First MFM ever Any Advice from experienced mfmers

The way I kicked off our first mfm was a couple lunches to get her comfortable with his personality. When we got to the hotel, I asked him if he liked the top she had on and invited him to feel the material over her breast. When she started responding to that we reached under to touch her bare then I led by raising the top some to suck her nipples an he followed. She started getting turned on and raised her arms signaling to take the top off. It progressed to undressing then I put her hand on his hard cock and him rubbing her pussy and nature took over

Thanks everyone.
I assumed a threesome was the same as one on, if they don't say what they want you try something and see if they like it. Eventually you figure what to do and not to do .

YM - "But I have had one on one sex where the woman wanted me in charge and use her anyway I wanted."

I have come across this a lot with women I have played with before. It is usually because they trust that I am doing everything in my power to make sure that they have a good time, and it is kind of their way of showing they want to do the same. It's 2 people giving instead of one or both taking.

The same could happen in first time play, either because the woman is a giver by nature and that is part of how she gets off, and/or I've already satisfied her and she wants to make sure I'm well taken care of too.

YMichael I would have to say if the woman wanted to be treated the way you described then that was her getting satisfaction from the sex play. Different strokes for different folks!

You will find out that couples have different kinks when swinging....Some women are submissive, some are more Dom.. The hubby may want to be a cuck some are very straight and want to see wife fucked hard ect...

"Doesn't that ever happen in a threesome ?"

Sure. Because we're all different. But if someone doesn't tell you that's exactly what she wants - and it still is about pleasing her, no matter how bossy boots you get about the details - then it's about pleasing her in more conventional ways.

Everyone who has had threesomes is very helpful with thier advice, but I am confused on something.
Everyone is talking abut the SM making sure he pleases the woman and the purpose of the threesome is to please the woman .
But I have had one on one sex where the woman wanted me in charge and use her anyway I wanted. She got off on feeling helpless or just didn't want to decide what to do next. In other words, if I wanted her to suck my cock she wanted me to tell her to do it, she didn't want to do it on her own .
Doesn't that ever happen in a threesome ?
The woman just wants to be used and not given a choice?
Not that I have a problem with pleasing a woman, I love doing that.

The Eiffel Tower.
The things you can learn here.

Mashancy - "My wife says it’s incredibly sexual! Made her scream!"

Under the circumstances, I'm guessing it was a muffled scream ;-) Pardon my bluntness, but there are few sounds sexier than the vocals made by a woman with a mouth full of cock. That is no doubt part of the appeal of an mfm. With something like the Eiffel Tower happening, the Mrs would be making these incredibly sexy (to me anyway) "glug, glug, glug" sounds.

It's really hot when you have a good idea of what is going on from just the sounds that the Mrs is making. Like I suspect of most husbands, I can easily pick my wife's happy sounds out of a crowd, even from a couple rooms away.

While this would likely apply more to a first timer guy at a party than say, a newbie couple, some of our mfm's don't directly involve me as one of the "m's". The absolute hottest is seeing/hearing the Mrs do an mfm(m...) while I'm playing with another girl. You can easily tell from our smiles that we are both having a good time.

Hubby always has the other guy help him lube my pussy up with coconut oil. Once I'm all wet and super slippery it's on. Love DVP also.

Awesome!! Thanks for the info!! Appreciate it!!

Yeah Mayhem, that sounds tough on the old back.

The Eiffel Tower: The woman on hands and knees, one guy’s cock in her mouth, one in her pussy from behind. The guys lock hands and use that connection to exert extra force and frequency of thrusts from in front and behind, My wife says it’s incredibly sexual! Made her scream!

Anybody else have great moments like that in an MFM?

I was thinking it was going to be a DP where a guy standing holds the girl up while in her pussy and another guy enters her ass from behind. It's one of the Mrs favorite porn positions. Of course on the porn clips, the girl is all of 120 lbs soaking wet ;-)

Exactly KandD... Exactly Our Favorite Always!!!!

Think spit roast with a high five

Mash- can you or anyone for that matter, explain “the Eiffel Tower’?? Sounds very interesting…,,

I know there are selfish guys out there but so far the guys we have engaged with have all been very conscious of what their role should be and the SM in our MFM went out of his way to ensure my wife had a great time which made it great for me as well. He taught us the Eiffel Tower which drove her crazy and had the further effect of driving us all crazy. I’d really like to hear the good experiences people have had with SM’s in their MFMs.

Y, just be relaxed, pleasant, they want a hard cock so hope you can provide that...Mary Jo

Y, same here, I was having sex with an older divorced woman and asked her something about cum, she responded that she never saw it cum out of the cock, her ex always came in her pussy..

You need to read the room, understand who is in charge (it most likely will not be you) go with the flow and deliver!

I think swinging has the same problem with guys that everybody else does.
Few guys realize it is usually very easy for the guy to get off but it can take a lot of work to get the woman off .
I will never forget the first time I had sex with a new girlfriend. She was 42, was married for 20 years. Had 3 kids. Had several boyfriends before me . All I did was roll her onto her side and she freaked. After she called down I learned the only position she had ever been in was on her back. No guy had ever changed positions before.
Talk about putting no effort into it.

I can't believe anyone would expect one on one if a couple invites you.
If just the woman contacted me and never mentioned that I would be the third, I could understand the confusion.

So everyone's advice on what not to is basically, Don't be a jerk.
I thought you were all going to come up with some weird things I had never thought of.

I know one thing we do not like is when we are in the MFM, and the guy talked a big game then he just has sex, like Hes with his wife of 25 yrs. boring and not willing to put nothing into it. We will not invite back when this happens. That is what we are talking about when we think a lot of guys think it is just a date and do not know what swinging is. We do meet a few SMs and more in more seem to not care about the swinging and are homophobic. They tell us they thought it was going to be one on one and they cannot perform in front of another guy. So, make sure you can perform in front of another it makes the MFM experience way better...

Hmm Make sure "Hubby is in charge"... Not happening with "US".. as we both love giving, receiving and know what each one wants and craves ( both of us)... that is what has made our 40 year marriage work always !

For "us" it is a loving communication fun partnership!