Getting tied down.

Love getting tied up as well as doing the tying. its all about trust.

I love getting tied up. It is about the trust and submission to let someone excite you. But don't forget to have a safe word and if just starting out, easy release restraints.

Thanks everyone for your well thought and experienced replies.

I've tied up a fair number of women and can't say doing so ever activated a rape fantasy for anyone. It's more about the joy of not having to do anything but accept sensations. There's no requirement to return the favor, no give and take, just take. It works whether women are interested in submission or not.

I've only started allowing myself to be restrained in the last year. It works because I trust my partner, because he knows how to work up to the edge of my limits, and because he asks questions and listens to the answers. It has everything to do with sensation and nothing at all to do with a rape fantasy, even if some of what we do has a very hard edge.

The Mrs tends to enjoy being submissive and apparently part of the thrill is "feeling" like you don't have a choice. Being tied up tends to make that feeling more real.

It's more like she likes the idea of being a naughty girl and not having a choice in the matter (even though she does of course) versus anything to do with rape.

When I tie rabbit up it’s more about control and since I also blindfold her, sensory deprivation.

She finds it hot not knowing who may be touching her and not being able to reach out to touch but only lie back and be pleasured.

There was no element of a rape fantasy involved but I can understand that it could be added to the scene if desired.

~S~

In a recent conversation, this question came up: How is one person tying another up (for sex) not a rape fantasy?

If it's not consensual, it's rape? If it's for fun, the "victim" is a willing participant.

I realize there's a BDSM sub-forum, but I'm looking for broader response.