So what is wrong with me?

A true swinger should always be thinking, the more the merrier and the harder my cock will be....

You may have hit on your issue. If you were able to perform doing separate room play, same room may be too distracting for you.

So any way I will bare my soul lol. Been trying this LS for a bit and for some reason , it is difficult for me to get hard when I am with another woman. I can get a boner all day long with my Mrs , but in a playtime situation it just doesn't seem to happen. I an realizing fit, take a daily Cialis for BPH and don't drink that much. We always play same room, except for one time and the plumbing seemed to work. My Mrs encouages me to enjoy myself , but I am a pleaser and really enjoy the lady getting off . Understand it could be nerves , maybe not. Any constructive feedback is welcomec . PS I took Viagra once and had the worst headache I can remember and it didn't do a thing