Curious (now cautious) Newbies

Excellent advice.. and YES after 20 plus years we still run into guys who we meet that are cheating.. we have come across 3 profiles and meets just this past year! Even some who claim to swing as couples.. we now talk with "all" before to see if everyone is on same page as some woman did not have a clue they were on a swing site and the male half wanted "us" to talk her into swinging.

The big one for us is guys who cant play at their home along with other listed below by HollyB .. okay we get if they are divorced and have custody of kids.. we played with a guy over 6 years who has that issue..

We do not play that game and tell them we will find out if they lie etc about being married when we meet and have "that feeling".. .. its not rocket science in this day and age. All 3 admitted they have lied on SLS and we quickly moved on!

Good luck, let your feelings guide you both.. enjoy and yes vet all!

Welcome to SLS and the LS... Yes, there are some things to look for and they aren't always iron clad. The man you mentioned probably is completely fake. It isn't unusual for basement dwellers to have multiple profiles and even to certify themselves. There are tons of people on any site that are never going to do anything but send messages, ask for pictures, and ghost on you. Amid Covid it may be hard to, but get out to a club or a party and meet some real swingers.

Signs:

The indention or tan line on the ring finger where his ring was.

Feminine products on the sink in his bathroom selfie.

Pics taken in a hotel room not his crudy apartment.

Pics only taken in his car or will only video chat in his car.

Can only meet for day time play (not always true though).

When asked what his wife thinks about him playing in video chat he fumbles the question. The married guys always get a little pale with that one. Singles don't care.

There are others, but the big thing is to vet them well and always vid chat, not sex chat, to verify that they are real before you meet them. It will also let you know if there is potential for any chemistry.

Hello, we are new here and have a question (well probably multiple questions) about something we saw. We were messaged by a couple. A few messages went back and forth and kind of fizzled. No biggie. Then a couple weeks later a "newer match" popped up, and one of the parties looked familiar.
Long story short, the same guy, using the same pics of himself, in 2 different lifetime accounts, with 2 different women, in 2 different cities, each account online within hours of each other....... How do you spots cheaters?

Not that it really matters to us because we ended up not being interested. But it does matter to us because we are so new and already feel like we've been duped by 1 MFM playdate. We can only assume who lied to us about not being married or in some sort of relationship because he got a text mid-date, everyone having a great time, and all of a sudden "bad sushi" hit him.
What are some ways to make sure your playdates are on the up and up? Obviously talk and connect before hand, meet for dinner and drinks, hangout and don't play on the 1st meeting. We get all that. But are there signs to look for? or tells that douchebags have? We are not into cheating spouses at all, and it really made my prettier half kind of mad. Any "good" advice is greatly appreciated.
Thank you.