Dear_diaryRegular
Elgin, SC, Us
Did it once in New Orleans not a big fan?
Dark room Sex
Maturemale1954Regular
Pinckney, MI, Us
I prefer to feel, hear, taste and see it all. Just dim the lights for me!
Maturemale1954Regular
Pinckney, MI, Us
I prefer to feel, hear, taste and see it all. Just dim the lights for me!
yourluvrmanVeteran
Emeryville, CA, Us
"we tried this at Naughty in New Orleans. Once you found your way to an open spot we had a great time. When finished playing most of us left the room at the same time and everyone introduced themselves and reminisced what just happened. A good time was had by all and we would try this again."
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This is one of the best things I like about Naughty Nawlins.
Viroqua, WI, Us
Sounds like an interesting place. Are there any in Wisconsin? Seems like it might be fun and know one would judge.
sexxyjessy69Member
Alpharetta, GA, Us
We went to a party like this a few years ago. It started as a regular party with lights on and everyone socializing. Then each girl went to a room and lights turned off, then a guy joined in, had some fun, then left the room. Everyone got dressed and then it was a game of "guess who it was" lol. A little cheesy but honestly we had a great time!
goodtimeMember
Allentown, PA, Us
Several years ago we tried this at Naughty in New Orleans. Once you found your way to an open spot we had a great time. When finished playing most of us left the room at the same time and everyone introduced themselves and reminisced what just happened. A good time was had by all and we would try this again.
osideswingMember
Oceanside, CA, Us
Tired it on a swingers cruise and was a unique and fun experience
White House, TN, Us
Wife and I are interested in dark room sex. Does anyone know if there are any places in NJ where we can visit to give it a try?
Thanks
yourluvrmanVeteran
Emeryville, CA, Us
"Bumping around in the dark, trying to ask if you want to play, but no idea if you like them or they like you"
Actually, that's part of the allure, Superficial issues like looks, etc are nullified in that environment. Communication is mostly non-verbal and primarily by the other senses, but you can get your point across. I've had many experiences where the partner I 'bumped into' made sure we connected later outside of the room, based on the physical chemistry experience. We got to know each other later and develop long term relationships.
Rabbit let me clarify.. I've never been in a dark room before. But if I entered into one, in complete blackness, I'd be going in knowing people may bump into me, brush by me, put their hands places they can't see, and attempt to try things in dark..
That's what I'd be consenting to... Not just any and everyone having free reign to do whatever they want. But you gotta know going in, it's not the same orgy as if it was in the light.
Now that I think about it, it might not be that fun lol. Bumping around in the dark, trying to ask if you want to play, but no idea if you like them or they like you or who's hands are on your ass and who's dick is this. I can just imagine some of these profiles cutting the lights on and "Oh no a BBC!!!!!!!!!!!"
Hahahaha Merry Christmas
yourluvrmanVeteran
Emeryville, CA, Us
Yeah, Doing the 'hand swipe' is common in dark rooms It's an effective communication tool when you don't want to get interrupted or stop. Lol.
meadris75Member
North Ridgeville, OH, Usa
We were new to the lifestyle and we went to a club with a dark room. I felt this hand rubbing my chest, and I discovered it was a dude. I said " Your a dude- Honey we have to get out of here!" and the whole room bursted into laughter!
Not homophobic, just not at all bi nor curious....
We still laugh about it.
bridgetenderVeteran
New Orleans, LA, Us
Maybe
BT
_rabbit_n_scamp_Veteran
New Orleans, LA, Us
Too late!
bridgetenderVeteran
New Orleans, LA, Us
The last thing we don’t need is you deleting and reposting...
BT
_rabbit_n_scamp_Veteran
New Orleans, LA, Us
“I think dark room entrance implies open to all touching from anyone in the room.”
Therein lies the problem. Never assume consent is implied. Unless the party or club you are attending specifically states that dark room play is open to MM contact, you must err on the side of caution and avoid MM contact unless you get explicit permission.
I have hosted house parties with a dark room and invited couples who enjoyed an extra guy (and a few single males for them to play with) and none of us would have been happy if a guy tried to play with another guy in the dark room.
~Scamp
_rabbit_n_scamp_Veteran
New Orleans, LA, Us
Dammit: the double negative got me in editing.
Fair warning, I am going to delete and edit my post then delete this one to clear up my mistake. Lol
that7girlRegular
Clyde, NC, Us
" none of us would not have been happy if a guy tried to play with another guy "
So all would be happy with it.
I think we are arguing between dark room and "pretty dark" room..
A true, pitch black, no windows, door closed room... You are not going to asking a thing because 1. you have no idea who you're talking to. and 2. you have no idea if that is the person who's hands are on your ass or someone completely different.
I figure by the time you even made your way to an empty spot, you'd have grabbed and felt 30 people by that time. And now that y'all are mentioning it, there's no way you're not brushing by a dick on your way over there. I guess it would have to be understood that it's everything goes once you enter because it's pitch damn black and good luck having that argument
curiousnjguyVeteran
Bridgewater, NJ, Us
I think dark room entrance implies open to all touching from anyone in the room
funlyfriendVeteran
Albany, NY, Us
You're assuming
_rabbit_n_scamp_Veteran
New Orleans, LA, Us
“... if the host said there is no bi male play in the room, we would respect that.”
Consent is never assumed. Unless the host makes it clear that entering the room gives consent for anyone to perform any sex act on anyone else, you should get consent from each person before proceeding. Period.
Your post and follow up seem to indicate you would take advantage of the situation and if called out on it, you would claim, “no one said I couldn’t suck their dick!”
We enjoy the fantasy of “stranger” sex and dark rooms and glory holes but it’s guys like you who make it clear that these will have to remain fantasies.
~Scamp
funlyfriendVeteran
Albany, NY, Us
Do please tell us why the question is strange and telling. it was simply a question of what to expect in a totally dark room. if the host said there is no bi male play in the room, we would respect that. if the host said anything goes we would respect that too. As I said we have never participated in such an event and we were curious about what happens in there.
_rabbit_n_scamp_Veteran
New Orleans, LA, Us
“ do you suspect bi men would suck a dick?”
That’s a strange and possibly telling question.
As a bi female I certainly wouldn’t start playing with another woman unless she knew I was a female and was receptive to it. I wouldn’t want to ruin anyone’s fun by over stepping their bounds or making them uncomfortable.
This is why a dark room would only work for us at a private party where we knew, and trusted, everyone. We have the same issue with gloryholes
~rabbit~