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Maryland
New to the lifestyle and finding Maryland is limited when it comes to finding events for couples. Went to Tabu but wasn't our thing, TPA was great but dated. HELP!!!
by DoubleDnurse4replies811viewsAttempting to find Groups, Mixers and Parties
Hello. I live in a small town in between the Quad Cities and Peoria. I am attempting to find places and people to make friends and do things besides the Clubs. I am attending my f…
by magdelarioux0replies614viewsNewbies looking 4 advice fun (tpa orl)
Newbies headed to Tampa, Orlando, then Atlantis in June. Anyone want to show us how it is done? Advice or suggestions? Wanna meet up? Tampa June 10-11, Orlando (Secrets) the 12-14…
0replies803viewsHotel Takeover
We are attending our first hotel takeover next month. Looking for any advice or etiquette tips. Not new to the ls just new to a takeover event.
by Brjes6214replies1,450viewsHow to spot fakes?
Title says it all, what are some red flags of a fake or malicious account?
22replies2,529viewsTop-3 traits you look for in potential playmates
We're always curious about how people get together so we thought we'd ask "What are your top-3 traits you look for in potential playmates?" I would have to say that we look for co…
by twonluv6914replies2,159viewsAdvice for Single Man New to the Lifestyle
I am a single male, and newer to this lifestyle. I am open to playing with couples and other women. Ideally, I would love to find a single woman who is into the lifestyle or wants…
by Jones17879replies1,986viewsHotel takeover thoughts for newbies
What are your thoughts on newbies going to hotel takeovers? We have never had a LS experience but have been intrigued for a couple years. Haven’t had our first experience yet eith…
by SoIn2ucouple3replies1,142viewsGetting started
My wife and I have been to two hotel parties and have had a good time. I guess our question is how do you get to the next level with a couple on the after party floor? We have bee…
7replies1,303viewsMassages
William, I am looking for exactly the same thing for my girlfriend of 7 years. I found someone in the Boston area that does just what we are looking for. We are traveling there th…
by lookng4new31replies3,300views% of fake accounts?
What % of accounts do you think are guys just looking and their wife has no idea her photos are being used to further his photo collection?
12replies1,664viewsAre clubs newbie friendly?
Note: genesis Memphis is our closest club We aren't the club type per se, but from reading up it seems like they are the best chance to have our first encounter. I'm not into danc…
11replies1,590viewsGroups
I tried joining some groups and it said I couldn’t. Are they worthwhile? How do you join? I thought it might help connect with people in the area
by JTheartsong3replies792viewsHouse parties
We are new and have not been to a club or a house party. We know where all the clubs are but how do you know where the parties are? Are they open to everyone? Is there a cover cha…
by JTheartsong16replies1,996viewsProfile critique and advice
CC, You may have better luck with feedback if you repost this under Successful Swinging - Profile Review (start your own thread), about 3/4 of the way down the main Forums page. G…
by bridgetender1replies545viewsHow should we go about messaging
What is good etiquette for letting someone know you're interested here? Should we send a simple "how are you?" Or more detail. We aren't pushy people so if someone doesn't reply w…
7replies1,065viewsWhat to do if you're in a dead zone?
We seem to be in a party/ club dead zone. Should we just stick to searching profiles? My wife really wants to meet people in person at social gatherings. I'm sure there are local…
4replies698viewsdid we miss something?
So my wife and I went to a party last week and had a blast. We ended up meeting a couple and had a great time conversing, my wife and her were dancing all night and every time the…
by garyamy7replies962views- 0replies479views
How does one know when a couple is interested
New to lifestyle and we are trying to figure out how to get a couples attention or spot couples interested in a foursome. Also interested to know if there is bar or restaurant whe…
by Funfriendslv23replies4,651viewsStarting out, should I join a party in NY
Completely new to this and need some guidance on how to he bear way to start out. Lots of clubs in NY cater for singles but I'm glad I read through some if the posts here as they…
by Eirenyc6replies882viewsHotwife(anklet)
We were curious when a couple goes clubbing and wife is looking for a date, does wearing an anklet signifythe lifestyle. Or is rhere anything a wife could wear that only people in…
16replies4,153viewsA little nervous!
Yep, we're newbies. And while we're really excited, is it normal to be nervous, too? We've taken the first step to living out our fantasies, but I have to admit to being anxious.…
by funknight4us5replies2,043viewsCode words and signs
Met 2 couples last night who seemed interested in us. Without prearranged meetings through here, what are signs or conversation hints we missed? Thinking we all were hesitant to m…
12replies2,883viewsNew to this
We are wanting to try having a bedroom relationship with another couple and not sure where to start
by Dusmck4replies1,049viewsJargon
Hello guys, relatively new to this stuff. I've been seeing HWP in profiles. Can someone tell me what that means?
2replies800viewsswing school?
We just watched a video that a blurb on it about something called "swing school." We tried searching for anything by that name and came up empty handed. The description in the vid…
by MNTNcouple3replies1,218viewsPandoras forest resort in Tennessee
Anyone ever been to Pandoras Resort? What was your experience like.
2replies907viewsCouple invites you to join their group on SLS
Quick question for you all, if a couple invites you to join their SLS group after viewing your profile and or meeting at a party, do they view you as a potential playmate for thei…
by ItsMrFlex2replies1,079viewsNew to the lifestyle party for couples in central pa
Is there any intrest by new couples to have a layed back no presure no sexual requirement party say ages 18 up to 40. If there is enough intrest i would be willing to host lets ha…
by atmswing691replies653viewsApp?
I can’t seem to find an app for this forum? Am I missing something this website layout will be the death of me! Oh and Hiiiiii I’m new here. Was in a poly marriage, divorcing and…
by Thedomina1replies689viewsFree Members and what can they do?
I've seen some things that suggest free members can no longer send emails or do much of anything. Is this true? We just want to know as that seriously changes correspondence with…
by iron_couple13replies2,059viewsSuggestion
My wife and I are very open in our feelings and fantasies. For about a year now she has said she would like us to find someone (m or f) to watch us as she sucks my cock. The more…
1replies641viewsHosting
I could use some advice/insight on how to proceed with hosting. I prefer to meet at a hotel for safety and comfort, is it fair to ask the other person/couple to pay half or should…
by Fresno_lady4replies946viewsWell looks like I am in the minority
Warning this may sound vaulger to some but trying to be honest Been a member for less than a day but have noticed that the terms bi or bi curious when it comes to men does not lin…
10replies2,167viewsWhat'd you have better luck with?
The best answer to that is, YES. Take the first opportunity that you can to meet real live swingers. That could be a house party, meet and greet, club, takeover, resort, etc. If t…
by HollyBlue10replies1,762viewsNew couple, exploring, would like to meet others, at least talk .Borgata 29th
Hello! we are new, as with many mostly interested in G/G, same room sex with a similar couple but have discussed and agree to a see how it goes attitude, if we are both ok then..…
by mandnnj1replies687viewsNew at this
We are new . There is a local club that we have been to once and really enjoyed it. They have play rooms and my wife and myself and another couple who are our friends want to try…
8replies1,077viewsLooking for a couple for our first time .
Hi! New to the lifestyle and recently went to our first party. Wow!!! That was a little overwhelming for me(her) and he has been to a few parties/clubs in GA but this was his firs…
by Blueeye437replies1,685viewsCode of Conduct?
I would like to ask for any advice you are all willing to give to help me educate myself about the unspoken (or spoken) codes of conduct within the "lifestyle". Heck, maybe there…
by Stell737833replies3,428viewsGetting rid of newbie stigma
Having trouble with first time playing. Seems like everyone wants an experienced couple. I understand the concern with a new couple, drama, unexpected, etc.... this is not us. We…
by Deutsche3416replies2,689viewsNew at this
We are new . There is a local club that we have been to once and really enjoyed it. They have play rooms and my wife and myself and another couple who are our friends want to try…
1replies694viewsFirst time wife needs a playmate
A whole lot about what YOU (hubby) are looking for...…………., very little about what SHE is looking for. Many of us have seen this scenario many times before.
9replies1,561views3rd wheel anxieties!
We are attending a party this weekend and the hubby is having some concerns about ending up as a 3rd wheel. I have assured him that won't happen. What advice do you have to help c…
11replies2,121viewsJust had our first experience!
Music city couple, just had a guy from the site stop by and please my wife! Hot as well, can’t wait to see what we get into next!!!
by Noobie2202replies1,429viewsCollege couple . We are newbies.
Hello everyone!! We are both 21 years old and we went to our first swing party last week in Cleveland! We are both in good shape, professionals! It went well, and we are ready to…
5replies1,123viewsPet Peeve
My biggest pet peeve is when someone initiates contact with me and then a few exchanges later they become a "ghost". It's ok if they decide I'm not what they are looking for, but…
4replies877viewsCompletely new. Best way to get started?
Hey folks. I am completely new to this. I have been interested in this lifestyle for a while, but was always a bit too nervous and shy to get involved. If I am trying to start get…
by Paw510523replies5,144viewsDoes this happen a lot?
It’s amazing how many couples we meet on this page. But when we try to set something up they either ignore us, or, if we start messaging on Kik it’s always the guy. It’s getting a…
by Alexkel6replies1,818viewsJust saying hello!
Hey everyone, I don’t really have a point to my post – just saying “hi”. I’m used to online school and mom’s club type forums that usually have an “introduce yourself” thread goin…
22replies1,808views
