Your Welcome @ late, Many parties, clubs and events have a social area, some have a DJ and dance and are BYOB. Many are in Hotel/Motel where people get their own rooms to play privately or to invite others to their room.
Thanks WIldW. And the point you are making is kinda what I have in mind. No commitment or pressure to do anything but spend time with each other in a bit of a more "sex-charged" environment...not that it is a free-for-all...but an environment where perhaps one gets a little more comfy and excited at the same time. Maybe we then talk about what we experienced together and decide what is next.
I usually tell those interested in swing that you do Not have to get naked nor do you have to have sex, but you need to be comfy around naked people and people having sex. It is typically not a free for all where everyone touching/groping everyone, you need to ask before you touch.
A lot of new folks will fearfully find a corner and not interact too much. That's fine if you are there for observation maybe. An understanding couple can help talk you all through how things generally work at that club and their view of the LS. Get up and walk around and interact with people and watch. Many couples will find an open room and play by themselves or just soft swap with another couple. With many they will play alone at the club (with or without an audience) or soft swap several times before they play with another couple. As advised already, take your time and discuss anything you all do ahead of time. Be kind and courteous and don't feel pressured to do anything you don't want to do. Good luck.
you're the second to recommend we take another couple so as to have someone to help ease into the environment
I think that visiting a swing club is a great idea.
A successful night will start with some frank conversations beforehand. Establish exactly what your boundaries and expectations will be. Once you are in the club make sure that you communicate clearly to other couples that you are newbies and will not be actively participating that evening.
Also, consider reaching out to a more experienced couple who can accompany you and show you the ropes while respecting your desire to take things slowly.
Everyone moves at different speeds, take it slow while attending LS events or putting hot dates out and see where life takes you with no expectations. Good luck!
My wife and I were at a hotel last weekend. The couple next door (or perhaps two couples...not sure) we're very vocal and coming through the wall. Lots of sexual sounds....and what sounded like very sincere Oh my Gods. It was a very big turn on for my wife. I am now thinking maybe the next step in our journey is to go to a lifestyle type club and let her experience more of that ambience. Don't even need to participate if she is not ready....just immerse in the vibe and sounds..etc. Have never been t a club before...so...what are your thoughts? Good idea...or no?
