Submissive or Dominate

Anyway, we don't have a d/s dynamic and are more impact players (I top, she switches) with primal tendencies.

It's not just you, overeducated. I'm nowhere on the spectrum, but every single time this thread gets a new post I want to fix the stupid title.

And, OT: Switch, technically, but the number of people who have been able to flip me into submission is five.

We are both switches at times.

I love when lying down and Mrs. 888 pulls my head hair hard and forces my face between her legs while queening my face, she is usually bent over my lower torso while, reaching behind while she is cupping, slapping and squeezing my balls, pressing hard on my pc muscles and slapping my cock over and over while demanding I lick more and go deeper with my tongue.

I am so sensitive and sore to the touch for days after, so gratifying.

~Allen

Its ok OEC ... I tjink the same thing every time I see the thread pop up

Sorry, this thread is triggering my autism. The noun/adjective is dominant, not dominate (which is a verb).

Submissive sissy to Dom female would be my choice in a sls meeting for sure.

I definitely want to be Dom with other men. I prefer submissive married men. With women I want to always take the lead with an eye toward being more dominant according to her desires. As the former male half of a hotwife swinging couple, I know that most couples call the shots or suggest, initiate or direct the play. If I'm given a dom role, fine, if not I am just as happy to be allowed to play with them and share pleasures !

Alpha male in the boardroom, but seeking dominate female in the bedroom. Women who knows what she wants and demands obedience. Women that loves that feeling of being served by a man that gets his pleasure by pleasing her no matter how bizarre. I’ve only come across one in my long term search.

I bet I can handle your strong ass

I am the Alpha in our home/family life. He Dominant min his work life, but is submissive to me at home and in bedroom. I sexuallyvery much enjoy being submissive with a man who understands the Dom/sub dynamic. So many men think smacking my ass counts. It's a mind thing. If it has to be explained yu don't get it. I have yet to find a truly dominant man who can handle a type A woman who wants to bring out her other side.

Husband is Dom Wife is submissive. And oh the fun we have...

Total submissive here, to women or men. My first wife cuckolded me and though it was many years ago, I still have the submissiveness in my mind. I can’t perform due to ED anyway, so I just as well be a servant to those that might enjoy a sub.

Dom for me. I am new to the lifestyle, have had experiences. I am looking for some more intense experiences. I like the idea of orgasm denial and have some experience in edging. Blindfolding, hair pulling, whipping, restraints, I have and have used. Yes/No sir. I am not sure if this may be weird, but I have always like doing this thing as foreplay and during sex. For me, it seems more intense that way. I know this takes a lot of trusting and the right person.

She is the Boss of this 18 Yr. long journey of ours. He is a cuckolded husband and totally submissive to her others. She is Dominant over him but mostly a submissive slut to hung BBC Bulls.

Very dom. Now to just find the right sub female or couple.

Very dom. Now to just find the right sub female or couple.

I’m more of a Dom, wife can be a sub with the right person.

Husband is Dom, I'm submissive. I can switch and do at times with a few males I know. But for me the submissive role is more enjoyable, it's easier for me.

You got that right Single......

Whatever you call it when I'm on my knees sucking a cock..I guess it's more of a give and take.....

Neither....

Dom and wife is sub. Though I've been finding myself getting excited when with an aggressive girl that takes the dominant role.

Humiliation is just a tool in the kinky toy box,some over use it,some use it sparingly,and some have it behind “break for emergency”glass,requiring 2 keys and a launch code before use.

Then again,in the vanilla world when couples argue and fight over dirty dishes,finances,and dirty socks left on the floor,the same levels of humiliation use can be seen.

It all depends on your relationship dynamic and what your comfort levels are.

I know females who love to be humiliated,I know females who HATE IT,but get off on it when it’s applied,and I know females who would cut me in my sleep if I even remotely embarrassed her,let alone tried to humiliate her.

I prefer to build a woman up,not tear her down.I don’t break my toys physically or emotionally,but if needed,I’m not afraid to break the glass to get her attention.

A whispered suggestion into a willing ear can achieve the same results as yelling and screaming with a flogger in one hand and a single tail in the other.

Submission is a journey of self awareness and ownership.
If your in a relationship,ANY relationship,ANY lifestyle,and the humiliation exceeds your exceptible levels,it’s your responsibility to retrain your dominant or to take back your gift of submission and dedication and put it under the right tree.

He is Dom and I am sub, though there is more depth to us as well

"Do women dommes tend to think it's all about humiliation?"

I imagine there's a range, but I can't think of a reason for anyone dominant to view humiliation as anything but a small niche, something done only by request. 'Cause, you know, sound and fury signifying nothing.

Basically, not an effective tool, except if someone really gets off on it, and even then there are better methods.