Do people not read profiles before contacting????

Certainly doesn't hurt...

In another thread you talked about something your wife does every day.

Maybe that explains why your wife is mellow enough to put up with you for so many years.

:-D

Mine has put up with me for 24 years, almost 17 married.

She tells everyone that my previous wives were placeholders until she got old enough...

<p>"<span style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Someone has put up with you for 15 years?"</span></p>

<p><span style="background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">My wife says that all the time. LOL. Course, I have to put up with her too.</span></p>

Someone has put up with you for 15 years?

Wow.

;-)

<p>I know that some people don't read profiles, but I don't believe it is as great a number as people think. Just because someone does not match everything in your profile does not mean they didn't read it. My advice I give people is that if you like another profile, send them a polite message. Doesn't matter what their profile says. Wayne Gretzky said, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take". You never know unless you try. They may make an exception. Maybe their profile is outdated and what they are looking for has changed. </p>

<p>I met my wife using an online personal site. Her profile stated, "No married men." I was still married at the time, although my wife lived in another city with another man by that point. If I didn't message her, I never would have met her and we have been married 15 years now. </p>

I'm convinced most people do not read profiles. I'm no spring hen and like my men my age or older. I can not tell you the high percent of extremely younger men reaching out. I try to be nice and write back but most do not catch the hint nor accept me saying not interested.

I also always fully read the profile. I actually like reading a good profile as you can get a sense of who the people really are.

If I do not match any of the requirements (e.g. age, looks, or something in the description), then I don't reach out. I'm not here to change people's minds or convince of them something.

My initial message always includes multiple things in the profile that I am compatible with or that I like about the people. In a small number of cases, I will mention something about a photo. I don't mention photos much, because looks are less important to me than intelligence, attitude, and personality.

Between this site and another I was on that was more popular in the area I lived previously, even the way I respond doesn't seem to cut through the huge amount of garbage I know most people get. I say seem because that's from my end. Maybe it does cut through and the people I message just aren't interested and/or are so overwhelmed with messages they can't respond. So, it is what it is.

JeffX_RebX

After looking at your profile, even if I didn't meet the parameters, I dam sure would take a shot at contacting you!

I look at it like walking through a casino, and dropping a $100 chip on 7 on the Roulette table. You know the odds are very long, but the payoff could be fantastic!

However, on the other side of the coin:

There are plenty of couples sending mixed messages with their profile.

When doing a flyover of the profile picture, the interest graphic shows a full blue line. To me, this means they have interest in, and will accept communication from single males. But buried in the body of the profile will be "no single males" or "single males we will contact you. Sometimes it is a line all by itself, and sometimes it is in all caps. Many times it is just part of a long list of short statements strung together. And since most people don't scour profiles like they are studying for a final exam, it can be easy to miss.

Granted, I am sure there are plenty who will see the solid blue line, check out the photos, and send a message without reading much anything more than maybe the age range desired, but many of us do actually read the profile, and sometimes we miss stuff.

I have personally contacted couples showing the solid blue line, with absolutely no mention for or against single males, and I got the "WE DON'T ACCEPT CONTACT FROM SINGLE MALES!" response, like I should have been able to decipher that from their posting.

At the bottom of my profile is a note that it's unlikely that I'll respond to single word messages. I still get single word messages. But that's okay, because then I don't have to talk to them to know we aren't a match.

miasfirsttime, I've never met a single woman who said she was bi and wasn't. Not saying that creature doesn't exist, but as a group we mostly are in this entirely to suit ourselves.

We have a few items near the bottom of our profile that weed out those who cannot read it's entirety.

@goodgolly

We get that all the time, they dont read profiles at all. Worst are, of course, the single guys or the ones you can tell arent with woman or are trying to have an affair.We state in our profile that if you are single, male or female, you must be Bisexual, and that any kind of activity will begin with the same sex starting the play, then the other will engage. Single Fems usually arent an issue .. 9 out of ten times, if she says she is bi ........... she is.

Wow, your phone is even prissier about language than mine is.

I've lost track of the number of guys - single or the male halves of couples - who have determined I'm not real based solely on my disinterest in them. Probably easier on them than acknowledging they're not exactly prime.

Nope, and one of my emails the dude sent even was so bold to claim if I don't reply he will know I'm not real?!?!?! .......

Well let's see, my books sure feel real to me, ..... Yup my prissy sure feels real and it's self basting as I play with it ....

...... Ok I'm back after playing with myself and I conclude I'm real. My reply, BLOCKED.

No assholes?

Well, shit. That leaves me out.

The great majority of folks don't bother to read a profile. They treat it like Oprah would Tinder: "You get swiped right, and you get swiped right, and EVERYONE GETS SWIPED RIGHT!"

Lots of folks over the years have put code words in their profile to help out the select few that take the time to read a profile. We tried it and gave up. We tried pointing out the obvious incompatibilities and gave up. Now we just ignore them. You can't fix stupid and you can't fix rude, two qualities tightly intertwined in the DNA of the swipe-right crowd.

"Lotsa the messages we get is from str8 singles"

not everyone who say they are straight are actually straight, especially males

Some certainly do. I was explaining that some argument can be made that efforts to read profiles might be better spent simply writing more emails. Sad but true. At least some take that approach.

Some have read our profile and interpreted it as an impossible list of demands. Really, it could be summed up as:

No liars, morons, cheaters, assholes, drama queens, or extras from Duck Dynasty or Hoarders.

@VA

they most certainly do not. Lotsa the messages we get is from str8 singles, while our profile clearly stats if you are single, F or M, you must be bi. With couples of course, we dont have that restriction. Both of us want to get on the pitch and have fun.

They, mainly the men, they are just relentless.

BTW ive read your profile and its very plain and informative ......... well if someone would read it.

PS: didnt scare us off at all!

probably because of one or more of the following:

1. They have nothing to lose. If they are out before you've even looked at them, what do they have to lose by trying anyway?

1. It works. Sometimes. Almost everyone will make exceptions to their demands under the right circumstances. I have had sex with a number of women who say they only fuck black guys or only play with women. Maybe you are the exception, but in most cases this stated preference presents little risk in being ignored. So maybe- just maybe - you'll bite. Again, nothing to lose. But if just one in 200 long shots returns a bite? Easy. Send 400 messages to 400 women, and you'll get some pussy.

1. Mathematics. Suppose your odds of a hit on a well thought out message to someone who, in principle, you match with, are 5%. But the odds of a hit on shotgunning (just sending the same copy-paste message to everyone) are 0.5%.

To find and read a potentially receptive profile and custom-craft a message for her might take 15 minutes each. So at 5% that means, on average, 300 minutes or 5 hours of work to get pussy.

To shotgun everyone probably takes about 30 seconds each. At 0.5% that means, on average, 100 minutes, or not even 2 hours, to get pussy.

Some will block for the intrusion, which actually increase their chances in the future, since 30 seconds won't be wasted on them again. Some will spit back nasty, which also saves you 30 seconds for each future round.

Like phone scams - quantity wins out over quality. Most people don't fall for it, but it's too much work to custom-craft scams for each mark. So just blast everyone and you'll win. Somewhere.

LOL, that cute :-)

Maybe 2.1%? ;-)

BT

I'm dumbfounded by all the messages I get from people who clearly have not read my profile. I've gotten to the point where I'm simply blocking these people. Maybe 2% of the messages I get are nice and genuine and I've met with many of the 2% who are very nice and wonderful people.

Dan welcome.. thats not true ref finding people swinging couples usually.. we get inundated daily with 4-6 messages from guys who send dick photos, did not read our profile on what we enjoy, have an opening line of "wanna fuck" etc etc.. if one anywhere swinging or in life have some game, good grooming habits, smell good , good in bed.. you will be succesfull!

The start is a interesting profile that shows one smiling, doing something exciting that says wow we want to meet him.. and YES our lucky SLS guys all have that and always have fun when we meet and travel together.. SLS is just one avenue for swingers and before 8 years ago always used word of mouth or hung in circles of swingers and lucky classy guys!

We find the guys who are successful in life are successful on SLS as they get it!