Playing alone wife doesn’t know

It’s too early in the morning for this shit.

Message to the original topic creator, or “0P“: HEY!! You’re 25 years old!!! Get out NOW, before you rack up a lot of years with a friend, who doesn’t love you and that you don’t love.

Don’t hang around here. Go to the grocery store every day and hang around the avocados. Touch and gently squeeze the avocados. Pretty soon a bored housewife will come around and ask you if you know how to tell if an avocado is ripe. Your answer should be, “I treat avocados as I do womens’ breasts. If they feel soft, yet firm, like women’s breasts I know they’re ripe! What’s your name?”

SLO

I see a divorce in the future

I see a divorce in the future

I had a breeding pair of them one time.

But then, they multiply so goddamn fast, I rounded them all up and took them down to the beach and cut them loose. They’re all over the place down there now! Hell, they turned them into a protected species down there! How about that?

SLO

An egret is....

“a heron with mainly white plumage, having long plumes in the breeding season.“

SLO

douglasSwinger58Funcpl805 as difficult as that was to read I have a suggestion for you. Hire a hooker. That way you get what you want guaranteed and do not expose a couple or single female to your cheating and any possible negative repercussions from it.

Simply put cheating, regardless of how good a reason you have, has no place in the lifestyle. Be it done by a male or female (we know both that do). If nothing else it exposes your play partner(s) to being drug into court during divorce proceedings but worst case they get sued for alienation of affection or whatever the law that allows the cheater's spouse to go after the other party and get compensation. If you do not care enough for those you are having sex with to protect them from that you really should not be having sex with anyone.

Does that mean "Don't have a bird"? ;-)

@that7girl: egrets-that's funny!

Hope you have no egrets.

Not everyone, pcbguy. I don't care. ;-)

Chickenleg, you might want to go read a bunch of threads in Better Profiles. Even if you decide you'd rather not have people critique your profile, you'll pick up some really helpful tips.

I guess I’m going to step in it here, but . . . . I have met as many “cheating” women here as those who abhor any cheating. I believe there are similar numbers of committed couples, not so committed couples, singles who are single and singles who are not. To me, the most important virtue is honesty. Explain your situation, and baggage, and let the the potential partner decide without being judge mental or thin skinned. And, regarding baggage the worst I have encountered was a married couple who claimed to not want to play with cheaters or hall pass singles, but both had been previously married so many times that the baggage was omnipresent.

Ok, now I’m going to hear about it from everyone!

My wife knows, she's the one signed me up on here. I'm having no luck, but I'll keep trying

I’m a husband with a hall pass. If a female wants to play alone I would think she would want to talk to my wife first... my wife has a hall pass and everyone involved knows what’s going on. I couldn’t live with not being upfront and honest.

OP: Rather than beat around the bush, if you KNOW your wife would understand, why not just talk to her about it? You are leaving out details that is shooting any cred you might have had here full of holes.

If you said you talked and she said, "Yeah, whatever, but I don't want to know when you do it.", that would be one thing. That's not what you've been saying though.

Are there cheaters here? Yes, of course there are, but cheaters (even among swingers) are almost universally despised. In fact, they may even be more despised here because one of the reasons for swinging is that it eliminates the reason to cheat simply for sex.

it's not "playing" if your wife doesn't know. It's cheating

"I thought that was a typo and the OP meant to say his wife would not understand. That would make more sense, you know?"

That's the way I read it as well and since there is no mention of a spouse in the profile, I think the wife is totally unaware of this profile and the OP wants to keep it that way.

~Scamp

If the wife "would" understand then her endorsing a hall pass for you to play without her would help. Even then, there isn't likely to be alot of demand for a 60 year old married man playing alone.

Sorry if I misread the cheating part, but if your wife is truely OK with it then her endorsement would help.

If she's like, "Yeah, whatever" but wants no part of it, you're kind of back between a rock and a hard place.

I thought that was a typo and the OP meant to say his wife would not understand. That would make more sense, you know?

OP, I think folks are surprised at how vehemently swingers are about cheating. I mean we're a group of slutty, sex positive folks who fuck other people's spouses all the time. Who better to understand, right?

Yeah, you'd get a much more understanding ear from your neighbors, many of whom probably have cheated.

Many of us have risked our relationships to talk about what we really want and had those potentially difficult conversations instead of cheating. So even those of us who might be sympathetic to someone's plight (sexless marriage or whatever) are more than likely to tell you to suck it up and talk to your wife and divorce if you can't find a mutually satisfactory path forward.

Ashley Madison or a bar are better bets than any swinger website for finding partners to your cheating.

"So I am new to this and know (not don’t think) the wife would understand."

Sounds like you're lying to yourself as well as your wife.
If you really know she would understand why wouldn't you tell her?

You shouldn't be "swinging", swingers don't cheat. Be honest about what you're doing.

This is a swing site. Swingers don’t cheat. You are a cheater, not a swinger. You have no business being on here.

Come clean with your wife or get off this site.

~rabbit~

Single guys have a tough time finding playmates. If you can't host at your house, and have very limited availability, then exponentially harder.

"Ashley Madison."

Revealed to be a scam. Tens of thousands of men paying to talk to 10 real women looking for a fling, 1000 women paid to pretend to be looking for a fling, and bots to handle most of the easy responses.

My issue with OP's question is, if you know she would support you, why do it behind her back? If she knows about your activities and approves, it's not cheating. If you do it without her knowledge and consent, you're betraying the most important person you have in your life. Swinging requires openness and trust. Without those, as stated earlier, you should be on Ashley Madison.

Thanks for asking. I won't speak for anyone else, but I do not play with those cheating. I get pissed when they tell me after, so at least you are being upfront. Good luck, hon.