Unsolicited photos

Many years ago, SLS DID have a "LIKE" button. They never said why they took it out of the profiles; just one day, POOF, it was gone.

Yes, I've been following that thread. That would be a good feature to add but it can also be abused, sometimes I think there's bots that go out and give likes, loves and follows. I'm on one site in particular where I get at least 20 of them every day....that is impossible in the real world. On another site, when I add a new picture or make a change to my profile, within seconds I'm slammed with likes & loves, that isn't realistically possible. I'm at the point where I ignore likes & loves.

There are suggestions in the new swing dot com discussion about adding a "Like" or "interested" button which would accomplish the same thing.

This would be better because if you just open pictures for a profile, they would have no idea you did that if they do not use The Who Viewed Me feature enabled. If they don't know you looked at them, they won't know to look back and see that you opened pictures.

Good tip!

And if they saw my profile and pics, and didn't have any response in a reasonable time, I click the BLOCK button, so they no longer appear in my feed, so I don't waste time having to scroll past them as I check the "WHO'S ON" list or "RECENT MATCHES" list.

Agree. This is my approach also. Another thing I do is leave a note on the profile as to the date my pics were opened. After several months I close them, otherwise my open pics list gets out of control

That is my usual approach. I state the reason in my profile. About 99.9% of the messages we solo men send are ignored.

By the way, we have had a flurry of new profile views and open pics since we made this post in the Forum. Unintended consequence….very nice, thank you.

You don’t. To me, it doesn’t matter since it’s a bit of a leap of faith anyway. Maybe for those with a limited social life or those who define themselves as hardcore swingers/lifestylers, whose lives revolve around this stuff (not judging at all), it lives in their heads a bit more? Dunno.

To each their own.

BT

All tfw various reasons for just opening pictures are all valid & understandable.

What you don’t know however, is if the person has opted out of Who Viewed Me. If they have, they don’t know that you looked at them or that you opened pictures. They don’t know to look back at you. How do you know if they even saw your open pictures and aren’t simply ignoring you?

"...how many want/need to see more than G-rated pictures before a meeting?

Not me. I'm having sex with people and whatever body parts they bring along, not vice versa.

We usually try to do both, however there have been times that we're so busy for so many consecutive weekends that I don't want to formally reach out when we know it will be at least a month before we have time to meet up with someone. In those cases, I have just opened our gallery with face pictures.

While on this topic, just curious how many want/need to see more than G-rated pictures before a meeting? I get needing to see face pics for a first time meeting, especially one in a public place, but we actually prefer to not see revealing pics prior to meeting. If things work out, it kind of winds up like receiving an unwrapped gift. Not a huge deal, but I do get the impression from some that more than g-rated pics are expected/required in a number of online interactions.

Guilty...i figure if I open my pics they can see if a physical attraction is possible...then drop a line instead of bothering them with messages they might not read anyways

Subtle…nuance… Guilty as charged.

BT

I think it's a nice low-key way to signal initial interest. I mean, sure, sending a message is more direct, but it's the equivalent of smiling at someone from across the room. It's not intrusive and it gives you the option of responding or ignoring the overture.

We've run across many profiles that say "if our pics are open, it means we are interested". It seems to be an intro or a flirt. We'd prefer to receive some sort of message introducing themselves and telling us why they like our profile. You know......like start an actual conversation.......

The real problem is that if a profile does not have the "Who Viewed Me" feature enabled, how would that profile know to look and even see if private galleries had been opened? That's why a Message is always a good idea. The only time we feel this could be useful is if you're on an attendance list for an event with a large number of attendees. Everyone is always checking out who else is attending.......easy way to show interest without having to send multiple messages, and there's a strong chance attendees will look at your profile. But again, pasting a intro message to multiple attendees isn't that time consuming....

If you're on SLS looking to have sex with other people, you're going to have to communicate at some point........Might as well start there.......

Every so often, I’ll check the Profile of someone who has viewed us and find that they have opened some personal, or private pics, or both, but have not sent a message; just opened pics. I think it’s an interesting opener; pics, but no message. Reading between the lines (except there are no lines), it could mean any number things, most of them, very nice. Thoughts?