Being involuntarily outed: How common a problem?

I remember when the old CKS club was shut down by L&I. We loved that club. Dr. Mark & crew. Still have our membership card.

To specifically answer the original question, “but how big of a problem is this in the swingerverse? How often are swingers involuntarily outed? Asking for a "friend",

In my view, I don’t think anyone really knows, obviously because people work diligently to keep it private.

SLO

my husband had to go to a club on duty. they went to protect license and inspection who were were there to shut it down. we were members of the club. they wanted to take names. hubby had a talk with the capt. and lt. and said some high ranking officials go there so you might not want to take names, and so they didn't. we were just starting out in the lifestyle at the time. it was a little uncomfortable at our first M&G when people were complaining about the cops shutting down the club. it wasn't the cops that shut it down but L&I. there were issues with the building, like mattresses in front of the fire escape doors etc. but pretty sure one of those high ranking officials that attended complained to someone because they couldn't get laid there or something like that

If your concern is that your activities can create situations if revealed, don't do the activities. In other words, if you don't want people to know you went to the donkey show in Tijuana, don't go.

Being in the lifestyle for ~25 years we have seen the following:

Cops, Firemen, Doctors, Scientists, Pro Athletes, Rabbi's, Preachers, Pro Volleyball player, people who worked for agencies with 3 letters and all points in between.

The only time we have seen it be an issue and this is why we respect how people handle their profile was in the 90s when Trapeze was raided. The cops called the local news stations and it was televised! The problem is that the raid captured cops, firemen, teachers, lawyers, etc. They didn't expect to get their own. Those that had MORALS clauses in their contracts were fired. So bye bye cops, firemen, teachers. Some took a plea, some fought and were acquitted.

So if you have an employment contract with a morals clause in it, read it. If not, and you are exposed, you can either say yes, that is what I do and then the blackmail has no value or you can deny everything. This coming from a person who was on HBO's Real Sex and was outed.

Just don't put yourself in the situation where you need to worry about it.

I don't think being outed happens much, although I'm sure it occasionally does, as the people that see them at clubs or parties are also there for the same reason

Interesting stories. But yeah, we are talking about cases where being outed actually would end careers or similar results.
Like what happens when the preacher gets outed, or the politician. Or the town pediatrician
How often does that kind of stuff go down?

I got outed and survived just fine. I'm also the only person I've met that this has happened to, although I know more than a few people who are so open about their activities that they routinely out themselves. That's not what you're talking about though.

our son actually outed friends of ours. he was friends with their niece and mentioned that we were swingers and always going out with her aunt and uncle. we had to have a talk with him about it. we don't care who knows, but others might.

We don't advertise it, but don't care if it is known.

Our adult children know. Some of our friends know.

Both of our jobs are not the type where anyone would care.

After almost 20 years in dabbling in the lifestyle, honestly I have never heard of it outside a forum post on occasion, and even then it seems usually from an ex-wife/husband to family or something similarly vindictive. We have (and know many) who have occasionally run in to co-workers or family at a club or party, but in all our experiences, all parties involved just keep their mouths shut publicly and smile slyly when you cross paths in a vanilla environment.

In a more direct answer to your specific question, I'm sure it has and will happen at times, but it is not a common problem.

Many of us are in careers or communities where being know as swingers would be bad. It makes many of us nervous, but how big of a problem is this in the swingerverse?
How often are swingers involuntarily outed?
Asking for a "friend"