I am also interested to know how to get a fire burning among couples in my area. Not just for my own personal enjoyment, but just to have a support group of like minded people near me. Are there groups already active? And, how do I find them?
I am curious about local versus long distance. My question is: Do most couples prefer to engage intimately with local couples that they might happen to run into when out at the grocery store, or, do they prefer to have long distance encounters that must be planned in order to avoid randomly seeing each other in daily life?
Fokkers, very well stated!!!!
From the ‘We Gotta Thing’ blog on who a swinger is. Pretty sure nCal wouldn’t consider Mr and Mrs Jones real Swingers:
“What” Is a Swinger?
The fact that this popular Google swinger search phrase begins with “what” instead of “who” tells us how much work there is to be done to educate the general population when it comes to understanding the swinging lifestyle. Most people get can’t get beyond the “what” we (sometimes) do to even get close to the “who we are” part of the conversation. They simply fill in the blanks themselves and make the assumption that (to put it politely) “we” are not like “them.”
So let’s rephrase your question: “Who is a Swinger?”
Well, we are old and we are young. We are long-time married couples, we are newlyweds and we are single. We are spouses, partners, parents and grandparents. We vote for the left, the middle and the right. We are standing behind you in line at the grocery store and some of us sit next to you in church every week. We hold political offices, we are community leaders and we are your neighbors.
We teach your children, care for your health, protect and serve your community, defend your country, run your local businesses, build your cars, deliver your packages and yes, even preach to you every Sunday. We live in every neighborhood in every town, in every county in your state, in every state of the USA and in just about every country in the world.
We have solid marriages and maintain healthy relationships with family and friends. We are gay, lesbian, bisexual and heterosexual (and more). We experience real life struggles and successes. We enjoy working out and we are couch potatoes. We are healthy and we are disabled. We enjoy spending time together with our family, our friends and most of all each other.
In other words, we are just like you. But, we hope you’ll notice that some of us are a little…different.
We strive to be different by being less judgmental and more accepting. We are open to growing and to expanding our boundaries, and we try to not stay in our cozy little comfort zones. We yearn to know our partners in a deeper way and develop meaningful friendships with others. We strive to be open, honest, vulnerable, trustworthy and caring. In other words, we want to be more human.
Oh, and I almost forgot about the sexy part! Yes, we enjoy sex. Sex with our partners is much improved, more meaningful and newly exciting. And then on occasion we do enjoy fun sexy times with a few select friends (but you don’t need to fear us, we are not looking to have sex with you and have no intention of stealing your partner).
Lastly, we are far from perfect and we know it. We are not saying our way is the only way, nor are we saying our way is a better way. What we are saying is that we gotta thing and it works for us. Care to join us?
Hope you guys know my comments are solely directed at nut job he is a douche canoe
As usual, ncal has the most beneficial insight in this thread.
No one wants to play.
I'm just here for the fora...
First, let me suggest that you looks at my profile … I have CERTS from everyone who hosts parties here because I always show up to play.
I party every Saturday night, so I think I understand this game pretty well, especially since we had Brontosaurus burgers at my first ones and rubbed sticks together to start the fires.
When people write, I direct them to my profile and the description of proof pics I want - they can supply them or evaporate … most go POOF
If they get past that, I let them know where I'll meet them … usually a party that has play rooms.
The main thing is, do NOT waste time on people who just want to collect pics, cam, or do hot chat.
Hello, yes i am a newbie on here but i am serious about finding couples for a threesome, or a single lady that wants to accompany me to a swingers club. Ive had threesomes before but never been to a swingers party/club. Im in rock hill, south carolina. hope theres someone nearby to answer my call.
We try to go into clubs with a ‘no expectation’ attitude. Generally we look at it as a form of foreplay. All the sounds, sights, smells all feeding your inner sexual beast. If you meet and there is compatibility then all the more great there is. If there isn’t then the best part of the night is that you still get to go home/back with the hottest person at that club —- your spouse/partner. Remembering what you saw and heard will feed you even more till the sex between both of you gets insanely crazy. Too many great sessions have come out of club visits where we didn’t find anyone.
All clubs have their own ‘heartbeat’ , so you may have to search around to find one that best suits you. As always what works for us, may not work for you, your mileage may vary but I suspect that it won’t vary too much.
the only club where we have luck is Freedom Acres in the orgy room. Couples only like the old days. It gets pretty wild sometimes.
I agree with the Fokker on this one.
Clubs, resorts, etc. don't always end up producing play partners, but they are definately more consistent than trying the online approach...at least for us.
In the end, you still get to play with each other in an exciting environment.
Preference is always going to be clubs, that way if it fizzles the night isn’t a total blow out. Outside of a club, we tend to meet at places where we can still have some fun. It may have failed with the other couple, but we still have each other and that can be just as much fun.
Hate when we go to clubs and the old small dick pervs are there wives dried up like leaves on a vine yuck
Sorillo, Have you eaten any wabbits lately? They taste just like chicken, especially the female ones.
Have I mentioned lately that I love wet wabbits? :)
Sorillo, do you have any idea how sexy you are when you have great insight and hit the nail on the head? Gets me all dewy and tingly.
Atlanta, listen to the wise Sorillo. Every single man we have met with has a great personality and took the time and effort to make themselves stand out from the crowd.
From your pic and profile you seem like an average joe--and there is nothing wrong with that BUT no one if going to jump at the chance for mediocrity. You need to give me a reason to be interested in you.
~rabbit~
Atlanta, I gotta be honest. Whenever I see someone come into the forums and within their first five posts they start complaining that no one wants to play or even answer emails, the first thing I think is that they're doing something wrong. Impatience, negativity, cut/paste introduction messages, two word "let's fuck" messages, deception, unflattering profile/photos, etc. The list is things that it COULD be is endless.
But I guarantee that it's not that everyone ELSE doesn't want to meet. You have to understand that it's up to YOU to sell yourself as a fun person to spend time with. There are NO SHORTCUTS. Yes, that means WORK. Your first post on the fora was to ask for advice on your profile. That's a good thing. But after getting one response, it looks like you didn't check back in to discuss what changes you might make. Did you make any changes at all? If not, then I think I know where the problem is.
This lifestyle is full of fake, phony, frauds. I should have gone into the Monastery and be a celibate Munk.
Is it impossible for single guy who is respectful, mature, fit , late 50’s ..a professional career who travels often to Atlanta. To meet nice couple or single woman for drinks at nice place. and possibly more? Is it next to impossible for a white guy who is not 8 or 9 inches to get any attention
IN ACCORDANCE WITH THE PROPHECY
What is really sad is going to a club like the Rooster and to see all these obese people just sitting around eating and drinking all night long. Then they go onto Facebook and say they went to the Rooster and had a wild time.
70% of all adult Americans are overweight and on meds to stay alive. No wonder why no one wants to fuck anymore
To many sickly thin old crazy shits who have small dicks in the lifestlye oh we wax daily of back in the day were women had curves .
In answer to your question, yes, of course people want to play. But if you're constantly running into X, then there is something about your process that needs to be adjusted.
I don't have a particular system, but when I'm contacted and think I might be interested, it's mostly three emails and an invitation to meet me for coffee or a drink. And then I forget about them until or unless I get an email back with a choice of dates.
You might seriously consider a club.
