Thank you for all the responses! This is the wife :) I have been talking to her for a little and we both agree we are nervous. She has experience, but we know each other from the past which could be why we are so nervous haha. We agreed on a show and dinner for us all and we will take it from there.
Thanks for all the great advice!
We agree with One.. For "us" we meet in a place where she feels comfortable, tell her to pick it, we usually have several suggestions of a local nice quiet restaurant or bar. We always dress to impress along with hygiene.. (I know its a gimme).. but so many we have met do not do this.. and cologne / perfume is a must. We are both out going so we can talk about most anything but do not talk about politics or religion..
Laughter works wonders but be sensitive to everyone first time jitters even in bed..even with couples.
Be yourself, respectful, and attentive to her needs . Compliments work wonders..and well you will know pretty quickly if all have a connection
For "us" we always have our home ready for our return, clean home , fresh sheets, smells nice , nice music or whatever they like, lights down low, some light appetizers, clean fresh towels for her.. etc etc.. if it works great if not its a great night with your wife!.
One last thing .. we hope it does work out... but never be afraid or shy "we dont think we are a match" if it is not!
Have Fun and Enjoy!
Well the most important thing if you are primarily looking forward to the FF play is that the ladies have a good connection. I would certainly meet in a place where you could chat for awhile and let the wife lead the discussion. See how that goes and take it from there. Obviously the lady you're meeting has some interest also. Good luck!
A lot depends on if it is the girls first time as well, I take it, it is not...If all 3 are new it will be awkward, keep things fun, slow and kinda playful and see how the wife/girlfriend is doing with it all, she will be most likely the most cautious. DO NOT HAVE HER FEEL SHE IS BEING LEFT OUT OR BEING THE THIRD WHEEL...
Are you planning on meeting for a meal ahead of time or just a drink? Either way, plan on paying for it as if it's just a regular date and you're hoping to get lucky later. The rest of it is also like a regular date, where you try to keep the conversation going by finding topics of interest. Ask her why she's in the lifestyle as part of that. If you're feeling awkward and unsure, say so. If you think she's pretty, say so (it might come better from another woman, but compliments that aren't skeevy are always nice). At some point, you're all three going to have to agree to take your clothes off, so saying you're interested in doing so and wondering if she is as well takes care of that.
Does this help and if not, what all concerns you?
