Code of Conduct?

Joking aside follow the Golden Rule. “Treat others as you want to be treated.” and you can’t go wrong. one of the hardest things when you are new, is that you don’t want to be perceived as being new. The reality is though that all in the LS (for the most part) understand that you are new and are willing to answer questions that you may have. Our first time in a club we ran into Mrs F former coworker (actually his behavior all of a sudden made total sense LOL) and he realized that we looked a little out of our comfort zone. He sat us down and spoke to us, offering advice. He didn’t judge us as newbies just as old friends. We thanked him and all he said was to do the same one day. We have tried to help those who are new.
Don’t be afraid, ask questions of those more xoerinced. The Forum (regardless of the crazy you see in here) is a perfect place to ask. For the most part you will get honest answers from many aspects.

I got it too. ;-)

I'm sorry. I wish there was a manual, because that would make things easier. But no. sorillo is correct, though.

I'd just add that clarity and transparency are even more crucial because sex is involved. So, your yesses and noes kind of need a little social neon lighting with others. And discuss everything with your spouse/partner, especially if it feels a little risky to do so.

We got it Fokkers.

I was trying to make a nCal joke reference...

First rule and the most important I feel is “NO MEANS NO”

The Constitution of the LS is still being ratified. Apparently there is much debate on what a real “swinger” is.

You have to be on the site at least a month before we give you the first chapter of the handbook.

Much, much longer to learn the secret handshake...

I'd say that the VAST majority of it falls under the same rules of polite behavior in the vanilla world. Ask first, say please and thank you etc. There's really not that much that's different.... except the number of people in our beds. >:)

I would like to ask for any advice you are all willing to give to help me educate myself about the unspoken (or spoken) codes of conduct within the "lifestyle". Heck, maybe there is a written handbook out there somewhere. :) Thanks!