“The amount and type of information shared depends on the personalities involved."
Terrible answer, it has nothing to do with personalities, if you don’t like their personalities, you are even going to give them a chance to meet in order to even know anything about you; the correct answer is:
The amount of personal information passed on would be limited based on your own comfort levels of how much they will end up knowing about you.
~Allen
great question... If its a one time or meeting at a resort where we may see them during our stay, we tend not to share much. If conversation leads then we will talk about what we do very generally, however since retiring and becoming self employed, I am a little more forthcoming. We have met couples locally that you just make that connection with and after getting together a few times seem like they have been lifelong friends, and there are some who don't know our last names... We have couple's we have met that we get together with and have family around, and others who IF we know they are going to be at a specific club we go somewhere else (LOL).... It becomes all about the feeling you get from the connection. We did meet a few couples on our last week vacation to a resort that we exchanged some personal info with and keep in contact, as we are planning our next vacation together, even though they are many miles away and we will only see them on these vacations.
They key is respecting the other person or people and just politely deflecting or changing the subject if you aren't comfortable. Also, don't pry too much: if you ask a question that is unanswered or makes them pause or shift in their seat apologize and find a new subject. As already said, every meeting will be different. While you want to be flexible, never go beyond sharing what either of you is comfortable with just because someone else has shown you their family photos, their work ID, etc. The reality is that you never really know who you can trust and you want to keep the risk you assume at a level you all are completely 100% comfortable with. We know some who don't meet or play with anyone within 3 hours of their home and don't meet in public spaces or discuss anything beyond their hobbies. That's how they protect what is most important to them. Set your own limits and boundaries and don't feel pressured to move outside of them and grant the same courtesy to others as well.
Thanks for the replies, everyone. They were all very reasonable.
"The amount and type of information shared depends on the personalities involved."
This exactly ^^^. For online meeting, nothing but first names and maybe mutual hobbies if appropriate to the conversation. If a FTF meeting is becoming likely, then my cell number only. We never give out her number unless we actually have met and know the person(s).
On the other extreme, there are a handful of couples and singles who are connected via Facebook and/or LinkedIn, or have even been to our home for vanilla parties where they have met some of our friends & family.
Most playmates fall somewhere between those extremes and as HOTLVRS stated, it is entirely situational and depends on the personalities involved.
The amount and type of information shared depends on the personalities involved. We tend to be rather private. For example, if we meet a new couple at a house party, we will not talk about our jobs or our families. Heck, there are some couples whom we’ve known and played with for years that still don’t know what we do for a living. That’s just our personal choice.
Some couples are completely different and will divulge their blood type, and show you their W2s within five minutes of meeting.
How connected to someone do you need to feel before you fuck them? Share as much or as little info as required to make you comfortable. If the other couple is not good with that, you may not be compatible.
Good question.. for "us" we usually make that decision with each encounter.. a one time hook up at a club or event.. definitely NO, none of their business couples or singles..
FWB's who we see often... we will discuss what we do but not necessarily where we work. We talk generically about family . We will not discuss religion or politics and tell them that right up front.
Now as we move along with many relationships we have had over our 25 plus years swinging... we will tell them some personal information as the relationship develops along both open lines of communication. It has worked out with no problems.. One exception: After a 20 year great swinging relationship in FL with a single male who was divorced that we also worked with at another agency, he felt it was necessary to discuss our swinging relationship with his adult son who we also knew and all his kids and ex wife.. for some crazy reason when he hooked up with a crazy girlfriend controlling him and taking him for his money.. its a long story and that ruined our relationship...
How much personal information is usually shared in encounters that are one-time meetings with others for play? What kind of information do people share or not share with other couples that they meet for play just once or twice? For example, do people share where they work, or would that be something that is generally not shared in order to maintain privacy for these "short turn hook-up" sort of relationships? Is there anything we should avoid sharing (beyond the obvious sorts of things we wouldn't share with anyone)? We're just wondering how personal the communication tends to be between couples planning for only one or two meetings.
Thanks!
