What is a hotel party like?

If someone is having regular parties at a hotel, it's a good chance the management already knows from the housekeeping staff.

Wife and I owned a club and we started in Hotels. We'd get a suite till it got to the point of over crowding.

THAT IS MORE OR LESS WHAT THE PARTIES ARE IN NJ,BUT IN MOST HOTELS YOU HAVE TO BE QUIET,WE DONT WANT THE MANAGEMENT KNOWING,MOST PEOPLE ARE VERY FRIENDLY, JOE

Good advice from AndrewRobin. We’ve met 2Tall several times, and we’ve attended one of the hotel takeover parties. The parties are well organized, and very well attended by couples and single women.

There are also online chat groups where potential party participants can get to know each other before an event.

Craftychick317,

I see you live in Indiana. For what you want, you need to check out the 2Tall hotel takeover parties that happen about every 6 weeks in Indianapolis. It's a reputable party with plenty of good people who attend and a staff that looks out for people like you. Robin and I don't go to that one, because the theme of the party isn't our thing, but I know it's reputable.

Good advise by hotluvrs and, when we went to our first gang bang, we were allowed to attend kind of as observers. The Mrs was broken and she wanted me to play so I could let off some steam and she wound up being a fluff girl.

Sometimes the gang bangs will be limited to only one or 2 girls because the GB girl wants to be assured that she will be the center of attention and have no competition. With only 1 girl, these can be tricky for the host because if the GB girl is a no-show or something happens last minute, there is no party and the host may wind up eating the cost of the hotel room. Just something to consider if you do sign up for one.

For the one we are most familiar with by us, the GB girl pays nothing to attend the party. Makes sense, because without her there is no party. This allows the host to pocket a few $$ for their effort. It can take a bit to find reliable guys that can perform in a GB setting. Not all guys can (or want to).

Crafty,

If you are thinking about a particular hotel party, look at the guest list. If there are a lot of couples signed up, and many of those folks appear to be seasoned lifestylers, odds are that it's a legit party.

A hotel gangbang would be much harder to judge. Again, you should look at the guest list, and then reach out to some of the couples and single women who are planning to attend.You could even arrange to meet some of them for drinks and snacks just prior to the event. We've done that before with other couples and it makes for a much better gangbang experience. You want to walk into a gangbang scenario knowing at least some of the other participants.

Greetings. I began this lifestyle just a few days ago. I'm seeing very helpful advice and people looking out for others, which is wonderful. If it's already been addressed then I've missed it; how can I find out about hotel parties/gangbangs yet be assured of them being above-board and trustworthy please? Thanks!

We've been to multiple hotel takeovers hosted by different people. After reading that website, something about that one gives me a bad feeling. I have nothing to back that up, but Robin and I wouldn't go to that one because of it.

A lot will depend on your area. In our area there are at least 3 public house parties advertised on SLS. We also know of at least 3 private ones through friends, plus we have our own.

FWIW - In NH and Mass, I am not aware of any clubs that charge a membership fee on top of the cover charge, but in RI it seems membership fees on top of cover charges are more the norm.

There are hotel room parties where the costs are similar to house parties, but I wouldn't recommend them to an SF going alone unless you know people that are going or go with a male friend, at least the 1st time.

Leucadia ... you typicslly wont see too many house parties listed on here. Most are by word of mouth and invitation by establishing contacts and friends in the LS ... by meeting up with people, going to clubs and hotel parties, ypu meet lots of LS people who then in turn may have a house party and invite you

You should troll the "Groups" link and focus locally whats going on in your city/state for ideas on get togethers

Thanks everyone! I'm thinking maybe a house party would be a better event to try out; I'll keep looking out for one.

If it's a hotel they've been at before, I'd be very surprised if the hotel staff didn't know exactly what was going on. Sounds like a "don't ask/don't tell" kind of thing. I otherwise don't know how their "open door" policy would work. If it isn't a complete take-over, vanilla guests can accidentally wind up on the wrong floor and see things they shouldn't. I'm assuming that they'd have to post a party helper at every possible entrance to a floor where play happens to check for wrist bands.

I like the idea of the wrist bands, but if you have a voyeur-only band and decide you wanted to play, not sure how that would work. If you think you may want to play, I'd get a play one and you can always say No.

So much about how a party plays out depends on the play-grade of the guests, so it's really hard to say how any party with an open invite will turn out. I didn't notice any sort of an RSVP list where you could check out who's going and potentially reach out and make contacts/friends in advance. I did notice they had their own site with a sign-up, so might be something to consider.

Being that you'll have a room to attend, BYOB is a given. Other than that, I didn't see anything about prices. There will be a hotel room fee, event fee, and possibly a membership fee. It could easily be a $200+ night. That's fine for once in a while and you enjoy it, but can get pretty expensive otherwise.

FWIW - By contrast, in our area we have various house parties that cost $40-60/couple (no membership fee), are BYOB, have public and private play areas with condoms/lube, and include food (full meals at one). One of the bigger house parties can easily be 200 people. Most are 30 mins or less from our house. Yeah, we're spoiled ;-)

OP: They are pretty clear in their rules and types of play, ie couples, mfm, ff+, gangbangs, bdsm etc. You determine your play, if any; voyeurs wear special bands identifying they are there to watch only. The hotel parties are not complete takeovers and the hotel doesn't know and is not to know, which not our ideal party, but nonetheless. To achieve this, they probably are purchasing floor blocks. They probably have a bar lounge for mingling to meet before play.

When we attend hotel events, they are usually holiday themed, ie, Valentine's, New Year's, 4th of July, etc. The hotel always knows there's a party and have a grand idea or complete knowledge of what is going on. Who wouldn't welcome a sold out hotel of 100-200+ rooms anyway...…..

Good Luck.

~Allen

Leucadia ... yeah links are a no-no, but you figured out how to do a work around

I'm trying to reply with a link to the event page but I get "these words are not allowed."

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As mentioned, not all hotel parties are the same. There was a pretty good description of the "take-over" type, where some amount of the hotel will be all swingers and everyone has their own room to play in privacy, if you wish to. We do not have a lot of experience we these types. The one we did go to had very little actual swapping that we could see. It seemed a lot of people were there to see and be seen and mostly just to enjoy the party, but again, every party (even one at the same venue) can be different.

Unless you know the people going to a hotel "room" party, I would not recommend a SF going alone. These parties are usually held in a 1-2 br suite and there is no real privacy. Every party is different. Some do not allow SMs and some will be mostly SMs. Some will be Bi themed, or not.

The biggest concern if you were going alone is that some guys cannot get and stay hard with a condom and, in spite of the rules, may try anyway. That's assuming you require condoms. They can be a lot fun. The action usually starts early and happens often. It's rare to run across anyone that doesn't get that No means No, so women tend to be in complete control of who they play with and the type of play.

Do you have a specific party in mind?

There is no way to accurately answer your question without knowing more details.

What type of hotel is it?
Is this a hotel takeover, or one floor, or just one room?
Is this an established group where most people know each other?

I can think of a dozen other questions off the top of my head.

If you go to a complete hotel takeover, there will usually be a hospitality room for mingling. Often there will be a few designated party rooms. Many people will keep their room doors open, encouraging others to stop and watch.

Thinking about going to my first hotel party. I play with my boyfriend sometimes but I'd probably go alone. What's the setup? Do people mingle in a common area and then go back to rooms for sex or what?