Second Chances

I would like to reply. SECOND CHANCE When we meet a couple and he more than she, is all excited about playing. We invite them in our bed we are ready, willing and able, they are not. He cannot get hard, and she says I cant play if he does not get hard. He gets jealous and does not want me to fuck if he can't. Well then "charitable us" invites them back for another try, their house as they claim they are more comfortable. Same thing no hard on and dead weight from her. WTF Nevermore !!! Also when we have chatted with or attempting[ted to chat twice on a site, and been turned down, or no response we block. Never unblock anyone as we feel no matter how long it has been there is no connection. We blocked a couple then met them at a party, he asked us why did we block them.. Well we had played with them in the past and they were duds. He was over 300# and she was a constant chatter while with me. fucking.
Another time we met them at a party she did not feel like playing with anyone, but my wife "mercy fucked" his ass. That did not go well with me, as I despised the guys. SO NO second chances !!! I agree with your posts on that. mnj

We have had both of those and the inverse as well :)

There have been couples where there was no interest. We would see each other all the time. For one couple this happened for nearly 2 years. Then one night . . . boom.

There is a very nice woman. We get along extremely well. It took about 10 times seeing her at a party before we did something. The sex was not bad it was 'satisfactory.' I have seen her about 20 more times and we are not going after each other at all.

I learned a long time ago that you get one time to make a first impression. Then as I got older I added to that. Not everyone has their best day every day. I was with a woman and the sex was not good. She seemed aloof. Later on, I found out that she had just learned that her father was dying the day before we hooked up. That context was missing at the time. Now that she has processed that . . . yup. It's on like Donkey Kong!

It's an interesting question. Since we are never in a hurry to get naked or play with the next couple, by the time we are all together naked in private, it's not just about being naked in private. It follows that whatever happens that is fun, or less fun, is happening in the context of actually liking the other person/couple. If something is authentically unpleasant, of course we'll walk away and never turn back. But rarely is intimacy "as good as it's going to get" the first time around. That's part of the fun of the LS, learning what others like,

I assume everyone can have a bad day so iffy sex doesn't rule out a return engagement if we had no personality issues. Not sure someone would get a third chance if sex was also iffy the second time. ;-)

If I was approached online by someone that previously turned down an inquiry from me then it would depend on the reasons. If the previous rejection was because of schedule or location then I would essentially proceed as if it was a new contact. But if I had received a generic "thanks but we're not a match" then I'd wonder what about us has changed and be more hesitant to engage. Like MsMolly I would mention that we'd previously exchanged a few messages - just in case they didn't remember or hadn't made notes.

That's one thing I miss about the old mail system - you could tell immediately when looking at the profile if you had previous contact and the history didn't disappear after a year or so like the current message system. Making notes on profiles is so much more important now - especially for someone with as bad a memory as mine!

This has happened with us a couple of different times, in different ways.

We had a couple reach out to us on here. We didn't really like what we saw with their private pics and said no thanks. They took a rare move of filing an appeal, which we again declined. Months later we met them at a club and hit it off. We did not know they were the same people. I don't know if they knew they had been rejected by us before. We later became good friends with them and played a number of times, and we frankly told them that their profile pics sold them short and they needed better ones.

We have had some lousy sex experiences where one of us went back for seconds down the road at a party. I dont believe we've ever done a foursome with a couple again when the first time was a total flop.

It depends on the reason it was just okay. I met someone a few months ago and the sex itself was good, but I didn't like other aspects of the experience. That's a no, never again. I've also had mediocre sex with people, but liked them and tried again and it's been amazing.

In the second instance, I'd probably say yes. I'd mention we'd already had a disconnect though and ask if they were sure.

This is a two-part kinda question.

If you got with a couple or single, and it was "just okay" sex, would you consider a call back for a replay?
Or are you the one-shot type of person/couple?

Say you reached out to someone online or at a party, and they said, "thanks, but not interested".

And they reached out to you online, would you meet them?
Of if you bumped into them at another party, would you play with them?