Just how does a MFM or FMF really work?

To "LetsGetNaked" Here's a true story of an FMF, that is not a lie. Back in the late 70s I spent the night with a girl who had a gorgeous roommate. The next morning, my gf was making breakfast for all 3 of us, and taking time out to give me head at the breakfast table, while her roommate watched with interest. At one point, my gf told her roommate, "I need to cook the bacon. Why don't you take over for me?"
Her roommate said, "Okay, I'll stroke him to keep him hard, but I'm not gonna suck." But, it turned out that she got turned on, and did start sucking. We never ate the damned breakfast. We went into the roommates bedroom, stripped the sheets off the waterbed, and she poured Wesson Oil all over it. We had an FMF that lasted for a couple of hours. Probably was the most erotic experience of my life. It was totally spontaneous, and mind-blowing.
Stan

In some guy's cases I think the FMF is as much for bragging rights. It is definitely something that would lose a lot of it's fun factor if it was part of executing a plan versus something that happens spontaneously. When it does happen spontaneously it is a LOT of fun, but more because everyone doing it is enjoying the moment rather than essentially going through the motions so that someone can say they did it to check off a bucket list item.

I have been between 2 bi girls before, but usually when I entered the play the girl I was playing with wanted to be well fucked at that point. Just like the Mrs will stop sucking a cock to more enjoy times she's getting well fucked, the other girl backed off because she knew at that point she would be detracting more than she was adding, and everyone was fine with that. I would not have wanted her to stay just so that I could say I did an FMF.

Not sure if this is all women, but the Mrs tells me she could never be satisfied by a woman because they just don't have the right equipment. I know personally that toys only make her want to fuck more and she has told me there isn't a toy yet that can take the place of the real thing. I think the dynamic of the FMF is just a little harder to pull off than the MFM. Even when the FMF is a lot of fun, generally the primary focus is on one of the women and not the guy like most guys envision. At least that has been my experience the few times I really enjoyed an FMF. If anything, I enjoyed that I was able to please 2 women at once rather than them focusing on me.

The best things that have happened in the lifestyle for me were never planned or expected...When it is planned the mind and expectations takes over the fun....

Tell us what yaw exp. with other cpls.

A FMF 3-some is on my bucket list, but it never seems to work out. I've come VERY close a couple of times only to have it fizzle out at the last minute. Frustrating to put it mildly! Or isi it just a fantasy and the guys that have been telling about their adventures in this arena are all lying through their teeth? LOL I suppose that is a possibility, but I do think there are women out there who would enjoy such an adventure.

I don't just watch, I love it when my wife has an orgasm, but before that we both caress her body until she ask or says she wants one of us usually the other man goes first as I can have my wife whenever, my wife says its just not the full sex that is great but everything that leads up to it, even when dancing with the guy and he gets an erection or partial erection, she is happy, but we never rush into it, mind you there has been times when I have pretended to fall asleep and my wife has had sex right there in front of me and the other guy is so busy he doesn't know that I have been watching them , on these occasions later on she give me the full works and I love her for it

You are only missing something, if you enjoy watching and helping her orgasm until she's weak. Read the profile name, lol. The dynamics of a MFM is different than MFMF. It's all about her pleasure, and the pay off is simple, if she's having fun, so will you. The big difference is we socialize with couples, hang out, get drinks, play games, oh my... but with the occasional single male we prefer to socialize less and just get nasty. A third wheel for us is as a toy, which may seem impersonal to some, but you do what works best for you both, or all three in this case. To reply to one poster about MFM vs MMF,,, MMF is male on male and female three ways,, how much male on male is up to the players,, MFM is two straight males out to satisfy one woman, swords may cross, indirect bumps or touches may occur but should be unintentional contact. I've personally never felt less or jealous by assisting her to orgasm on a bigger dick, it has no bearing in or impact on us on a personal level. The key I think to success is actually enjoying her and being part of her sexual empowerment. When our third leaves, we do it again it one on one like rabbits, which usually won't happen after being with a couple. Yes,, I wax on,, so if this helps, my work is done!

Johnsal ……… "we ask him if he wants to join us at our table, most times it takes a few weeks before we actually get him to join us"???
Sounds like some very bashful men, if it takes a few weeks to even get them to sit at your table. this was a quote,
it didn't mean it took a few weeks to join us at the table, a few weeks before we actually got him to join us in bed worth the wait, we don't just jump into bed with anyone, I to start with likes the flirting

M and M:

I think it is a great idea to keep it simple as you're just getting started. The fewer personality/body/desire variable to deal with while also starting into non-monogamy the better. If you're both comfortable with MFM then by all means start there. Be sure to take your time and find someone you're comfortable with. For some people that will be someone they can be anonymous with and for others it will be someone they can have dinner and hang out with for as long as it takes before it is time for eroticism feels right.

Know what is right for you and go for that!

Or at least guess. It's OK if you do one thing and later decide the other is what you want going forward. No biggie.

Of course there are lots of ways it can work, and whatever works for you is what works.

My 3-some experience has all been with MFM (so far...) and as others have noted the notation generally means that the letter in the middle is the center of attention.

One pattern is for one of the guys, usually her steady, is there just to observe/witness. The fly on the wall aspect can be super erotic for the couple inviting a single guy like me into their bedroom. One of the forms of play here is for her to describe to him what she is doing/having done to her/wants to do. Being open about that is a great connection point for the couple. It can also be that his presence makes it safer to have what amounts to sex one on one sex with a stranger, something she may not be comfortable doing solo.

Another step is basically taking turns, alternately fucking one guy and then the other, being held/caressed by the the third. It lets the third focus on her with kisses and other erotic contact, and that's huge. When she's the center of attention it is great to amp her up in the many ways that don't involve just fucking! That's really one of my favorite parts -- participating in her excitement with the kissing and eye contact and caressing and squeezing and .... while she's getting fucked/eaten. Wow!

Then of course there's everybody fucking at once, with DP, DVP, spit-roast etc etc. This is hard to beat when she's into that much simultaneous action. An awesome form of this I was involved in recently had her on her back with by bare cock stroking between her breasts, leaning forward for eye contact, with her guy behind me fucking her vaginally. We got an awesome groove going!

All of it is great though. I won't turn any of it down.

This is a great thread for a couple new to this to get some good ideas. We have been trading messages with a few couples, and have plans to enjoy a sex club next month, but in all of our conversations we kinda end up thinking about having a MFM first since it really turns him on and she, while interested in play with another F in a group setting, is leaning toward the familiarity of the male appendage for the first step. Plus, as has been mentioned, it seems like it might be easier to find one person than two. :)

Johnsal ……… "we ask him if he wants to join us at our table, most times it takes a few weeks before we actually get him to join us"???

Sounds like some very bashful men, if it takes a few weeks to even get them to sit at your table.

with us its MFMs, lucky for me my husband is a voyeur, oh he joins in but he loves me to flirt and the seduce the guy, we normally start by first seeing a man at a pub, if I fancy him and my husband approves and he is good at conversation we ask him if he wants to join us at our table, most times it takes a few weeks before we actually get him to join us which adds to the fun for us I think most women love to flirt and being able to with husbands approval
hope we never goes back to just my husband and I

Wow, ttiahfrisk, that sounds marvelous......

It works whatever way the particular three people involved want it to. I have been in threesomes of several kinds, & each one was different It depends entirely upon what the participants are comfortable with.

We have a guy friend that we play mfm with. Knowing and trusting him for years we play bareback. I like watching him fucking my wife. It's like watching live porn from my view. I watch him tell he cums inside her then I take my turn. Sliding my cock inside her warm wet pussy using his cum as lube it doesn't take me very long to cum inside her. One night him and I fucked her til we both cummed inside her twice each and somewhere in the middle of the night i woke up to them fucking again.
The next morning my wife told me that he cummed inside her again during the middle of the night talking a total of 5 cum loads.

I've never done a MFM but plenty of FMF. Someone correct me if I'm wrong, but I do believe the letter placement does have meaning especially with 2 males involved. I think a MFM encounter is strictly a heterosexual encounter where the woman is does oral with one M and is getting fucked by the other M. It may also imply a DP situation. FMM or MMF tends to imply bi male play. I don't know for sure. Just my two cents. As for myself, a MFM is on my bucket list.

When it comes to two females and one male. Things get a little different in terms of sexuality. The girls can be bi or straight and still perform FMF or MFF. I've done multiple ones with both bi and straight girls and have always had a good time. For me there are so many different ways to play. I've had a girl sit on my face while the other is riding me. I've been fucking one girl while that girl is eating out the other girl. I've even had one girl play with me while I was fucking the other girl. I've done it where I fuck one and then fuck the other. I've also done the "train" where I fuck one girl with a pump or two, pull out and pump the other girl as I go back and forth.

In either instance, use your imagination and do whatever each party is comfortable with.

we started with a guy friend of hers mfm. Having her grab me and hold on as she has an intense orgasm while our fwb is in her is just amazing. He and I take turns then and it is often more erotic than some couples we meet. Since we play bareback, even better.

MFM never ends in bi play. Bi play is rare but because people do as porn does more common but still rare among men.

"Gotta love an Italian guy who can't spell cannoli ;-)"

yeah I was going to give you grief for that. But then I was afraid you would say no cannoli for me!

Was it the connoli?...the cannoli...?... Or the prospects of some canoodling?

I'll admit, the first time I read the header of this thread, I was tempted to respond as follows:

"How does a MFM or FMF really work?... Well, Billy, when a man and a woman love each other...I mean, really love each other...they..."

Kinda like Saturday morning Schoolhouse Rock... I'm just a bill. Yes, I'm only a bill...

BT

It's nice that I'm appreciated in AZ.

well, you just KNOW the thread will liven up once BT shows up! LOL

Gotta love an Italian guy who can't spell cannoli ;-)

BT

While I agree, we all enjoy what we enjoy, I would point out the fact that most couples are looking for couples and UNICORNS and that "singles we'll find you" pretty much dominates the profile ads for a reason.

Got to love a good Cannoli.

Welcome to the forums Allaboutyou.

I agree wholeheartedly, not all of us are crepes.

BT

...Some of us are connoli...