Female players

Age range 21-48 is probably a huge turn of for others on top of the rest.

This is going to sound harsh but you don't have anything to offer someone ½ your age except hesitation. I'd go 10-15 years younger, max. And a few years older. Mostly because it's otherwise unappealing.

Under 15 years and they won't have what you want. Experience and the patience to essentially cajole you off your pillow princess status.

Who ever you hook up with next has zero confidence that they'll ve sexually satisfied by you any time soon and that requires a unique person.

It's called tribbing and while you could definitely benefit from a trip through the threads in Better Profiles, it won't eliminate your lack of experience and uncertainty over performing oral sex. Plus you totally downgrade yourself for no reason that I can see. If you can't say nice things about your body, why would anyone else be enticed by it?

So maybe start by fixing that. Also fix your age preference toggles so that they're not less than half your age to two years younger and eliminate men if you aren't interested in them. And, as suggested, perhaps look elsewhere than a swinging site.

Well, start by having a pic in place of the pink gumby. Many will not look at a gumby profile. Second send your profile to the better profiles section and let people help you rewrite it. On the surface it sounds like a dating site is better suited to what you are looking for rather than a swinging site. With that in mind don't rely on websites... find a club or a party to go to. It will get you in touch with real people and help fight any discouragement you may experience. Good luck.

I'm female and I'm looking for a female friend/playmate. Why are they so hard to find? I'm pretty, clean, respectful and discreet. Can someone give me some advice?