'No' is a complete answer

COPNKITTEN

I don't see TALLMARK like that at all. I find many of his posts to be interesting and informative.

Maybe it's just a matter of interpretation.

TALLMARK

Haven't been offered enough $$ for the book and movie deal yet.

If it does happen, will you play the woodsman who gave me shelter?

do yourself a favor and block tallmark as I and a bunch of forummers have. he never has anything nice to say

all mary jo is saying why will they let certain pics post and object to others , get off her back

RE DB, Well I sure don't want that to happen.....BTW, What did you do with all the money after you jumped out of the plane.....Now that's a posting you don't want to stir up the dust on...Mary Jo

TALLMARK

I happen to like seeing YEAHOK’s naked breast. Please don’t start anything that might stop it.

RE: OK, Gee I wonder why SLS won't allow me to show any pics of me in a sheer bra on my profile pic and you can show your bare breast..Mary Jo

One last thought: the beauty of SLS is the autonomy it gives a single lady to choose a lover without the 'slut' label being applied. Only longer- term members appear to get this. Thank you all for your input. A. from Alabama

I understand that... but soo many times I just send compliment and immediately I m on block... I don't send pics like that... again I understand u guys assholes everywhere.... between sm but and between couples too... with all respect to good quality people

Then Bobby.. try getting about 5-6 dick photos a week with "wanna fuck".. sorry it does deserve a block!

If you think that is BS ..well enjoy my friend.. more tolerance than we will have.. we do not and cut it off with no regrets.. ! Not playing these guys childish games

Chances are that yours wasn't the only "no, thanks," and they are just frustrated or at their wit's end.

This is why more people need to take a sales job at least once in their lives. It builds character... perseverance.

No thank you is completely ok... but me like SM get a lot BS messages.... on compliment..I have really bed attitude... when we talk about block I remove that option... if I pay here like everyone I don't want to block me anyone... it's completely ok if don't have access to couple who don't have interest in SM but block is huge BS...my opinion..... definitely no thanks is ok

We ignore the stoopid ones (i.e. "sup") and block them when they send two or three of the same. Any semi-reasonable note does get a response. If not a match, the standard reply is some variation of "thanks for the interest but not a good match". That usually shuts them down or on occasion gets a "thanks for replying". I do not recall any ugly or vindictive comments back from that.

I just say we aren't a good match and that's usually enough, but when it isn't it's generally some entitled guy who wants to argue that I'm wrong. As if that alone wasn't enough to prove I'd made a good call.

Men everywhere believe they're entitled to women. To their bodies and to their attention. Not all, not even many, but enough that it's actually a social issue with some downstream impact. I doubt geography has anything to do with it, because - to use a buzz phrase - toxic masculinity knows no bounds.

We agree OP.. and same as saying, sorry not a match !

Some just cant take rejection no matter how you say it.. especially those who do not bother to really read our profile.

Oh well their loss .. and yes its our journey!

it has nothing to do with people being sensitive , its got to do with acting like a civilized human being .

BT! As if you could do wrong by me! :) happy new year to you and yours. A.

Because people are sensitive. People, it's called "Preference". Just odd how people react to "No thank you."

Sorry. Didn’t mean to start trouble. I know what I do as a SM when I receive messages, but have also been part of a couple. So, I’ve also seen what Yeaokay is talking about. There is simple etiquette and there are manners, and there is also the belief that no one owes you anything.

Live and let live. Have no expectations and have no disappointment.

Do what works for you.

BT

my opinion you said nothing wrong

@eroticamazon. I am packing up as I type. What locale should I move to avoid inappropriate messages. Eagerly awaiting your response. Peace and happy 2021

yeah guess your right , erotic . we just moved to florida and in more ways , its a very different world here , for sure .

Have you considered it to be your location?

Cultural values generally are regional. This is why, I believe, that you hear from some people that they never have these issues you have described.

Right now, there are probably 50 messages over the last couple of months from single men that we will not address. These are messages as simple as 'sup' to 'How is your weekend,' to longer ones wanting to get to know more about us, they just happen to be 300+ miles away. We will not engage in ones that make absolutely no sense. We will engage with people who put forth effort and seem reasonable. When we say no, we do not take the approach of 'No thank you.' To us, that leaves a wide range of interpretation. Sure, it is definitive, but the recipient is still left with the why component and thus can provoke an angry response.

This is a response we gave to a SM who sent a message that put forth thought. They are 3+ hours away.

"Thanks for the interest. At this time, by no means are we looking for a SM that is 3+ hours away. In fact, we are so busy, we are not looking for any single males. We have plenty of SM's that are local to us that we know and have known for years. Good luck in finding what you are looking for."

With that response, we have never gotten a "You are !@#!# and a @#$@$# go !@#!@# " I believe it removed the 'why' they were rejected component. It has only gotten us one response who said, "I'll do the drive." At that point, the guy was an idiot because he couldn't read and did not get a response back.

But I'd strongly suggest looking at the cultural norms of where you are getting responses from to see if they see a SF as a piece of property to be controlled, ala, what THEY define Alpha as (what you are looking for) versus what YOU are defining Alpha as.

Good luck.

actually your right . i talking about the ones who dont have the courtesy to even say hello back interested or not .. its called manners . its real simple when someone says hi to you do you just ignore them or do you you say hello back

@floridabound. A response of 'no thank you' is a response. I never explain why. My answer is definitive.