Having Trouble Here

Two quick questions younglion.

1: If you had a girlfriend, are you interested is sharing her with other men?

2: Is your main focus to help couples fulfill their fantasies of adding another guy or two?

If you answered yes to both questions then follow the advise given plus look for local groups (here and on other sites such as FB) who include singles, open your profile to single males and network with them to be invited to group play.

If you answered no, then you aren’t really interested in the LS and would have more success on tinder or match.

The mistake most guys make coming onto a site like this is that it is easier to get laid than on dating sites. It’s not. You still need to have some game and have more to offer than just a cock.

Good luck!

~Scamp

I took a glance at your profile - even if you don't think you are mentally prepared for a profile review of your own please go over to the Better Profiles forum and read as many reviews as you can. You'll see a lot of often repeated advice (many profiles have many of same problems). At a minimum your pictures aren't doing you any favors.

If you travel throughout the Northeast, then somewhere in your travels there will be clubs and parties that allow single men.
At clubs that have multiple nights when they're open, Saturdays might be closed to you, but another night won't be. Just do your research.

If you're socially awkward, I can see why the softer approach of contacting via a message would be easier, but you are still going to need good social manners. So, in addition to heading over to Better Profiles, start working on your communication and your game.

Welcome to the LS. You will hear that anywhere from 70-80% of couples have no interest in single men. This can be because the focus is on female bi play or that couples prefer full swap. However, there are many couples who do play with sm's and you really just need to be patient, kind, and courteous if you are only sending messages online. Now also keep in mind most profiles are sm profiles which means that your competition is pretty stiff. Couples get swamped often times with messages. You have to do something that makes you stick out from the crowd. Open a thread in "Better Profiles" and then apply the advice that you receive. It will make a difference.

Many clubs and parties do exclude singles. The main reason for this is often a lack of interest in those who show up. The other reason is that single men would overwhelm the club if the doors were just simply opened. Dig around in your area and you should find a club that has a single male night or possibly a hotel party that allows singles. It is always better to go to where other people are rather than relying on the net.

Good luck.

“ Get a partner or buddy. An awesome dude like you should be able to attract a girlfriend.......or two. Then bring something to the table other than your dick in your hand”

The compliment is much appreciated for sure. The issue is that I’m socially awkward. For one I work with a bunch of dudes (Aircraft Mechanic). And also though I’m out going I can never tell if a girl like me. I just assume they’re trying to be friends. And plus. I don’t one how to start a conversation about trying to duck other couples and shit lol

"So how can a guy like me who was so excited to start this new venture actually explore this lifestyle without being shut down for being single? And please don’t tell me to get a partner or buddy."

Get a partner or buddy. An awesome dude like you should be able to attract a girlfriend.......or two. Then bring something to the table other than your dick in your hand.

Hey guys how’s it going? I need a little help here. So I’m brand new to this lifestyle thing here. I decided to try something completely crazy but it seems really exciting and I’m all about it. I live in CT but I travel all around the northeast/ New England area (not for sex...unless there’s anyone out there that wants me to? ?? lol). I’m single, straight, active, drug and disease free and I’m trying to figure out what’s going on here. With a lot of people I’ve reached out to, the response is “sorry we’re looking for couples or females. “. Not only that but apparently these clubs only allow the same. Just couples and females. But no single men. So how can a guy like me who was so excited to start this new venture actually explore this lifestyle without being shut down for being single? And please don’t tell me to get a partner or buddy. Are there actually groups or clubs or events that allow single men to come and enjoy themselves like everyone else? Or did I just waste my money and time getting a membership here and trying out this lifestyle?