Been quiet

“ Additionally, I get the whole in shape thing but never knew it was such a big deal. I thought people would look for every day people that are like them and people weren’t so picky. ”

Fuck, I really do not like defending this jackass, but if you’re gonna knock him at least critique his full statement, not the part you can use to fit your narrative. In this statement he’s talking about being fit. He’s not talking about race or gender. He’s talking about women with a few extra pounds desiring the fit guy and not the guy with a few extra pounds. How is this borderline racist and a dig at women? Speaking of women, I thought all you race baiters didn’t believe in genders anyway. Stop trying to find something that isn’t there. What we have is a middle aged fat guy that is bitter that the chubby women looking for sex are getting it from fit young guys. Nothing more, nothing less. Just a miserable guy that thinks the world is out to get him.

8INCHCABLE

“But those fancy name brand clothes should at least garner a hand job, if not a blow job.”

Back in the 80’s when Jordache jeans were the hot ticket, I spent what would have bought 2 pairs of Levi’s or 3 pairs of JC Penny Plain Pockets on 1 pair of Jordache, thinking they would make me “all that “.

Man, did I find out different.

It apparently baffles the OP that women, given a chance, steer clear of men who hold women in contempt. And given that it doesn't even take much of a scratch for the OP to display his contempt of women, it does anything but baffle me that women nope out on him.

For some of us, it's fine if you have a dad bod, but be a decent human. If you can't start with that as a baseline, even being ripped isn't going to open all vaginas, maybe not even most.

Well none of us will be surprised if you pop back up again with yet, another profile name. I too, do not think he is racist, per se, but I do believe he has a hidden fascination with BBC. So his statement of "This is a world I stumbled upon and never thought the whole BBC thing was so true".
Kind of proves my point along with many other posts and comments from him about BBC. Yes, he also uses it as an excuse as to why he is not being contacted without really looking within himself.

"I thought people would look for every day people that are like them and people weren’t so picky". Now that line is borderline racist and a dig at women. Stick with your own kind and don't be so damn picky? Geeze guy, and you wonder why no one wants to be in contact with you.

Let me order more popcorn as I do not believe this saga is over

This is a world I stumbled upon and never thought the whole BBC thing was so true. Additionally, I get the whole in shape thing but never knew it was such a big deal. I thought people would look for every day people that are like them and people weren’t so picky. It is what it is.

“ But if you have seen most of his posts over the last however long, you know that he is obsessed with the fact that some women like black guys.”

100% correct. He complains that black guys have six packs and big dicks. Then, holy smokes, he has the gall to say women like buff guys and big dicks. Envious yes, racist, no. However, like I said earlier, if you’re the type that looks for racism, you’ll be sure to find it. Find it in your view anyway.

“ The fact that he has to mention a particular race without the facts to back up his claim is racist in my view. ”

Of course it is, that’s my point.

But those fancy brand-name clothes should at least garner a handjob, if not a blowjob. Am I right?

But if you have seen most of his posts over the last however long, you know that he is obsessed with the fact that some women like black guys. It’s his #1 excuse for not getting laid.

Bi guys and ladies, quick.... Give him some asshole and pussy so he stays!

The fact that he has to mention a particular race without the facts to back up his claim is racist in my view. You viewed the comment as something positive, I viewed it as a backhanded compliment.

Does he know for a fact that black males are the female's flavor in this lifestyle? Hell no, no more than any other race, the comment did not need to be included in his post.

You have your opinion and I have mine, I respect your input and thoughts on this.

We all agree this guy is a nut case, however, how is him saying the women in his area enjoy black guys racist? You mean like racist towards his own kind, the white guy? Saying something positive about somebody/some people isn’t racist, it’s actually a compliment. Unfortunately in 2022 everything is racist to some people. Seriously, WTF?

@One

“ What you can’t compare me to are the black males that the ladies seem to like around here.”

Your comment is racist and baseless!

Happy for you that you can believe you are the best looking man known to the masses. There is an obvious here to consider. Have you ever driven by a property that is well kept, catches your eye doesn’t it. And it goes without saying the external care usually translates to the internal care.

So I will be direct now - a person’s external is a reflection of their internal in most cases. Being overweight in your case seems to translate internally to a negative person. The reality is negativity is not a character trait that people run to. But run from!

LOL Exactly we even have a new personnel trainer for 3 months each of us.. .. and oh wait he ended up in our bed after month ONE!

OH, took you up on the search challenge. Well you are definitely in the the bottom percentile when it comes to singles in your area. There's a lot of them much more attractive than you. Even culled out the non-paying profiles. This is why over and over again people recommended that you get to the gym and do some self-improvement. When I can run into 40 fit men in the first couple of pages of results it makes it pretty simple to cull out those that aren't. Those guys will always get the first consideration and keep in mind this is about fantasies and preferences. There are very few couples out there that you would fit. The system works. You just need to put in some work for yourself.

My Gd he is BAAAACK!

How funny we have new single guys all the time that get it !

Fun4mature - I challenge you to do a search of single males in Charlotte. I am willing to bet you I am one of the better looking ones, have a profile, and know how to write a message. What you can’t compare me to are the black males that the ladies seem to like around here.

Wrapping it up on the 14. This is all a cluster and to many crazies.

FLIPFLOPS

I’m pretty sure it’s or so.

When it comes to flouncing out, practice makes perfect, I imagine.

I think this site is very hard to actually meet, but seems to list many functions/house parties and swinger clubs/cruises so may be best to just use that part of the site....i have never met with anyone thru emails..I met several couples and played with them thru group events listed on SLS....There are many dry spots in the USA with SLS...Use search function for your area and see what there is i guess.

It is. I try to step away and think about what I have done wrong and try to implement some new ideas. Every time I do that I fail.

If your positive response rate is only 2%, it doesn't sound like it's the lifestyle or the couples that are the issue...

I've seen plenty of people dunking on you here and insulting you, so I'm not gonna do that. I will tell you that it's probable that you may need to reassess your expectations and/or your approach. It is difficult being a solo male in the LS-and it's a numbers game. There are TONS of SMs in the lifestyle, so couples can be selective. Add in the fact that you have to hold appeal to BOTH members of the couple, and it makes it challenging.

It's none of my business, but you may want to look at your solo dating life-how challenging is that? Go ahead multiply that by about 100 and that is a more fair gauge of being a solo male in the lifestyle. It's not impossible, but it's difficult. It also makes the successes in the LS that much more worth while.

Isn't that the 3rd time or so you let the membership go or quit the site ?

Nope I am done. Membership ends on the 14. All good here.