Maybe look at profiles where the wife enjoys the attention of two guys at once. Think about chatting with them or even going to dinner to learn more about what wife should expect. They may even have some play date partner suggestions.
In a metro area that size there definitely are groups around. First do a little digging and find the internet locale that gets the most use. Some groups prefer some over the others. Just dig around on the internet a bit and you should find some options.
Find a club in the area that you can go to. Many will have a single male night on Fridays or Thursdays. A better option may be to go on a Saturday just to talk to people and observe. This will help you all process a lot of things without feeling too much pressure. You can also try and find hotel takeovers in your area or attend a meet and greet. It is always good to see what it is you're actually thinking about doing before you do it. IR or inter-racial groups are good options because they focus on m-f play unlike most lifestyle events or venues.
If your wife is nervous you have to let her decide when and how she wants to explore things. It is best to go slowly and incrementally. Always be ready to pull the plug in any situation to guard her and your marriage. The ultimate goal of 5 men at once can sound like a lot of fun. Just sit down and talk through how she would prefer to head in that direction if indeed that is where she wants to go. If she is doing this to make you happy then throw the breaks on things. Let her call the shots.
Now before you go anywhere be sure to discuss and agree fully on what you all are going to do. It isn't unusual to run into pushy people, especially inexperienced single men. Have each other's backs and decide how you want to politely respond to unwanted pressure. Definitely be ready to use "NO" when unwanted advances are happening. When it comes time to play resist the urge to be overly directive in how things happen. Once you connect with someone discuss that ahead of time and let things flow within the set boundaries. Now, again be ready to pull the plug. Either of you once play begins can discover that this just isn't going to work. Your relationship is worth more than a temporary embarrassment. First time out be sure that both of you are able to see one another to either read one another's reactions or to verbally call things to a halt. Just tell them that you're sorry and let things draw to a close.
Good luck.
We aren’t familiar with the area so can’t give specific recommendations but we can say that the hardest thing with that kind of group play is the guys that flake and don’t show up. Go for a on premise club, check out the clubs here on SLS and I’m sure there are a few nearby.
You will have better luck asking this either in a Hotdate post or searching under the "Groups" tab on the left of your screen.
My wife and I have been discussing the idea of an MFM+ (multiple guys all focused on her). It was my idea, but she’s coming around to it. She’s nervous and it’s obviously a difficult thing to set up. (Getting the right guys that will show up, meet expectations, etc) I’m thinking that finding a group that does things like this and would e ok with the two of us showing up to maybe just watch would help move things along. Does anyone know of any groups or even clubs in the DFW area to get things moving in the right direction? Thanks in advance.
