Odd Meetup

OUCH!! Hey I’m your age, I always try to look my best and everything still works more than fine.

We’re there pictures of him on the profile or was he one of these guys with a top secret job that requires no pictures of him?

I have noticed here in my local 50 mile radius that a lot of the guys use the wife as bait. I also notice that no matter how great I look because I’m not a ‘hardbody’ the females want nothing to do with me. Still looking for my ‘dad bod’ loving ladies.

Let this be a learning experience. We all have had one of those.

OP - Sorry to hear that. In our experience, something like that is very rare. Now that parties are ramping up, we are again looking to those like we did pre-Covid and this is not an issue at parties, but we still meet people from on-line occasionally.

About the worst we had was a guy that kept insisting his wife give me a BJ so I could cum in her mouth and he wanted to see her swallow. I was reluctant to do that because it didn't sound like she was on-board with it, but finally we both reached a conclusion that it was worth it just to shut him up. After it happened, it was like he was pissed and wanted to leave immediately after. Told her to get her stuff because he was leaving with or without her.

Months later, he wanted to get together with us. When I reminded him that we already met once and how that went....crickets ;-) His wife was a sweetheart, but he had a few drinks in him and was apparently an angry drunk. I was kind of surprised she was still with him and in the LS.

This kind of thing happens now and then . You just move on.

Sometimes people are to close to the trees to see the forest as well……

~Allen

We've had a few lousy experiences.

We've had people claim to be late 40s in their profile and be at least 70 when we met them, and of course people who were 30-75 lb heavier than they were billed as.

We've had people show up looking like they haven't showered or brushed their teeth, changed from work clothes, and the like. We even had one couple meet us at a restaurant and order nothing but water, leaving us to - alone - order things to justify our occupation of a table, and one who harassed us for weeks for not wanting to go play when they showed up looking like they just rolled out of bed.

Yet another presented well when we met (but didn't play) at a party, but they invited us over to their place and everything was a disaster. They were dressed like slobs, unshowered, their place was filthy and they had kids up and around. Uh, yeah no. We gotta go.

The guy's nasty behavior is something we haven't seen that much of. The closest was this rather attractive couple who otherwise might have been a decent fit, but he began bragging about how he beats up everyone who bothers him in the slightest. I don't know if this was just bravado or if he really does punch people who say or do anything he dislikes, but either way we don't want to get mixed up with someone like that.

Sorry about your lousy experience.

We would have left immediately.. if one cannot present themselves for a first meet well dressed and include some nice overall conversations.. we leave and tell them its not what we are looking for ... BUT more important what the heck did there profile photos look like.. that usually says volumes for "us". !

Yes we have run into many types on SLS but we make it simple.. we look at there profile.. if we like what we see and what they say on a profile.. we set up a chat for all to talk on the phone.. all parties.. then if that pans out we have a good feeling.. we set up a meet and if that goes well we go home and play...

Too bad it didnt work out well ... but vet as much as you can prior including chatting on phone to see what kind of feel you get.. first impressions are usually right and stick with what YOU want not what they want!

That includes photos of BOTH on a website especially a swinger website!

We always stipulate that the first meeting be vanilla because the four way match is elusive. In person, I think I can tell within five minutes if the foursome will have a sexual meeting. Heavy, unkempt and hostile is not going to do it.

You didn’t even make it to the ED. New invention, ED meds, help but are not perfect. Why this is news to some guys is beyond me.

There is no reason for photos not to match reality. Another reason to have that drink at the virtual bar. Block an hour, schedule the video meetup for 15 min (allowing for longer if people want to keep chatting--this does happen when there is interest!) and get a sense of who they are.

Sorry to hear of it. You are correct on two counts at least. First, the couple that shows up may not entirely resemble those in the photographs or imagined. Second, even if there is an appearance match, it can quickly become apparent that there is not only an absence of "chemistry" among the foursome but also a vague sense of unease. Keep the meeting brief, find an excuse to take your leave--for heaven's sake don't order dessert and coffee--and depart. In the "old days", we would ask for at least the ladies to meet by phone prior to F2F. In the contemporary setting of multiple videoconferencing options esp during-emerging from COVID (FaceTime, Zoom, Skype,...) it might make sense to have drinks at the virtual bar first. As far as self-care goes, you have made a key observation. Some people do, many do not. Hold out for those who do.

Ouch. We've had some bad meets but never that bad.

We once had a couple show up and they were probably 20 years older than their pics. We don't understand why anyone would find that acceptable.

Had an odd first meet with a local couple. We met at a restaurant, first impression not good, the hubby did not acknowledge us at the front door just ran in to get a table leaving his wife to say hello.
The guy had on a 2 day old stained work t shirt , 3 days growth of a beard, sweaty from working outside all day , sweat stained ballcap,
He was overweight, giant beer belly , just a slob.
We do know some heavier people that present themselves really well , this guy was not one of them.
We sit down and chat , every subject from him is how he had a confrontation with someone and beating them up, bosses, coworkers, medical professionals ect.
He had nothing good to say about anything.
His wife was nice enough and presentable, but the dude just let himself go.
We are an older couple, We keep fit , look good, dress well are polite and understand this is a date.
We have noticed the guys our age are 70% slobs, overweight , sloppy, most have ED and wont state that on a profile.
My wife is relatively frustrated , she wants a clean guy who can get it up. Too much to ask?
Sorry about the rant , but guys step up if you want this to work .