Discussion Group choices

"I also agree with EA. It's not the topic that's the problem."

Yeah, I don't think the topic is the problem either. Nor is it having a Politics forum, because the alternative is far more disruptive, as political arguments can bleed into what would seem to be topics that are far removed from all things political.

Plus, I'd much rather talk about ideas than blowjobs. It's probably heresy (speaking of religion), but ideas can go anywhere and a blowjob is pretty much a here and now thing.

Some small % of Open Forum topics are actually LS topics, but after a while, any single topic will get worn out and it's just different people saying the same things.

I agree with keeping the Politics forum because it does help contain those sorts of conversations. If nothing else, people are passionate about politics as a topic.

I also agree with EA. It's not the topic that's the problem. It's the intolerance to see things any other way as well as the lack of empathy and respect for the views of other's that's the problem.

"The issue with political posts as I see it. Brings out the worst in people and has zero to do with lifestyle!"

Yeah... but you just posted three times in ten minutes in the political forums.

The issue with political posts as I see it. Brings out the worst in people and has zero to do with lifestyle!

<p>If you look at the total forum post counts, you will see the following for areas with most posts (politics has the 3rd most posts):</p>

<p>1) Games: 143,000 posts</p>

<p>2) Open Forum: 131,000 posts</p>

<p>3) Politics: 107,000 posts</p>

<p>4) 3-Some: 26,000 posts</p>

<p>So, the top three most popular areas do not have anything directly to do with swinging. The first area that is specifically about swinging/sex has under 25% as many posts as those top 3 areas.</p>

<p>From what I have seen, most people posting in the forums and the chat rooms are not using those parts of the site to meet people/discuss swinging. They are using them more for general entertainment. </p>

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"but on a site where you are trying to connect with others, a forum that caters to many things opposite of bringing people together makes no sense to me."

Then do what post people do and ignore it.

I agree with Sorillo. No harm in having a political forum section and that’s where it lives. For people who want to banter/argue/discuss, go there. For those who wish not to be a part of it, well, don’t.

I rarely go in there because I like talking about sex and politics isn’t sexy to me. So why get rid of it? Corral the cats (and donkeys and elephants) in one place where the majority of us can just ignore and just go about our business of discussing threesomes and blowjobs. Topics on which I think we can all agree are much more fun and inclusive.

~LMK~

@Native

"Unfortunately I lost a connection with a cool couple because they may not have liked my political stance or how I defended a post."

I know this sounds snarky but that is NOT the intent.

Were they really a cool couple? To me, it sounds like a couple that let you exchange bodily fluids and as soon as they saw that you didn't see the world the way that they do ended it with you.

I have mentioned this story somewhere in the bowels of hell of my forum postings. In the political quadrant testing, I sit on top of, or next to Ralph Nader. That makes me one of those damn liberals. There are people in the lifestyle that I know are complete opposites. One couple, we had known for quite a while, got along with. They are, by definition, cultists. As long as the person had an R next to their name, they were the best person ever. They would excuse every bad behavior if the person had an R next to their name. They knew of my leaning and . . . the guy is not that dumb, he has a JD and she is a RN. When topics would come up, they would get defensive and emotional and not have a conversation. They silo'd. This is how cultish they are . . . she went into a grocery store during mask mandates, would not wear one, cussed and went full Karen on the workers to get tossed so her husband could file a suit against the store. They stopped talking to us because of my beliefs. Did I lose anything that I wanted to even keep?

There is another couple, they are awesome. He would come and bitch and call the state Commieforna and how he was going to just go to Arizona. I asked him why. It was because of limits on magazines for guns. We sat down and talked for almost 2 hours. Personally, I abhor guns. I feel the only purpose is to kill someone or something with it. But what he didn't know is that I am also a realist. I told him, "If I lived in Alaska, fuck you, I'd probably have a few guns. Bears are MEAN." He had never heard more than the headline from someone who was anti guns. I was also guilty of the same. I argued the 2nd that the government has tanks and your gun ain't gonna stop them. What he taught me was wonderful. He said, "I am not afraid of the government, they are not gonna go after the population. I am afraid of the weekend warrior cops." That turned into a discussion about how we both wanted cops to have better training. That conversation was a couple of hours before the party started. Yes, they had come over earlier.

So while I can understand your dad and uncle's position. I can disagree with it. And of course this is subjective and I am only right for ME, but I do wish more and more people would talk about these things, like adults. I have yet to see the discussion be the issue. I have seen how people handle the discussion be the issue.

I wouldn’t miss the political forum if it disappeared, as long as it didn’t just reappear littering every single thread “regular” like it used to.

~Scamp

The political forum shoukd all go, political threads by anyone shoukd ger a week timeout

We have many friends who are not politically aligned with us... both in and out of the lifestyle.

Talking politics in a forum is one thing but not something we ever do in a party situation. It's a boner killer.

Dad and Uncle were not wrong. There is a time and place when any and all conversation choices are appropriate. And this is only my opinion, but on a site where you are trying to connect with others, a forum that caters to many things opposite of bringing people together makes no sense to me. Unfortunately I lost a connection with a cool couple because they may not have liked my political stance or how I defended a post.

Yeah many years ago Politics did not exist as a category, and political threads just showed up everywhere else. At least having them all in one place makes it easier to ignore them.

I think your dad and uncle were wrong.

Talking about religion and politics has never been the issue. It is what people do during the conversation or after the conversation occurs that is the issue.

I wish more people would talk about politics and religion. That would end the silo effect that people have by getting into their silo, putting up their 'hear no evil' monkey picture. If people were able to talk and gain empathy, perhaps we would not be so divided. When people talk, you will find that we are so close in beliefs that we are arguing over minutia. But go ahead, listen to those two men and . . . yep, keep the division and tribalism going. How . . . unpatriotic.

you can always start a thread with what you would like to see such as funny sex stories in the open forum or jokes and funnies

Nothing wrong with discussing politics in the appropriate forums. Easy enough to ignore.

The forums aren't moderated closely enough to make politics a forbidden subject altogether.

A funny sex story thread would be entertaining, though.

"Getting rid of the politics forum would just mean that politics screaming matches would be EVERYWHERE on the fora, rather than mostly concentrated in one spot. "

I agree. Let's keep the politics in one place that I can avoid, instead of all over.

I also agree that political discussion doesn't belong on a swingers site, but then you get the people who say that since they paid for a membership they can post whatever they want. It does make weeding out potential playmates easier though when their real personalities come thru in their posts.

I'd have to respectfully disagree there. Getting rid of the politics forum would just mean that politics screaming matches would be EVERYWHERE on the fora, rather than mostly concentrated in one spot. Of course, some folks still jump into a discussion of blow jobs with and without ice cubes to scream "POLITICIAN JANE/JOHN DOE IS A GREAT BIG POOPYHEAD!!!!!", and then get pissy when they're told that it's probably better to have that discussion in the appropriate forum. Sigh

If there is one Discussion group in this forum that did not exist, or that you could get rid of, which one would it be, and what would you replace it with?

My choice would be "Politics" My dad and uncles always told me, never discuss religion or politics when trying to make friends or in a group setting with people you know, or want to know. I would replace it "Funny sex encounters" Over the years in the lifestyle, I have many to share that would crack you up.

I don't think toxic group discussions belong in a sex forum, but what the hell do I know?