Showing up or not?

I’m so glad things worked out.

This whole experience is a good reminder that people have different communication styles.

Also, all good replies and input. thank you for taking the time to reply. :)

Things worked out... just bad communication, but we are glad it worked out even if it was 90 minutes later than planned.
It was a really fun time.

It is a sad thing of missed meet times, delays, excuses or no shows... Couples, single women and single men are guilty of these. It is not one classification of person to blame. What is to blame is ill intent, no intent or chickening out.

I look at it this way, when victim to someone deciding to not show, for whatever reason they do or do not give, I move on. If someone can and does prove something awful, evil, unintentional, etc. happens immediately before or end route, then I can say, ok, let's reschedule, etc. We all have had stupid stuff happen in life, while en route somewhere or when within a few hours of meeting people.

I also say that Molly has a point. If someone is not timely on response and it is something one cares about, look elsewhere for those that can be more timely on responses.

We have had both no shows and being unable to met for one reason or another. the no show is where we agreed to met at Outback by their home
and two hours after agreed meet time they no show. Called the next day and their excuse was "oh was that a date" . The other meeting was with a visiting couple at a beach cafe. The night before we got a call that wife's brother was rushed to the hospital and she had to fly to ST LOUIS. Since we had no way to contact them not knowing their last name and no phone numbers I decided to go meet them and explain what happened and to wish them a happy visit to Hawaii. Sat there 2 hours after agreed meeting time and they no showed. Not sure if they saw me sitting there by myself and decide that I was a single man looking to play alone or whatever.

What she said

"communicating is not a strong suit for them."

If solid communication skills and responsiveness are important to you, maybe don't make plans with people for whom communication can be described as not a strong suit. Or if you do, don't make plans that require time, effort, and cash.

Every once in a while, the inexplicable happens, but usually people keep on behaving the way they've behaved previously. And if we're surprised, it's often because we've missed or misinterpreted the signs.

Hope it works out.. but one more reason we DO NOT drive more than 20 minutes locally to meet and get a hotel.. YES we too have been burned before and learned from our first bad experience .

Wish you luck and hope it happens!

It has been a long while since anyone has flaked on us....but I still get that annoying feeling wondering if a couple will show like they said they would.

Case in point like right now. We have to plan way ahead...so if we commit...we commit. So here we are got a hotel...drove and hour and a half to meet a couple. Planned time was 4pm. They would come to the hotel.

We texted yesterday, to show we had come to town as promised..and again 4 pm today was confirmed ....so today moments ago since it was after 3 and we had been running around town to look at shops to do something while we wait...but now back to the hotel....we text to let them know we are in the room ...but they text back and say they will be there a bit after 5pm.

Now I am getting that feeling of will the actually show up? Since it was so close to 4...I would have thought they would have texted to say hey...it's gonna be 5ish that we can make it....but we may not have known this had I not texted.

Granted the story is not over. They may actually show up and communicating is not a strong suit for them. So stuff happens...but still feel they could have texted that hour to two hour difference in plans. Hoping for a fun time still ...we will see. So....do I think too much in communicating? Thoughts?