Newbie question about events

As for our first experience...

We were scared to death. We sat in the lobby waiting for a "new couples orientation". On another couch across from us was a couple where she was clearly excited as hell and he was scared to death. We ended up knowing them for years, but never played.

We quickly realized that most attendees looked nothing like the website models and that there wasn't nearly as much pressure as we thought there would be. We had a great time just dancing, flirting, and returning to our room to fuck. We did that for months.

Let me first say that if your wife thinks that a dozen 20 year old cheerleaders are going to drag you away against your will, that's not going to happen. Dammit.

Back in 2006, I brought up the idea to Mrs. VA. We dove in by going to a hotel takeover in Richmond, VA in February 2007. We had rules. Hard rules and soft rules. It was 5 months before we actually played with anyone.

Hard rules = things are OK or not OK without question. No emotions can change a hard rule that evening. If a hard rule = no fucking anyone, well, that's the way it is, no matter how horny or drunk anyone is. It is completely unfair and unacceptable to bring up modifying a hard rule that night. You must trust each other that hard rules will not be broken or even brought up for discussion. Try to keep them simple and unambiguous.

Soft rules = you need an offline (ie NOT in front of other people and pressure) discussion to change them. If either of you says no, it's a no. No bargaining or arguing.

Will women hit on you? Maybe. If that bothers her THAT much than you need to seek out single guys alone. You can control your behavior but not that of other women.

Thanks for your responses. I am curious, but when did you guys know when you were ready for this lifestyle and when did you decide to go to one of the events? What was your reaction when you got there and what happened?
I appreciate any comments.

I think your wife has the complete wrong idea of what actually happens at a swingers club. The chances of a female making a move on you is pretty slim.
You'll get a better chance of response on the local forum and the club probably has a fb page. If your wife is insecure of women hitting on you, you guys probably shouldn't be in the lifestyle.

Wife and I were going to go to the event in Bham, AL last weekend, but she kinda got cold feet and we backed out. The event was the "naughty school girl" event. I was just wondering, who all went and how was it? I think it would be cool to go to the event and check it out and see how it goes. I just need some info to share with her so she can get over her fears. Currently she would like to enjoy the scenery and possibly have playtime with me in front of others and possibly have another man get involved (currently very limited involvement.) She isn't into sharing me right now and is scared that if we go to the event, I'd have women hitting on me and so forth.
Any information or suggestions out there, I would love to hear.

Thanks!