How long did it take?

Since I blocked NC I can't see what he's saying. For anyone else reading who might be taking notes, Ms. Molly is right.

A while back we had a guy send us a message. His profile was fine, nothing exciting, no red flags, he wasn't rude when he messaged us but something told me to pass. I sent him a message back saying we weren't a match and wished him well.

About a week later I checked in here and the guy had been posting some. He was pretty disrespectful to a few of the ladies, and like NC, felt because he was on sex sites he should have women throwing themselves at him. I told the guy that I knew there was a reason why I passed on him but I didn't know why at the time. People can look amazing on paper, er, on their profile, but get them talking and their true personality shines.

Good God man, stop embarrassing yourself. It's obvious to everyone in this thread and in charlotte except you.

Look, pretending to be nice only gets you so far. Many of us - and by us I mean women - have semi-decent instincts about men to stay away from. You aren't actually nice, it's merely a very thin veneer, which is why a good profile won't help. There is something wrong with you and if it was a smell, everyone within smelling distance would be wrinkling their noses and backing away. The lack of response you're getting is the on-line equivalent of that.

Troll! Troll in the dungeon! Thought you oughta know.

I too am going to put this here and then block you later (or you can block me), because you're a complete waste of oxygen.

The reason other people have success and you don't is because they have something women and couples want and you do not. It's not about what you do or don't do with your profile, it's about who you are.

I have a teacher who has been saying for the entire 15+ years I've known her that how you do anything is how you do everything. She's a Buddhist and that sounds like standard Buddhist thought, so it might not be original to her, but it's true. The you that whines, snivels, acts entitled, doesn't like women, and bounces around like a flea with Borderline Personality Disorder here? That's the person who would be showing up to fuck and that is a solid no for anyone who isn't completely lacking in anything approaching a grain of self-preservation.

This is the definition of watching a train wreck. I love it. Dude, I'm old, fat, hairy and bi. Yet somehow I managed to meet some very nice women and couples here. It's not rocket science but apparently it is for you. Good luck lol

Heheh, looks like NC has spread the fact that he's a problem to an even wider set of people in the LS. Oh, but don't worry NC, I'm sure no one in the Charlotte area, with a metropolitan population of over 2 million, has seen your negative posts littered all over multiple threads on one of the most popular LS websites in the US.

May I make a suggestion? How about we l ignore this whining loser and maybe he will just go away.

Mayhem, I just blocked him. He reminds me of the kid who is throwing a fit because his friends have the toy he wants.

According to TOS, as long as you pay you can have as many paid accounts as you'd like. He'll be back. I'm sure.

When we joined the site, I was pregnant. We didn't meet anyone to play because I was on pelvic rest. About 3 months after I had the baby we met a couple. I think it's different for each person/couple. But this guy joined in the middle of a pandemic, and the holidays. Several of us told him that multiple times. But, he's here, and he should get laid! I wonder if the app brought him here...

capcl - Though I blocked NC, I suspect I'll see him again as I think he is on at least his 3rd new profile. It wouldn't surprise me if SLS support starts to put a limit on how many times a year they will let you create and move to a new profile. Probably not a lot of work, but why support this kind of behavior?

When you think about it, how long one person takes before their first encounter has little bearing on when anyone else will. More so now with Covid and the holiday season. In less than a week we will be gettting together with immediate family so won't be playing until after that. If we had plans for New Years, we'd probably not be playing the following week either, but for now we have no NYE plans for this year, family or otherwise.

You’re trying to force a square peg into a round hole. Trying to jumpstart your way into the lifestyle right now, and displaying your frustration publicly is the equivalent of someone trying to start a business selling a discretionary product during The Depression. It’s the 1930’s and you’re pushing a new car. It’s reliable, comfortable to drive, looks snazzy...What the hell? Why isn’t anyone buying?

Look at it this way, if you joined OKC, Match, Bumble, or Tinder right now, would you be successful meeting people and going on dates? Just because people in the LS are more expressive and liberal with their bodies, why would you think your success rate would be any better?

We offered you advice based on what worked for us as individuals. There were no guarantees offered and I’ll bet not one of us said it would be easy, did we? And none of us began this endeavor during a pandemic.

This isn’t a free sex site. It’s a site of sexually free-minded people, and if you think being a nerd is a detriment, you’re way off base. Most of the people I’ve met are quirky in their own way, which makes them infinitely more interesting.

No expectations. No disappointment.

BT

BTW, my parents wouldn't care. There is no shame in my family. And I wouldn't care if my own daughter was in a non traditional relationship.

"Have you seen how some of these ladies portray themselves on this site? On SDC, 90% of the lady’s (sic) are showing some nude part and a lot have videos in action. If I see a couple like that then yes I do assume it should be a slam dunk." -- From the bias against singles post when NC was Harddaysnight2022

He expects pussy to drop down on him because he is here.

If you are looking for a sure thing, there are escorts. No one here owes you a fuck just because they're here. We may be slots, whores or whatever else you want to call us, but that doesn't mean we fuck everyone that moves.

NC - I will leave this up long enough for you to see it. Some of us tried to help you, but you cannot help someone that refuses to help themselves. At some point today I wiill be blocking you, because I have no interest in watching someone self destruct. Since R&K have blocked me, you guys can have at it all you want. Good luck.

NC - Why do you torture yourself like this? We all know it can suck to be an SM on here. When you finally do get yourself out there and to parties, this CAN come back to bite you. Having a big online presence can help you or hurt you. This is not a case of "any publicity is good publicity".

As an example of this, one time at a party, the host asked me what our online name was. When I told him, he said, "OHHHH, so YOUR Mayhem8. A lot of people here have asked about you."

In your case, you'll get a similar reaction but it will be, "So HE'S the one constantly whining in the SLS forums." Seriously, your best bet right now would be to do a RonKathy and literally delete every post you've ever made and maybe by the time you get to go to a party, people will have forgotten.

I'm saying this to help you, not to be a smart-ass, because like I and others have said, some SMs are their own worst enemy. You are a perfect example of that. Stop shooting yourself in the foot ;-)

having visible pictures would help. most people would just pass you by without them

Depending on your standards and those that are looking to meet it could be soon or an extended time. We get contacted all the time. Doesn't mean we would play with those contacts. Selective, selective, selective!

You didn't put any reference to the starting date... How long from joining this site or joining the lifestyle?

My first encounters were with my best friend/FWB. So playing with a couple was pretty quick. Maybe my third outing (Clubs). I have never played with a single woman, if I was with another woman as a couple...... As a single man, I played with my first single on SLS in months.. maybe 2-3. My first couple maybe in the first year. Offline as a single, I have never played with a couple (that I met that night). And it was maybe 2 years before I went to a party as a single man and played with a single woman.

I've been at mostly events/clubs.. 2-3 house parties...

The best times were the ones unexpected and happened right away...Mary Jo

If the couples are local, usually 2-3 weeks after mostly chatting with the husband. Others have been longer due to schedules, distance, and now even longer with Covid in play.

6 months - really? I had an MFM encounter with a local couple 2 weeks after joining SLS.

If there was ever a case to be made for LS parties, this would be it. We went to a house party in RI pre-Covid. Very few playing, so the Mrs and I went to the open room and played. We were joined by 4 guys and, after I warmed the Mrs up, all 5 of us did the Mrs multiple times. When it was over, we found out that it was the first ever party for 2 of the 4 guys.

Not saying a guy will always get lucky right out of the gate like that, but it's a LOT more likely to happen at a LS party than online. Of course if a guy has to drop $100 to attend a party, he could probably hire a lady of the evening where that $100 would be a sure thing, but I'd think it'd be a lot more fun having sex with a woman that wanted to versus one doing it because they were getting paid.