Newbs to the scene

Eternal - The general advice for any party is to not go in with any expectations. I mean, you can plan on playing with each other if they have rooms to play in, but that's about it. I'm not familiar with the venue you mentioned so can't really speak to it or have any idea of opportunities.

As I remember, other than from the casinos in towards the boardwalk, Atlantic City was kind of a shit hole. Has that changed? Are there other OK parts of AC?

IMHO, I see the "My husband is not quite ready to see a man and myself interact. " statement in your base post as a yellow flag. You're starting at a point where it's OK for him to play with other girls, but not for you to play with other guys.

For now, you're both excited about the possibility of playing with another girl, but my "sense of fairness" alarm is going off as to his motivations for getting into the LS. It may be fine, but this sounds like something that needs to be discussed in detail, if it hasn't already.

EdandBritney, sure, I would bet there are nights where there are too many "drones" in attendance. Every night has its own dynamic.

We go to saints & sinners northeast Philly every now and then, always on Saturday nights. They seem to always have a decent crowd and it’s a pretty good environment. You can play wherever or never. You can watch, be watched or get into whatever trouble you desire. Saturdays are couples and single females only. The few single females that show up, as far as we’ve noticed, tend to stick with people they already know. I’d assume most people in this lifestyle don’t mind their wives playing with other guys and other women, however, if a couple asked for just our female half to join them we’d look at them like they had 3 heads. Kinda like “hey, can you share your candy with us?” Sure, can I have one of your lollipops? “No, don’t come near our candy!” It’s tacky and honestly pretty rude. That being said, if you’re looking to be watched, we also enjoy being watched and saints is a very fun place for it. If you have any questions feel free to DM us.

There's a meet and greet in Easton Nov. 10th. There's a hot date posted. That's a good way to meet more people in a low pressure environment.

No offense to Paul who suggested Secret Pleasures ... we have never been there, but from what many many others have told us, that place is a sausage fest. They want a single lady or couple where the hubby watches. I could be wrong, but I dont think they are going to find that there.

A hotel takeover is going to be a bit more chaotic than a club. The club will allow you to ease in better.

There is a great little LS club up your way called Secret Pleasures in Emmaus. It's like an old speakeasy, building is from the 1860's, you walk down a dark alley to get in the back door! Mark the owner is a good guy and will show you around. Could be a great place to get your feet (and other body parts) wet as it's not a big and possibly overwhelming like S&S or Pleasure Garden in Philly. As another post said, there is no need to play, definitely bring your favorite alcohol, have a few drinks, and observe. That is a good plan just to get a feel for how it all works.

Thanks. The only thing we are in agreement about is having a woman get involved with us. But we want to attempt a club to see how we like the scene.

I’ve been looking for parties or hotel takeovers. The hotel thing feels like it would be a bit more casual for us to get our feet wet. But I’ve had no look finding anything like this in our area.

Welcome! There is a lot of advice already in the forums. We would start with this: DO NOT play until both of you are in the 100% agreement. This may mean that you never play.

Clubs are much like going to a byob bar just with the option to flirt and possibly play in a playroom. You can just go and hang out and talk to people. You don’t have to play. The first time out just talk observe and come home and talk about things. Meeting people will help give you a decent perspective.

Don’t expect to find a single lady. Clubs and parties are your best shot at being found by one. Be careful about addressing couples and asking only for the wife to play. Many are looking for that as well and it can result in the wives playing while the men just watch.

As newbs. We are looking at some clubs to attend and get acquainted. We are thinking of saints and sinners in Atlantic City.

We want to have realistic expectations of what we will encounter and how active we may get

Our ideal situation is to find a woman that is into my husband for soft play and myself for as far as we can go. Ideally a single woman, but being our first experience we know the unicorn is elusive. So, a couple with a husband that is more into watching his wife would be most realistic I think. My husband is not quite ready to see a man and myself interact. I think I’m propelling this because I am so hot and turned on thinking about my husband getting female attention and watching me with another woman. I have never had a experience with a woman but I can’t stop thinking about how hot it would be to have him watch.

In terms of crowd, hook ups and how to interact I would love some tips. My husband really wants to go and check out the scene and is super turned on by the idea of us at least having sex around others. If that’s how we get into the scene I think that would be a great start just by having sex next to another couple and probably the most realistic scenario.

Any advice is greatly appreciated and reviews on Saints and Sinners in AC VS the Philly clubs.