Why is it hard to get a response?

Always entertaining and spot on advice from BT.

OP, if it hasn't already been said, keep in mind that the response rate to messages from SMs is probably close to the same as the percentage of people who are receptive to unsolicited marketing calls . Maybe slightly higher, but that’s arguable.

All things being equal; your location as it relates to an abundance of people in the lifestyle, your looks, ability to engage in interesting conversation, I think it usually takes 3-6 months for things to click.
BT’a Rule of Thumb, If you will.

Between now and then, you’ll make all of the stupid mistakes that every SM makes. It’s inevitable. You can lessen this by following the advice of some of the folks here who want to see you as part of the solution and not part of the problem as it relates to SMs.

Frustration and desperation need to be put on the back burner or vanquished altogether.

If you look at this as your sole means of entertainment and fun, you’ll be sadly disappointed... probably for quite a while.

I hope your second week is more fruitful.

Apologies for any typos ...I’m on the road and typing on a tiny phone.

BT

And remember that when you ask a question like this, you may not always enjoy the answer that helps you the most.

The one thing no one else has touched on is asking what your emails are like.

Do you write out personal, and personable emails or are you sending out lame, one liners or a spam/canned email.

If you don’t put in the effort few will bother replying.

Post a sample of an email you send out for us to look at and give you a few pointers if necessary.

~rabbit~

To begin with: what everyone else has said.

The blue gumby as your default image is a death sentence.

Men faun over their own biceps more than women do. Weight lifting pics aren't impressive. Show us that you can be a gentleman in your pictures.

You don't do anything to set yourself apart from the rest of the field. Rewrite your profile and get some good non-selfie pics.

OP

Puhleeze, grow up. You are a SM. It’s hard for all of us, deal with it, put on your “A” game and stop whining!

C'mon guys.

He's been here for five days.

He should have had at least 5 (one for each day) unicorns fall from the sky and land squarely on his face, squirting all the way down...

I'm totally put off by a request to meet only people younger than you, down to half your age. And no profile picture. I can't imagine opening your profile to see any more.

AS DNLB stated there are other forums that help people with profiles.

However, try and be objective. Try and look at what you presented on your profile and what people see.

1. You have a left and right arm. Congrats! I would have never guessed that a person has two arms. :)
2. You state that you are limiting your age range to people basically younger than YOU. Hmm. Why?
3. Your profile reads like an oxymoron. In one breath it states you are open to a lot of new things, and then the next there seem to be hard in the sand lines drawn.

So with all of that . . . as DNLB stated, there are probably 10 to 1 males to females and thus competition for your 'services' what are you bringing to the table? If that couple or SF gets to go through 50 profiles and that is what she sees, why should she give you the time of day?

Now with that said . . . my rant is always about expectations. Men tend to think that there are 10,000 supermodels with their legs spread wide open saying, "You are the stud I have been waiting for, come fuck me." Women tend to think that there are 10,000 300lb men who haven't seen their dick in 20 years waiting to rape them. Being in the lifestyle is not like ordering off the McDonald's menu. You don't go to a counter and say, "I'll have the number 3, hold the bi-male." There are humans, just like you, on the other side. Your agenda may not align with their agenda. Hell, their agenda and your agenda may even change over time. So because you are not getting a response, well, it could be your profile, it could be your agenda, it could be their agenda. This is not McDonald's and you are not guaranteed that someone will want you. If you want a guarantee, hire a hooker. Don't think that people in the lifestyle are the same as hookers.

Good luck and head over to the 'better profiles' forum. They can probably help you a LOT better than I ever could.

Hi. You are a single man, which means you are part of a large group pursuing couples (there are lots of those, but only a subset is looking for solo men) and solo women (a very small group in high demand). Your strikeout rate is going to be high even if your profile is nearly perfect, which it isn't, and you are bringing your A game to emailing, which you probably aren't.

You need a better profile and it will help to get a certification and you will still have more non-responses than responses. That's just the nature of the game.

You've been on SLS for all of 5 days. This is a lifestyle that takes time and work - not a fast food restaurant where you order off a menu.

No response is actually a response of sorts. It could mean "hell no" or "you didn't read our profile" or "we don't want to hurt your feelings" or any number of things. It is common so just move on with life.

Your profile is not terribly enticing - you might want to read the advice given to others in the Better Profiles forum. You'll see common threads and much of it will apply to your profile. Requesting a profile review can be brutal but is aimed at improving how you appear to others so you get the responses you are hoping for.

~Phoebert's Wife

I would venture that there's a lot of competition in your category, couples sometimes get inundated with messages from single guys, they somehow feel it's OK to simply ignore people that they aren't interested in. Don't take it personally, they're just rude. I think you need more photos, a better description of what you're looking for. There is a different forum where people far more qualified than I am will offer suggestions to improve your profile.