Interesting,
I've had the opposite problem as I've gotten older. Sometimes I reach a plateau where cumming is very difficult. Though it doesn't usually lead to the problem that Fokkers described (more lube perhaps?). And frankly I love fucking so it's more a matter of eventual, but contented, exhaustion. I realize this can be frustrated for "goal oriented" women.
So is this more a matter of drinking too much rather than having a drink or two?
Its all a head game.. especially for the "first" meet.. LOL.. thats why we do get it and invite those back who do get it.. but its fun to watch her bring life back to those who cum early.. the same night!
Or one just comes over the next day... Hmm wonder who that was..
Ok let me clarify..... Ok first let me say that Whiskey line was hilarious.. His cousin Honey Jack is my favorite...
But seriously.. When I said improve, I mean a few drinks over the course of the night. Most of these events are BYOB, especially in a club or house setting. If I show up at 9/10 and leave at 1/2, I'd say 3 drinks would have me at a level where it's desensitized a bit, and I clearly don't cum as fast as completely sober. Same if I smoke a joint or something.. But with alcohol, your inhibitions are a little lower, so you may act a little wilder during it.
Now this all goes along with something my friend told me yesterday. He went to his doctor and asked about why he cums so fast as he's getting older (over 50). He wanted some medicine for it. The doctor actually prescribed him some anti anxiety pills after asking a bunch of questions. What he explained was, a lot of men cum fast from the anxiety buildup and not so much the sex. And that lowering your anxiety, will often make you last longer.
Well both alcohol and marijuana are known to lower anxiety as well. So I'm sure that has something to do with it. And also why people feel the need to "take the edge off" before sex.. They're actually a little nervous and that does affect performance.
Plus booze breath sucks...
Not familiar with Henny Dick but I've met his brother Whiskey on a couple of occasions.
For me, a couple of drinks is no problem. Or a few more if they're spread out, as when on vacation. But getting really lit is something I do rarely, and it usually goes with laughter and comradery, not with swinging. It's definitely not a performance enhancer for me.
It's actually a bigger problem for my GF. A long afternoon and evening of drinking followed by sex, can often lead to migraines for her. Probably has something to do with de-hydration which, I suspect might be a factor in Whiskey Dick.
While lack of performance with a sexy lady is extremely rare for me, especially given that I routinely use "backup" when at lifestyle events, it is all too common with other men we end up playing with, which is a huge disappointment for my sweetie. If in doubt, don't overdo it because that outcome is as lame as it gets IMO.
We typically don't drink much if at all on play dates; it just isn't a good idea, not just a performance but a consent perspective.
I don't know if I'm crazy.. But drinking greatly improves my stamina.
They don't call it Henny Dick for nothing lol
I have drunk jack and coke my whole life and never had a problem with stamina I keep hearing that it will, but maybe I don't drink enough. In the past I have drunk a fifth in a night and still performed fine, but a normal weekend probably drink a pint mixed with coke have done that for the last 30 years,,,
Where we live a lot of people have government jobs that have frequent testing for drugs. We’ve met many couples who couldn’t smoke pot or eat gummies just because of their job Status.
Follow up on my original post—I’m happy to report we decided to contact this couple and have a discussion about the experience. Like I mentioned, we really did like them and wanted to see if we could adult our way through a conversation, and perhaps move past the issue if we could be assured it would not be repeated. It’s looking like we all are on board with apologies, moving on and realizing there was a four way connection that we are all interested in building. If we didn’t feel like we had that connection originally I would have not contacted them again. If we can spend time licking each other we should be able to talk about uncomfortable things if need be. Glad I reached out.
I take gummies at parties typically for that reason.
I can't stand the smell of pot while playing....Happened very few times but hated it and didn't care to play with those who were high...
I can appreciate that. 48 year old me is noticeably different than 38 year old me. I'm sure 58, 68 etc will show the trend continuing.
I'm merely suggesting that overall well-being and fitness can overcome the negative effects... to a point.
A remark from a few decades down range. Alcohol is handled differently by different people….but the effects are cumulative over the years. Older folks have less tolerance for the adverse effects. Sure, stamina matters. But so does appearance, cardiac health, brain health, liver function, …. When your body starts telling you “enough”…listen.
I have found that sufficient exercise and sleep have been sufficient in maintaining stamina against moderate amounts of alcohol.
A little story that ties into what you are talking about :)
About 20 years we were invited to a party at someone's house. It was about 8 or so couples. I am the odd one. I do not drink. I do not do drugs. I do not do coffee. I go through stages where I do too much sugar. Someone brought out a BAG of cocaine. I had never witnessed the level of power that a bag of coke had over some people. The guys were just enamored with it. They were snorting it and that is all they wanted to do. Guess what that left? One guy who was not fucked up, with a hardon, and a bunch of horny women. One of the best nights of my swinging life :)
I like your idea that you ask people about getting drunk. If you really want to control the situation, bring limited alcohol that will last about a drink or maybe two. If you are looking for two couple-type events, then I'd be direct and ask them about drinking. If it is a party type environment . . . well . . . I'd find people like me!
We know some people in the lifestyle that one is in AA. When we are around, my wife doesn't drink. We have had small parties with them there and no one has drunk. Perhaps, tell the people that you are meeting that someone is in AA and can they refrain from drinking. I dunno, you may get a little mileage out of that.
" It’s particularly frustrating when we really like the couples but it turns out the alcohol intake is a problem."
We've met a few couples where both drank to excess. No fun... plus there's the issue of consent when someone is inebriated.
I am with Flip, weed much better at taking the edge off, it gets you horny AF. Too much alcohol and while I will get and stay hard, I will never cum. I can just keep going for literally an hour to the point where the friction just makes it unbearable.
Weed > alcohol for stamina all day long
Its easy for "us" those guys who drink too much at a meet and while playing will NOT be invited back and asked to leave!
Having a drink is a great way to relax and for many people takes away the nerves. When we play with another couple my husband specifically sticks to low alcohol intake because he knows if he over indulges his stamina will suffer. However it’s been our experience not all men take such things into consideration. When we plan a date we are there to play. We like to hang out for an extended period of time where we chat, play, eat, play, maybe play a game (cards anyone?) and play. We feel like we are particular with our partners but lately I want to ask the guys “are you here to get laid or get drunk?” It’s particularly frustrating when we really like the couples but it turns out the alcohol intake is a problem.
