@eroticamazon. It isn't about getting laid. I have a few female friends I can go to for that. But I do not want to bring them in for different reasons. Since I am coming back into the lifestyle and it isn't something I have done I want to give it a shot sooner or later.
I am not trying to be a dick here. Why do you want to host a party?
Think hard and be truthful. That will dictate the success of your endeavor.
If you are doing this so that YOU can get laid. Well, that's different than just wanting to throw a party. Party hosts tend to be the last to get laid.
Once you answer that, I'll chime in with some more suggestions :)
We typically throw a party about every 6 weeks. We have done parties as small as 4 couples up to about 100 couples.
"some people decided to be anal expulsive"
So just when we think that we don't need to list a lot of boundaries something comes and smacks you right across the head to get your attention. Who knew?
Thanks to everyone. I will definitely look into all of that before I start a party. I haven't been to a swingers house party, just regular house parties. But I have been to a lot of swingers clubs and had friends over a few times and so on but that was it. I have a lot more research to do first before I actually throw one, but I would love to throw one. There is a lot to consider and do before hand. Thanks again.
Hygiene and cleanliness are huge. Be sure that the place inside and out is perfect. There have been places that we have driven up to but never entered and others we didn't stay too long at. Even if only a handful of people come you need to make a solid impression on them and staging the mingling/ play environment is huge. You may also want to be clear about if or where people can to water sports or scat play. We happened to be a party where everything crashed pretty fast when some people decided to be anal expulsive. Have some structure/ boundaries in place for your benefit and others. One thing to also note is that most often the hosts are the ones who play the most. Especially as being the solo host you will need to be sure that people are taken care of before you get taken care of. As suggested, if you can find a couple to co-host it will help you out in many ways. Good luck.
You probably didn't need a lot of sheets and towels at your regular parties. You will at a house party. Along with horizontal surfaces (yes, the kitchen counter will work, so long as it's clean), a decision about what kind of food to serve (not three bean dip), and if you're going to provide juices and soft drinks. But what you need more than anything else are attendees, so this is when you start putting a friend network together.
I don't remember if I've ever been to a theme house party. I've never thrown one, that's for sure. It might be fun, might compress your pool of attendees, might increase it. It probably depends on the theme.
Anyway, not to be negative, but the success of your party will depend on having a good mix of people, including some who are uninhibited and willing to take their clothes off and be the first ones to play. That's why throwing a party when you don't have at least some idea of the play styles of the attendees is a more dicey prospect than knowing a good third of them.
Have you been to house parties? What made the good ones work for you? What made the not so good ones not so good?
You are going to have to convince people that you are legit, and that this is not just a backdoor way for you to slide into some easy sex. This is going to be a hard sell, especially for your part of the country. East Orange, NJ is not known as a hotbed of swinging activity.
You are going to need a theme, and it can’t be “come to my house and fuck ‘cause I’m a great guy”. Some common themes are hotwife, BBW, interracial. Whatever you come up with, you’ve got to give people a reason to come out to your place on a Saturday night.
Your profile says that you’ve met folks from this site. Maybe you should start with some of them. If you can get some of your old acquaintances to get on an attendee list, that might encourage other people to sign up.
Good luck. You have an uphill road ahead of you, but we know single men who’ve been where you are now, and have had success for years hosting house, or hotel parties.
As for regular parties I use to throw those all of the time. So that wouldn't be the hard part. Since I have been gone for awhile the only friends that I still have is from b4 I stopped swinging and we do not talk too much now because of that. As for the type of invites I have no clue what's best so I don't know.
There's no simple answer to your question. Do you have friends, preferably couples, who will co-host? Are you planning on vetting your guests or just throwing it open as a hot date? Something in between?
How much experience do you have with throwing parties of any kind? What about going to them?
Hi all. I am thinking about throwing a small house party where I am. Just a few guess and nothing major. Since I have never thrown one like this before I am looking for some advice on the topic. If anyone has ever thrown one or has been to one, what is the best way to go about doing this?
