What do you do if a condom breaks?

“ I don’t think there is anyone here that wouldn’t do the right thing in this situation”

This was my thought exactly, hence my original response. However, subsequent posts indicate that some people don’t take this kind of situation seriously. I’m obviously at odds with that type of attitude.

A cavalier attitude towards personal rules and boundaries is one of those things that push my hot buttons. We’ve been in situations were men mostly, but women also, have tried to push their selfish and self centered desires upon my wife. I see that as predatory behavior.

By the way, 2ndAct, thank you for thinking that we might somehow be virtuous. It’s been years since we’ve been virtuous, and I assure you that my thoughts while reading your posts are any thing but.

Yeah, yeah. Make sure to virtue signal. Its important.

I don’t think there is anyone here that wouldn’t do the right thing in this situation. But, yes... let us know how virtuous you are.

Pregnancy issues and STDs are a secondary concern with a broken condom.

The primary concern is that someone who willingly, and knowingly continues to fuck after a condom breaks is then fucking in a manner without consent. Fucking without consent is tantamount to rape.

I have only had one break with my wife and we chalked that up to a defect. A certain percentage of any product is likely to be defective. Imagine how many condoms are used worldwide per year (heck per day) and that would amount to the potential for thousands if not millions to break. Of course this is based on assumptions and not hard data. The fact is one slipping off due to putting it on improperly, some "softening" between getting it in place and getting it on, or many other reasons is more likely. Either way you stop, let your partner know, and replace if agreeable or just be an ass like some seem to suggest and continue on.

2nd Act. Haven't had a break since I switched brands. I think previous ones were just a bit too snug.

But HavingFunTogether2113 a vasectomy does not block you from an STD. You need a condom to prevent pregnancy and STDs in the lifestyle.

VASECTOMY"s, "they take the worry out of being close."

to 2nd act: Not at all.. guys who are "big".. it has happened several times with Magnums too! Always use "Pink Lube".. too.

Probably 3 times in 20 plus years.. so yes we have seen it happen with good quality condoms. Our guys are gentleman stop and put on another one.

If a guy does this, and catches herpes, warts, gonnorhea or HIV, would it be poetic justice?

I had a condom break once in my early years in the life style. I stop and immediately told the women and she just said "ok" and asked "do you have another one?". I replaced it and we continue having fun. I'm not sure why it broke but maybe not enough lubricant.

Honestly... never once in my life time (I'm 48) have I ever had a condom break. Maybe my dick isn't big enough for that... or maybe it's because I always buy good mainstream brand condoms (Trojan, Durex, etc). Or maybe I've always been with girls who get super wet and therefore not enough friction to cause a tear. Who knows????

Are you guys who keep experiencing breaks using gas station condoms? Are you hung like Ron Jeremy? What's up?

“ But now I'm starting to realize why so many reacted because condom breaking is more common then I thought.”

Wait, that’s what you realize after reading 50 comments? 2 or 3 were about a condom actually breaking on them and the rest were about breaking somebody’s face if he kept going. I think you’re just waiting for somebody to justify being a scumbag and continuing after a break.

When I originally posted this question I did not think it was going to get much of a response. But now I'm starting to realize why so many reacted because condom breaking is more common then I thought. I see many on here have experience it in one way or another and was not happy thus the negative reaction to the question. Maybe I should have been a little more sensitive when posting the question. But now that we know it is a real issue lets continue the dialog and listen to each other without trying to point fingers or shame folk. The question is an open ended question so feel free to add any constructive point to the conversation that you think it may need.

The last couple we was with said they didn't care if we used condoms. OH HELL TO THE NO. It scare my husband so he cut it short. Afterwards he said those people are out here playing around with out protection, and a condom can break. I picked with him about it, but It is just to unsafe in our opinion. But each for their own

Continuing after the condom breaks without telling your partner is equivalent to taking the condom off in the heat of the moment and lying about still having it on.

I’m not by nature a violent man, but a guy did that while playing with my wife. Somehow, I refrained from stabbing him in the neck... yeah, that’s how serious I feel about that violation of trust. Kinda feels a little rapey.

Playing can get surgical right! Not sexy but necessary at times and each strong secure couple can decide maneuver on the fly. Organic flow vs whatever else. Be true to each other and it will work out.

Well, RusticMagic, you'd assume wrong then.

I'd tell you what... these forums would be a whole lot more fun (and useful) if people didn't use them to try to antagonize people and judge them for things they know nothing about. I mean... would your energy be better spent enjoying building relationships in the lifestyle rather than trying to shame people that you don't even know? Seems kind of silly, don't you think?

2ndAct but you do occasionally play with couple who require condoms because you have not said you exclude those who require them. Your very answer you suggest you would be wearing one and continue if it broke or came off. That says a lot. If you are playing only with couples who do not require a condom then your answer would not even be applicable to the question at hand. By answering in the manner you did one can only conclude you are only concerned about yourself and not your partner.

Before you get super judgy, we don't typically play with couple that require condoms... So, my answer was a theoretical response for a forum post. So... ya' know... relax!

2ndAct regardless of the reason you are asked to wear one if it breaks or slips off the right thing to do is stop, tell your partner, then if agreeable put a new one on and continue. Your comment shows a blatant disregard of the other person involved and says a lot about you.

Ah... I assumed you were talking about condoms from a birth control perspective. We aren't big condom users and when we are asked to use them, it's usually with younger girls who are concerned about getting pregnant. So, that's where my perspective was. If she was worried about STD's, I guess I'd strap back up.

If being fixed makes it fine, why is a condom used to begin with?

"Fixed" or not - condoms are used for more-than just birth control - they also provide a highly effective barrier against most STDs, which is why responsible, VAS-safe men continue to use them - and replace them should breakage occur!

I'm fixed... keep going ;-)

Wildwindow2. We was friends and saw each other daily on campus. We talked about it for weeks. If it was in her , it stay until our graduation.