Do you ever wonder about

I ran into a member couple as they were leaving a store and I was entering. She was talking to him (she's pretty and I first noticed her) and when I glanced at him, he was looking at me hard,

I thought it was because I was oggling his wife, so I nodded my head, smiled and walked past them.

That's when I knew who they were! From the site. I turned around and they had stopped. Talking to each other. I felt emboldened and approached them (they want SM in my age group), when they put their heads down and sorta ran towards the parking lot ?????

A few day later I checked their profile (they had not checked mine) sent an as yet unanswered message.

That's 1 couple I KNOW are in the lifestyle, I KNOW live nearby and I KNOW they're looking for my type....

I have since taken the non-answer as a NO...

I ran into a member couple as they were leaving and I was entertaining. She was talking to him (she's pretty and I first noticed her) and when I glanced at him, he was looking at me hard,

I thought it was because I was oggling his wife, so I nodded my head, smiled and walked past them.

That's when I knew who they were! From the site. I turned around and they had stopped. Talking to each other. I felt emboldened and approached them (they want SM in my age group), when they put their heads down and sorta ran towards the parking lot ?????

A few day later I checked their profile (they had not checked mine) sent an as yet unanswered message.

That's 1 couple I KNOW are in the lifestyle, I KNOW live nearby and I KNOW they're looking for my type....

I have since taken the non-answer as a NO...

No, I don't wonder; I'm lazy and can't be bothered with the merely theoretical. There are enough people in the world who make their interest in freaky sex obvious by hanging out in places where freaky sex is the norm that no matter how hard I try, I'll never be able to fuck all of them. So, casting around in vanilla spaces for additional candidates strikes me as a waste of time. And that's before we get to the career suicide possibilities.

A big revelation when we first got into the LS is that swingers look just like everyone else. Some may be more obvious, but most just look like everyday folks.

Ask about upside down pineapples or wearing a black ring on the right hand?
No matter what I will always wonder if people are like us or not? Would they be ok with lifestyle and would play ?
Wife and I always talk about do you think they are like us or not?
Life is to short and thankful for all we have been blessed to share fun times with.

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sorillo1000

So it's not yet time to bring out the bell bottoms I used to wear to the roller rink?

tbrmskss

When I was doing construction, a co-worker who looks like your wife could have gotten away with whatever the hell she pleases!

Cyclically returning fashion is fine... as long as it's not tie-dye and ginormous polyester bell bottoms, both of which need to die screaming in a fire.

<p>If I DIDN'T talk about sex and explicit stuff with co-workers, I'd probably get fired.</p>

My wife is a construction worker, and usually the only female at her job sites.

She can get away with a lot more than I can in the world of "My preferred pronouns are..."

RonKathy

So would that be the organization that convinced our HR department to quit referring to us as “employees “, but “Team Members” instead, because just changing the term was going to cause a great epiphany and everyone would feel like they are most special?

Or also tell us that we can no longer call someone by their nickname, because some other poor soul might find the nickname offensive, or feel left out because they don’t have one?

Better to just leave it alone these days...

Have to becareful not to cross the line with others at work and where ever.
Crazy tho we always wonder about others as, something said , or something to ponder about? Do the swing or not?
Never have figured a way to safely ask with out red flag or drama?

RonKathy

SHRM?

hotluvrs

I was recently hanging a monitor on the wall of one of our Department Manager's office. For whatever reason, the bracket wasn't going together right. She says to me "Having a hard time getting it up?" And gets a big laugh out of her own joke. Now this girl is married to one big sumbitchen' Cop, and is only six months out since her 2nd child was born.

I nearly bit my tongue in two keeping silent after that one.

Wantalern

Any more, if you were to ask a fellow employee (or is it Team Member this month?) about intentions or a hookup when you ran into each other at the Grocery Store, you could potentially lose your job for sexual harassment.

Always wonder?
Can't say at work?
Question then becomes how do you ask without drama?

I worked in the hospitality industry for years, and there was definitely a lot of flirting.

There were even a few times where we had some interesting parties.

But that was in the late 70's early 80's.

You get arrested for that shit now...

I look, I wonder, and I keep my mouth shut.

We hang out at a local bar where the women get super flirty with both me, and my wife. As often as they say risqué stuff, I still have to remember that they are, at their core, vanilla folk. They can joke, and pretend out a ménage a trois, but most would freak if we made a serious proposal.

So here is a question to ponder.

Does being in the lifestyle change the way you look at people you know or meet in non-lifestyle situations?

Do you ever come across someone at work, your kids school, or anywhere else that makes a comment, has a look, or just gives off a vibe that makes you think “Hmmmmm, I wonder if.........”
And if it is someone at work, how do you approach them without ending up in HR?

I work at a place that serves food and beverages. There are a couple female servers that will make remarks to me a little more adult than the professionally offended would care to hear. One day I’m kneeling down working on a table, and one of them walks by and says “When you are on your knees like that, your head is at just the right height “ and just walks away.

Later that same day, I see her leaving and tell her to have a nice evening. She says it’s going to be a fun night because they are having 2 other couples over for game night. When I ask what games they play, she just gives me a sassy look and says “Wouldn’t you like to know “ So I said “ Maybe something like strip poker or naked twister?” Her response was “Ick! That many people our age all naked in the same room would be gross!”

Was I reading things totally wrong because of my lifestyle experiences?