Submissive or Dominate

She is extremely submissive, living most of her adult life as a sub. He is a Dom from years ago. We each have lived both as D/s and M/s.

I always thought I was a sub and this past weekend at a party, was able to discover just how much I was. I was very lucky to meet a very experienced and talented Dom woman. She did an excellent job of "breaking me in" just enough to capture my attention. She REALLY fucked with head and that was the beast part of it (though beating me also caught my attention!).

Mr SKE

Hey sexy Blossom...nice to see you in the threads. A warm hug coming your way at the next party;-)

Well, i will add my two cents since a few of my favorite SLS friends are on this thread as well.

i am sub...no doubt about it...as a matter of fact...i am a sub but not to my husband. i found my Dom at an SLS event and have not looked back...although it has not been that long-a month in fact today (Happy Anniversary Sir).

my husband does not do BDSM and i don't think he ever will. That is all good as he does swing and does not mind me being a sub and is in fact friends with my Dom...hehe

That ass of mine is all yours Lost...just let me begin to tell you what I'd like to sink my teeth into on you? Your wishes would be my command. Damn your sexy as all hell.

You have an ass I'd like to have between my teeth.

It would be my pleasure:-) Just hard enough to make me physically reminisce an hour later!

OOoo baby just bend over for me a little....

These cheeks could use a little color Sherry.

I am DOM or SUB but if I have to choose it would have to be DOM, I could easily whip a man until he was pretty red.

Husband is so not into it and I have never asked anyone if they wanted to play that way. It is a lot of trust to play like that so I guess haven't been close enough to feel safe with anyone.

hello all, I am a switch and My sub is married but not to Me. We are both fairly new to this and have the added dynamic of her husband not being in the BDSM lifestyle. Fortunately for us we all like each other and he is ok with sharing his wife with Me.

I attended my first BDSM party last month and have to say I saw some of the most erotic but also loving between the players. Probably the best scene was when the Host and the hostess played. You could see the love between the two of them and I felt honored to be there and watch as it was VERY intimate. Something else that also amazed me was the aftercare that the Dom gave their sub. 5 minutes earlier they could have been smacking the crap out of them with a paddle/spoon/single tail and then are comforting their partner and taking care of them.

My partner and I are looking forward to this journey as its going to be a hell of a ride!

Bumping the thread excluding the OP's yew who

Fresh meat benefits us all as the saying goes LM pirateAO

Haha as I said in the other thread I most definately am a sub haha. Well, for vanillas I'd do good as an aggressive woman because I am confident and uninhibited...but if you are looking for a true domme I'm most definately not your girl lmao. Shell

My kitty kat is submissive to me and very aggressive when I let her play with other solo females. With a couple she likes to be "forced".

Well on either side ,It's fun to have fun ..You can only live once ..Gotta enjoy it :)

Let me ask a question because I'm curious. We have good friends that live the BDSM lifestyle not just sexually but honestly in their entire lives. She calls him Master and thats cool. She is his "slave". Is there a difference in being a slave and a sub? I'm assuming so. With me, I LOVE a man who takes charge and control. But honestly I never see myself going "all the way" so to speak ie. wearing a collar. I will not do that and I have made it known so. I have issues with what I consider to be degrading to me. I'm NOT saying it is degrading at all...I'm saying in regards to myself I feel that is. Anyways. So is there a difference in women who simply are attracted to strong, confident men, true subs and slaves? Being a Gemini lol I always advise that men check my mood before starting to rattle off orders. For instance, my friend says that he can make you cum on command. If he were to start barking orders I know myself, I would in turn get aggressive and probably tell him where he can shove himself, nekkid and all. I don't want you to boss me around, just be confident and take me. Anyways, perhaps I'm an odd ball lol.
Thanks, Shell

I'm a sub, and totally enjoy the lifestyle. My Master and I met socially and started dating, not even knowing that he was a Dom, and I submissive. It's interesting to me that we were drawn to each other. The BDSM just make the relationship that much better.

I love it that He understand that sometimes i act up because i want/need dicipline.

I could never give pain to a man, and would find it hard to even try it on a woman.

Topping from the bottom? Oh yes. That occures when a bottom has more experience and needs to guide the top. That can be fun, too. But there is nothing like giving control to someone you trust. NOTHING. What a rush.

Trice

LOL i talked to a new lady freind i met and she told me " I am the boss I got the pussy"

LOL

I thought all females were Doms....when they're shopping....hehehehe

R-

I'm interested in that, your being a switch, and how that works, as I am not dominant. I imagine that I could be perhaps with a female. I know I'm not dominant with males, and do not choose to be. I can get into the strap on play or toys, but none of the lingo or personality or attitudes of a true Dominatrix are present in my play with males.
As for FF play, I'm more aggressive, especially with certain females who demand that, and have been taught by a very aggressive and confident bi female who demanded I suck her clit hard, the way I'd suck a cock hard. Also, if a female is shy or inexperienced, I don't mind taking the lead with her, if she wishes, and don't need to have anything reciprocated. For me, the pleasure is more about giving HER pleasure at those times.

My best scenario BEING dominated includes a male telling me what to do..."Spread your legs, Gina," etc., and it got to the point where one pal of mine could call me on the phone and just say
"Gina?"
"Yes?"
"Spread"
And I could cum within seconds of that simple command. And I have cum without being touched at all...it's such a psychological thing, cumming from mind control, basically. Giving yourself over to someone else.

The dominating includes not only telling me what to do, or how to feel ("you're going to get very wet now" "you are, aren't you?" Oh god, yes.), but also what he was going to do TO me. All of that is such an amazing sensation.

Gina

I am a switch, sometimes very dom and sometimes very submissive. Depends on the mood and moment, but I enjoy both equally.

jc, dommes are out there definately. There are forums and sites just for bdsm. I'll ask my friend who is really into the bdsm lifestyle and I'll get them to you.
Tall, DAYUM I love the chest hair on you! S N A P
NICE.
Shell

Its funny how people are wired. For me to be domme in the bedroom is completely foreign feeling to me. Don't get me wrong, sometimes I am in a take him mood and am very aggressive. But almost all times I'm the type of woman that finds nothing greater than a man pushing me up against the wall and taking what he wants lol. LoVe IT.
Shelly

Post with his consent:

i am his, totally without hesitation or fear. i have learned and experenced though that i am not fully submissive, at least not to others. i enjoy being in control with others and i like using our equipement on others. i have been and will be submissive to others in right situation and event.

i want him to experence my side though sometime at the hands of another, i tried but i can not fully be Dommee to my Master. lol

Mmm Mmmm. Nothing turns me on more than the thought of being taken. Dayum! Shell