Going out behind my back

I assume that you heard this news from your girlfriend. If true none involved can be trusted and definitely aren't your friends. In my opinion, block them and move on.

"hotluvrs" has a good answer.

I believe you should discuss this with your girl and if she sides with you on this, then I'd blow the thing wide open by confronting this couple (your so-called "friends") and explain to them in no uncertain words, what contemptuous rats they are. I would also confront the single guy and tell him to stay away from you and your girl. Your girl will have to support you here and understand that she has a decision to make regarding all this....that being that its you or them.

You already know all this, right?

Oh yes, blocking......I wouldn't block anyone. I believe it to be an adolescent practice (period!) and at the same time, I would NEVER answer any attempts on the part of these people to contact you....ever. For any reason.

SLO

So let me get this straight, there is a male/female couple, and also there is a single male, and both of them are trying to get your girlfriend to come play as the fourth person. They have not contacted you to inform you, or to include you in the action.

If that is true, I would ask them directly what’s happening. No need to be rude, but you do need to be straight forward to avoid, as MsMolly says, any confusion and misunderstanding.

Question: what does your girlfriend have to say about all this? What was her reaction to being contacted directly by them?

Sleazy! If a guy wants to see my wife on one he should approach both of us, if we are ok with him then she can decide where she wants to go from there. No cheating, no secrets.

They are not already blocked? I mean seriously unless you two have said you swing separately you are a package deal. No one should even suggest she go do something without you much less actually ask her to. Of course one kind of occasionally expects this from the single male (sometimes it is far to frequent) but what really is a problem is the couple. As I understand it she (your girlfriend) is being asked to do something behind the back of the other guys wife as well as you. Now I could be wrong and the couple asked her as a unit but that is still not appropriate. Honestly they are asking her to cheat on you and that is not swinging.

What else have they been lying about? What else will they do that's shady ? Cut bait and block them. Dont look back

I always like to investigate things like that, because there's often a misunderstanding, but if your girlfriend is being asked to play solo, then whoever is doing so should probably be blocked.

Sneaking around and trying to get people to have sex behind their partner's back is not for the Lifestyle! That's for the OFFICE! lol.

If they're truly trying to get your partner do something without your knowledge I don't blame you for being angry.

I have a couple who I have known for years and a new single Male trying to get my girlfriend to go out with them behind my back and the guys wife too. I think I have lost all respect for both because of them doing it behind my back.
The question is I'm I over reacting or block both of them