While this may not always be the case, when reaching out to a couple, you may want to mention you have a LS girlfriend. I realize you say this in your profile, but a couple may better respond to an SM that has a GF vs one that doesn't.
AA: The very first step I would take is to read the profile carefully. A lady or a couple will often tell you what they are into. If the profile does not tell you, you have a much more difficult task.
If their wants/desires match what you want, then state that you think you all are a match based on these traits. Offer a brief but pithy compliment based on the profile, and -- MOST IMPORTANTLY -- suggest a date/meet/coffee/whatever to actually meet them/her in person.
For us, we love single guys. We love single guys a great deal. Almost no single guys/hallpass guys suggest a date or meetup. For us we wonder if they are interested or not.
To recap: A cute joke, a compliment, a statement that shows you read the profile, and then an offer to meet and buy her coffee/wine works great.
We actually cover this with great advice from many others in the Fora here...under:
Successful Swinging...Achieving Single Male Success ...on post entitled Single Guy Guide to Success....we cover Communications deep in the post.
What are some effective and respectful message ideas I can use to connect with a lady or couple looking for a guy, considering that I've been in the lifestyle for two years and I'm in an open relationship with my girlfriend, who supports my exploration?
