New at this

OP: If I understood your question right it was more of "How do we get started?" A lot of couples seem to like that to be girl/girl play then the guys join in, but that doesn't work you (or us).

Something we have gotten asked is, "So, do you just go into a room and get naked and start playing". Though it sounds kind of weird, generally that does happen. Certainly some light touching and/or kissing (if you allow that) will help set the tone and mood so that it doesn't feel awkward or mechanical.

We have been with couples where we started with same partner and someone simply asked, "Wanna switch?", and we did. We knew going in though that we'd both be fine with that so neither of us felt like we were being put on the spot. It's something you want to discuss and know before going in, but keep in mind the atmosphere and action can alter the way you think if you're kind of on the fence.

Generally, starting with your own partner will feel comfortable and natural and once things are underway, it will feel less awkward to swap in the event everyone is up for it. Once you have been with a couple it gets much easier, assuming everyone enjoyed themselves the first time.

I have said this countless times.

Communicate, communicate, communicate and communicate some more.
After that communicate some more. When you are new communication allows you both to be on the same page. It helps to quench the doubt, quench the questions. Communicate before, during and especially after. Express any feelings you may have; whether they are positive but more importantly negative. In the beginning we all have an uneasiness, talking about it helps to ease it.

The other advice i would offer is always go at the speed of the slowest one. You can’t undo what has been done, there is always a next time to go forward once you “both” feel comfortable with the situation. If you are not both comfortable then the proceedings will undoubtly lead to the dreaded drama.
Let one if you be the ‘brake’ and the other the ‘gas’ but always be equal to each other. Do not mash down on the gas because you feel that you are going slow. Going slow in the beginning isn’t a bad thing, it’s a necessity. And if you think you are going slow, there is nothing wrong with going even more slow. The environment, the sounds, the smells, the horomones will give you a false sense of going fast and going fast always leads to trouble and the inevitable crash. The lifestyle doesn’t work if only one is involved, it takes both of you so always be conscientious of your partner.

Good luck.

MandC have given a great testimomy as to how it should be.

Great story, thanks for sharing.

Talk about what you are both comfortable with, what you want to do, and what you don't. There is no wrong scenario. Only do what you both agree ahead of time that you are comfortable with. Expectations and the unknowns are the scary part. Have a code word that you both agree to use if either of you become uncomfortable in any situation. And no matter what, check in with each during any play to make sure you're both comfortable.

We were lucky for our first time. We found a very "newbie friendly" couple that took us to their home club for our first experience. We exchanged a few e-mails, we met for dinner, then followed them to the club. Thy took us on a tour, introduced us to a few people, and kept making sure we were OK. They went to play in a room, and asked if we wanted to go. We weren't ready for that yet. But the atmosphere was so erotic, we went to an open area and had sex with each other, not far from another couple. We never had any contact with the couple near us, but we got hooked when we heard the female keep saying "fuck me. Fuck me. Fuck me." while we were fucking. When done, we later met the couple we came with back at the bar, who seemed genuinely happy that we felt comfortable enough to have sex in a public room. It was all so positive. In a couple of weeks, we met them again for dinner, went to the club, and had our first experience with them.

They understood that everyone needs to be allowed to move at their own pace and be comfortable, and they allowed us to do that. We could not have asked for a better way to start.

PAG Has some great advice there. Also, most Newbies don't like to kiss. Too many people have seen Pretty Woman :(

Take it slow, and know you are there together.

Typo. *just intermingle

Also its not clear from your post if there is interest in playing between the two couples. If so that might be a safe and secure next step. And there is so much you can do without going full swap. And by then the ladies may find comfort in some girl on girl play realizing that straight women can play that way too.

Happy to converse further here or direct inbox.

Patience and heing comforyable going at your own pace is key as is good verbal and non-verbal communication. Frankly, the first time you all may do more watching than playing.

To keep it comfortable you each may want to simply play with your own spouses to start. Then perhaps kust interminhle among you four. Chatting, touching, comforting and assuring.

What may or may not come next you have to play by ear. But do nothing that is not ok with both.

We are new . There is a local club that we have been to once and really enjoyed it. They have play rooms and my wife and myself and another couple who are our friends want to try the rooms out. We are all good with sex with our own spouses . The girls are Not sure about the full swap part. They think they would we ok with oral only swap but not girl on girl . Need suggestions as to how to get started when we get in the room. Oh btw the girls are not into girl on girl at all and we guys are not into any Bi stuff. HELP us make this a great first time..