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That was actually helpful. I'm looking forward to the next party already.

Someone once suggested a different way to ask the question that I kind of liked - don't ask but let them know that you'd say yes if they asked.

Thanks you all for the feedback. We definitely wanted to be respectful of others and their space. We are finding our way through this on our own and it's been fun. My wife says I make friends wherever I go, so talking isn't the problem. I just need to ask the question. Thanks again, and as always everyone we have met seems to be really welcoming.

Imagine you and your wife are playing tennis. You see another attractive couple playing on the next court. Would you just keep playing and hope that they notice you or would you ask if they would be interested is playing mixed doubles?

~Scamp

The only ground rules we follow are; treat others with respect, no means no, and make sure everyone is having fun. The same rules that would apply on a date.

I suppose my question is do couples expect others to approach them and want to play on the party floor while they are fooling around ? We would welcome it if some couples were to approach us. We are new and don't really know what the "ground rules" are. Thanks again for helping us pop our cherry.

Have you tried asking them to play? Seems obvious I know but many folks don't have the guts so it's fairly common that folks don't ask and end up with lots of missed opportunities.

My wife and I have been to two hotel parties and have had a good time. I guess our question is how do you get to the next level with a couple on the after party floor? We have been together as a couple in the hospitality rooms, as were other couples. Is it expected that we would try to bring others in? Any advice would help. Thanks