it's just to watch, then set it up with your couples profile. And if your couples profile isn't a match, then move on to the next one.
T
We are a couple with a Hotwife who enjoys playing solo (without me) with couples or single males. So technically we do identify her as “single female”. When we look at Hotdates we will frequently see a SLS response like “you don’t match hotdate preferences”. We assume the poster may want a single female and not a couple. We also assume since our profile is a couple that we are being screened from the hotdate post. However, wife is looking as a “single female”.
Shouldn’t all hotdate posters be able to have everyone see their post and let users see if there is a match?
Any thoughts or comments on this. Maybe I’m reading it wrong etc.
